Post # 1
I had a very unexpected “jealousy” moment today. One of my bridesmaids told me that she had been on the phone chatting with my Maid/Matron of Honor yesterday (prior to my engagement they had never met) and I was like “WHY?” It turned out they were talking about my bachelorette party, but I was shocked that I was instantly jealous of them developing a friendship. I know it’s silly and childish, and I immediately called my Bridesmaid or Best Man back and apologized for sounding so obnoxious. Obviously, it triggered something in me that I need to work through.
Anyone else struggle with “friend envy”?
Post # 3
@Sheepshead: I realized immediately what I had done and called my Bridesmaid or Best Man to apologize. She said it was all good and not to worry about it. I’m still not quite sure what triggered it, but it’s definitely something to be aware of.
Post # 4
I was really upset when my (ex) best friend invited my ex boyfriend to her birthday party. I wasn’t 21 and couldn’t go, and we’d broken up a couple months before. She’d always talked about how annoying he was, but she still invited him to her birthday without telling me. I had to find out by seeing the 200 photos on facebook. That was mostly because he was my ex boyfriend, and was enough for me to just stop being friends with her (although she also dirty danced with him when her boyfriend went home which I think was just shady).
My jealousy at that situation annoys me because it wasn’t necessary. I think it just takes a little bit to deal with friends becoming friends when we don’t expect it haha. And initially it makes you feel kind of left out. I’m glad everything worked out : )
Post # 5
I’ve never been jealous of any of my friends or my Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man becoming friends because it’s never happened. In fact my Maid/Matron of Honor and BM only met each other a few days before the wedding. I learned from both of them several weeks later that they didn’t like each other and listed why> Oh, great!! It’s ok because they never have to set eyes on each other again.
But if they did I can totally see me being jealous. I know I have no “ownership” over them and they can be friends with who ever they want. Even though there is no “ownership” I’d like to think I have friendship rights to them. Maybe I’m afraid they would become close, exclude me and thats why my jealousy would show.