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There were a couple people I was surprised at the RSVP'd no but other than that the other "no's" didnt really bother me. But that was probably because we expected certain people to not be able to make it. I think 9 no's and 86's yes's are a great ratio of people coming :)
Yeah - we had a couple of "no's" that surprised us. I'm more shocked by the shear number of "no's" though - we're past the RSVP deadline and are calling the last straglers but we only have about a 60% yes rate. 
I think there will be surprises for sure.
Maybe it's just me, but if I can't attend, I tell the B&G before they get the dud RSVP. Cushion the blow a bit.
I think because the no's I received today are from people that I will actually be seing tonight, so they are not people that I don't see often. But I know not everyone can make it and we were hoping for some no's. I just wasn't expecting it to bother me and I didn't know if anyone else was a little upset when they received their no's.
For the most part "no" responses haven't bothered me because they were expected, however there were some that I thought for sure would be "yes" and I was pretty disappointed when I received the RSVP. I think we're also around a 60% accept rate. :-\
The first unexpected "no" was difficult, I totally agree!
Many of my good friends (from around the country) who I expected would come have said no due to the economy, loss of a job, summer vacation family commitments, children (who are invited, BTW), and one girl even admitted that she had cancer and hadn't told anyone outside her immediate family about her medical condition. That one was a total shocker! So overall, I can understand many of their reasons, but it still hurts that so many of the girls I went to college with can't make it.
We're at 50% no's and 50% yes's. Not what I was expecting - the only good side of this situation is that our costs have gone down for catering, rentals (less tables and chairs), flowers, etc. Not a lot, but a little.
Yes, we were suprised and shocked by a lot of our "No" RSVP's. And surprisingly we had a TON of people, like around 40 or 50 who wouldn't respond to the invitation, phone calls, emails etc. and really we had no idea if they were coming or not! There were a lot of people who gave a courtousy call before sending the NO RSVP which was so nice that now I will always do that myself.
@beginningtofly: and @Stesse: At least I'm not the only one with such a low percentage of "Yes" replies!
Thanks girls, FI thinks I'm crazy LOl so it's good to know I'm not alone. I just think it will be awkward to see these people after they declined my wedding invite.
On the upside I have had people who I sent a courtesy invites to who are coming. A couple of cousins live further away so I didn't think they would be able to make it, but they are coming.
@FutureKMM- Like Stesse pointed out, it's a money saver ;)
I think I just assumed that the people who came to my shower would come to my wedding. We have 80% at the shower, so we will have to wait and see about the wedding.
Most of our "no's" were expected, but we had a couple that surprised us. My fiance took those really hard. I was kind of upset too, but I figure not everyone is going to be able to make it to our wedding. It's at least a 5 hour drive and a night in a hotel room for almost all of our guests, and some people just won't be able to do that... even for us!
I can sympathize. Two of our no's really stunned me (my Godmother and my sister). I cried for a long time over each of those.
We got two really surprising no's yesterday, both on FI's side. Understandibly it's a 3-4 hour flight for these guests but we still had no idea, and family members still don't know why they're not coming. Luckily he's much better at saying, there will be plenty of people there to share the day with us. I'm still nervous for the first surprise no from my side...so far it's 100% yes.
I think my sister (whose wedding is in a few weeks) was really shocked by how many of our family members (aunts/uncles/cousins) are not attending her wedding that is a 2 hour drive away. I'm having my wedding a plane flight away, so at least I can metally prepare myself for those people to be "nos" to my wedding. I guess my piece of advice is to just focus on the people who WILL be there to celebrate with you! :)
We actually had more surprise "yes" answers than surprise "no," but it does seem like most of the people we knew would be on the fence ended up saying no. Some of my favorite relatives and one of my best friends from college won't be there, and that is really sad, but it wasn't a big surprise.
Our RSVPs have come in with about 45% saying yes. We expected a few more and not very many people are bringing dates, so we're actually coming in around 100, though we thought it would be 120. The wedding is a semi-destination affair requiring everyone to drive about 4 hours, and many are flying then driving.
i was overly sensitive about "nos" too! even the ones we expected. but luckily the sad feeling goes away after a while! :)
we just got our first "no" and FI was feeling surprisingly sensitive about it! it was his grandparents, so i can kind of understand, but we knew they woulnd't attend (too old and far). i think it's the lack of personalization, so formal "must decline" from someone close -- it's a little jarring, totally
We have 286 confirmed (on our website & fb) 19 no's and 70 no responses. Now, I'm hoping the no responses don't show, coz we have a minimum 300 dinner count!
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I think I'm just very tired an emotional lately. But I was just wondering if anyone else was a little bothered when they opened their "no" rsvps? I know not everyone can come but I feel like whenever I get a no card, I freeze up for a minute.
We so far have 9 no's and 86 yes's, so I guess people are coming.