Anyone else starting to TTC in June?

posted 3 months ago in TTC
Post # 121
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

mrsbrizz2017 :  I don’t think it’s crazy at all, I think it’s really sweet – and if you have the money/determination to make it work, I’m sure it’ll be fine! FWIW, my mum had my youngest sister at 40 – she said it was hard but was more than worth it. At 35, you’ve still got plenty of time!!

Post # 122
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

😂 Omg… turning into a crazy TTCer or what!? I’m reading a psychology journal article with lots of graphs on one page and I totally just automatically thought “BBT chart” bahahaha.

Post # 123
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Helper bee

Happy update on my unsure-if-we-should-TTC dilemma: We have decided to try right away!  We sat down and had a talk about what was worrying us and decided we were about 90% sure we wanted to start trying on our honeymoon (the wedding is only 18 days away, eek!) but then we had pre-marital counseling last night.  Mind you, our pastor is also FH’s uncle so our version of pre-marital counseling is going over to Aunt and Uncle’s house, having a yummy home-cooked meal, and talking about whatever comes up. I could tell that Aunt was bursting at the seams and had been waiting to ask, because when we sat down the first thing out of her mouth was “so when do you guys plan to try for a baby?” lol!  We both laughed and played it off, but then Aunt and Uncle both started asking questions and got us really thinking about what our reasonings were for waiting.  

1. We would like a bigger house – so does everyone else.  People have raised children in small houses for centuries. Also, our house is almost paid off and it makes sense for us to stay in it until then (approx. 4 more years)

2. We are scared we will regret giving up our “party years” – I’m honestly not even sure why this is an issue for us….We are both almost 30, we don’t drink much and are regularly the couple that goes home LONG before anyone else does. I think this is just grasping at straws for us because we are scared/nervous.

3. We travel a lot and that will have to slow down -OK, this one is actually a legitimate concern, but to me travel < family. I’m to the point where I am way more excited about taking my future kids to Disneyland than I am spending 2 weeks backpacking through Thailand.

It was such an open and honest conversation and really got us thinking about our priorities.  Aunt and Uncle are very open people and helped us see things from a mostly non-biased point of view.  Yes, they are incredibly excited about us having kids but they are also the couple in our life that I respect the most when it comes to marriage, kids, finances, etc. 

We left their house sure that we wanted to try right away after the wedding.  The best part was crawling into bed last night and FH sheepishly asking me if I wanted to NTNP until the wedding 🙂

YAY! I can “officially” join ya’ll as a JUNE TTC’er!

Post # 124
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

hawkeyebride2be :  Welcome to the club! It’s so close now!!

DH and I are also a little concerned about giving up our social lifestyle. We aren’t huge partiers or drinkers, but no one else in our little tight knit group (consisting mainly of my BFF, her long-time boyfriend and two other close friends) has kids or is even close to TTC. I’m worried I’m going to lose my BFF because she’s not really a baby person. On the upside, we do have friends with kids (DH’s best friend has 2 – but he’s super busy with running his own business so we don’t see him a whole lot) and I’m sure we’ll start spending a lot more time with them. I am determined that having a baby won’t turn us into hermits lol and I think we’ll be able to pull it off.

Post # 126
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Newbee

Hi all!

Just thought I’d pop in here and say my partner and I will be TTC from June too! It is incredibly exciting – we’ve just gone through information sessions regarding adoption and permanent care (I won’t blame you for not knowing about permanent care – it’s very specific here for the state I live in for Australia), as well as foster care however we can’t progress with adoption/PC yet due to regulations on how long you have to live together prior.

So we’re both in our late 20s – I will be 29 this year and he will be 28. We both want to have kids and we don’t mind how, but we’ve made the decision to try naturally 😀 Over the last week we have only commenced the prenatal vitamins, so we’re waiting until we have been taking them for a month and also after we return from our holiday.

We’re both ready, but also so very nervous. We’re kind of weird, because we picked up a brilliant second hand convertable cot and change table (it was a great deal, OK?!), but at least we’ll be prepared come baby time.

Anyway, how is everyone else’s journey going?! I am looking forward to sharing this time with you all <3

Post # 127
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Helper bee

garnobella :  Guys are so funny….after that first night NTNP he instantly giggled and said “we might have just made little Shamus”…

1. Shamus is an inside joke for us, lol, because we are going on our honeymoon in Ireland so he calls our future children Shamus because it sounds like an obnoxiously Irish name.  NO, we will not actually be naming a child that.

2. It’s kind of cute at this point that he has no idea how baby-making works for the most part, haha!  I told him before hand that there was very little chance of getting pregnant as I was CD5 but he is convinced that his guys did the job hahaha..

Post # 129
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

munchkin1917 :  Hello fellow Aussie bee! What state are you in? DH and I are in Victoria smile I love that you’ve looked into adoption and PC – adoption is something I would definitely be interested in but getting DH on board is a little harder. I think the whole thing just makes him nervous.

Post # 130
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Newbee

JessieFay13 :  Hi there! We’re in Victoria too! Nice to find a local.

The process for adoption is a long one, and even after you’re “registered”, you could be waiting years to be matched with a bubs. Hubby may be interested in attending an info session – they are incredibly informative and at that stage it’s non-committal; you can opt to walk away with the paperwork or you can choose not to and come back to it later on. The DHS has good info on their website and you can call up to register for a training day; there’s a waiting list for that too and you may have one that comes up on the other side of the state. Both partners need to attend too.

 

Nice meeting you, fellow Victorian!

Post # 131
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Another fellow Victorian bee here! 

Funny there are 3 of us in this thread!

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