Post # 1
We’ve got a fairly short engagement, from Feb to October, and I feel like I’m pretty on par where we should be as far as planing goes. However, so far I’ve thought it’s mostly been an easy process. I thought I’d be that bride that wantd everything perfect, and while I want a great special day, I’m surprised how much I DONT CARE about the little details. It almost has me worried when I read how stressed other brides are, like they’re planning something I don’t know about! Any other brides feelt this way?
Post # 3
Completely! We didn’t start planning until April, and I’ve been so busy with work and other things, I haven’t exactly “made up for lost time,” There is still a mountain of tasks / decisions to deal with. In school (not that long ago), I was the most organized person. I had a color coordinated binder / notebook for every class; was OCD about printing all notes, related assignments, etc and organized them by tabs; had two shoeboxes full of index cards (most with typed labels) I made as flashcards for certain classes.
So you’d think I’d be all over this, and everything would be under control!
Maybe it’s just two big of a project for me (I joked that I’d plan the shower just fine and my BMs can plan my wedding), but que, sera, sera. The most important thing to me is everyone being together and sharing in the day and celebration. It helps that I have a beautiful venue that doesn’t need “much work” to be pretty, but who cares if I’ve personalized the centerpieces? I do want to concentrate on making the ceremony itself perfect, but I’m getting very lax on the reception bit and I feel it’s going to turn out wonderful just the same.
Post # 4
I didn’t stress out about it either and people would get stressed out on my behalf about the little details. I knew what I wanted, I got what I wanted and it was as simple as that. I never got the whole stressed-out bride thing. The only time I stressed a bit was the week before and only because everything hit at once but even that wasnt that bad. I just had my phone and email blow-up for a bit.
You probably aren’t missing anything. Now go get a pedicure for yourself and relax 🙂
Post # 5
…another quick note that seemed to help: I had a mother and a MIL that would literally find all these little ideas and throw them out to me. I didn’t realize it at the time but this was their not-so-subtle-hint of “I want a project to do for the wedding.” If you hear someone mention that they have a great idea for a little detail and you arent too fussed about them anyway, give it to them to do if thats what they seem to want to do. My In-laws made quite a bit for our wedding and they turned out grand and saved me the headache of doing them myself!
Post # 6
Oh I know the feeling! We’re eloping to Jamaica (no guests) so we’re literally getting our wedding attire on, getting married, taking pics then going to the water park. I’m not bothered about small details as long as I get to marry my awesome other half 😀
Post # 7
I didn’t start stressing until the week of! Before I was too busy with work and being a full-time student to really have time to focus on much else. When people would ask me if I was panicking to get everything done, I was just like “Nah, it’ll all be okay.”
Post # 8
I am also not stressing 🙂
Post # 9
I am also not stressed/ don’t care. Everything is booked there’s not much I can do now until the day gets closer. Only thing I will probably stress about is paying for it all! I seriously don’t know how how some women get all bridezilla it would have to be if you had a short engagement I think!
Post # 10
I, too, have not felt stressed during the wedding planning process. FI and I have been pretty lucky to be able to plan the details of our day without strong opposing opinions from our families. Now that we’re just under 3 months away from the wedding I’m starting to worry that I may have forgotten some detail that I may come to regret later on!
Post # 11
I’m not stressed at all either. We’re planning a pretty intimate and casual wedding, as well as cutting a lot of typical wedding traditions… so planning has been easier overall because of that.
I think my biggest fear is running around like an idiot doing last minute or forgotten details in the week before — I’m trying to avoid that at all costs. While I understand that there are things that I will be doing in the final days before, if there is no good reason to wait to do something I’m trying to take care of it now. I don’t want to fall into the “you don’t need to worry about that yet” trap… time just goes by way too fast.
So this summer I’ve been trying to focus on at least one detail a week to get done… details like my own vows (done! check!!), ordering our handkerchief napkins (check!), my “Mrs Lastname” hanger (done!), guest book (done by my mom!), getting the centerpieces finished and ready to go (in the middle of that), table runners, ordering our cake server/knife, writing letters to FI, my parents, and other important people to give to them the day of when we are getting ready, parent gifts, assembling welcome bags, writing my toast/speech for dinner, gathering all of our childhood pictures that we are going to string up with clothes pins, and stuff.
And since I can tend to be a procrastinator, I’m playing a mental game with myself by pretending that my wedding is September 15th. In my mind, all my DIY details, gifts, and everything else needs to be boxed up and by the door ready to go before then. I figure that by that point in time (three weeks out) I will be in a different position to assess what I’m still missing and have time to deal with it with minimal stress.
Post # 12
@Equine_Breeder: We also got engaged in February. I had all my vendors booked by early May. I’ve worked on little things here and there. But this has mostly been a stress free time. I don’t understand all the crazy.
Post # 13
Yeah I really don’t either. I suppose if you’re doing a lot of DIY or you have a lot of guests but I have 110 and I still haven’t panicked yet. My to-do list is getting shorter slowly but surely and I know if I keep planning in spurts like I have been, it’ll all get done. THe only stressful thing is money but I’m just going to pay for the most important things first and accept that I just can’t afford the extra frills.
Post # 14
Definitely not stressing, even though our venue burnt down last month (we still are undecided about where our wedding is going to take place-hoping to nail that down this week), I haven’t sent out invitations since our location is not for sure, and I don’t even care. How bad is that?! I keep saying, I’ll put on my fancy dress and go to the courthouse! 😉