(Closed) Anyone else taken back by “no” rsvp’s?

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

There were a couple people I was surprised at the RSVP’d no but other than that the other “no’s” didnt really bother me.  But that was probably because we expected certain people to not be able to make it.  I think 9 no’s and 86’s yes’s are a great ratio of people coming 🙂

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Yeah – we had a couple of “no’s” that surprised us.  I’m more shocked by the shear number of “no’s” though – we’re past the RSVP deadline and are calling the last straglers but we only have about a 60% yes rate. Frown

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think there will be surprises for sure. 

Maybe it’s just me, but if I can’t attend, I tell the B&G before they get the dud RSVP.  Cushion the blow a bit.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

For the most part “no” responses haven’t bothered me because they were expected, however there were some that I thought for sure would be “yes” and I was pretty disappointed when I received the RSVP. I think we’re also around a 60% accept rate. :-

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

The first unexpected “no” was difficult, I totally agree!  

Many of my good friends (from around the country) who I expected would come have said no due to the economy, loss of a job, summer vacation family commitments, children (who are invited, BTW), and one girl even admitted that she had cancer and hadn’t told anyone outside her immediate family about her medical condition.  That one was a total shocker!  So overall, I can understand many of their reasons, but it still hurts that so many of the girls I went to college with can’t make it.  

We’re at 50% no’s and 50% yes’s.  Not what I was expecting – the only good side of this situation is that our costs have gone down for catering, rentals (less tables and chairs), flowers, etc.  Not a lot, but a little.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yes, we were suprised and shocked by a lot of our “No” RSVP’s. And surprisingly we had a TON of people, like around 40 or 50 who wouldn’t respond to the invitation, phone calls, emails etc. and really we had no idea if they were coming or not! There were a lot of people who gave a courtousy call before sending the NO RSVP which was so nice that now I will always do that myself.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@beginningtofly: and @Stesse: At least I’m not the only one with such a low percentage of “Yes” replies!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Most of our “no’s” were expected, but we had a couple that surprised us.  My fiance took those really hard.  I was kind of upset too, but I figure not everyone is going to be able to make it to our wedding.  It’s at least a 5 hour drive and a night in a hotel room for almost all of our guests, and some people just won’t be able to do that… even for us!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I can sympathize. Two of our no’s really stunned me (my Godmother and my sister). I cried for a long time over each of those.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We got two really surprising no’s yesterday, both on FI’s side. Understandibly it’s a 3-4 hour flight for these guests but we still had no idea, and family members still don’t know why they’re not coming. Luckily he’s much better at saying, there will be plenty of people there to share the day with us. I’m still nervous for the first surprise no from my side…so far it’s 100% yes.

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