Post # 1
My sister and all of my step siblings…have never gone the tradional route of becoming engaged, getting married and having kids… they have all had kids before marriage. And have had shot-gun weddings that took place at my parents house, ect. Granted they are all older than me, since I am the baby in the family. My mother is constantly on my case about having babies even though she knows that i will not do so until after I am married, and has admitted that she would prefer that I was married first. “Why do you have to be the only tradional one in the family?”
I am waiting….my sister just got married and the entire family kept asking me and my so when we were going to get married. His response was well after October we will not have an excuse anymore…my uncle is geting married than and I will offically become the only un-married one in the family.
Post # 3
Well my little sister is only 17 and the other is 6….so I’m not sure about them (trust me I hope the 17 year old is married first). Anyways, I live with my bf but I made him ask my father and everything lol. My other 2 siblings had kids first, and they still aren’t married, and my mom had my brother at 16 so her and my dad didn’t exactly go the “traditional” route.
Post # 4
DH and I are pretty normal on my side of the family, but on his we are definitely the traditional, conventional ones. He’s an only child but his cousins all had children out of wedlock/are married to people other than their children’s bio parent/always have dramas. They are lovely people but yes we feel very boring next to them!
Post # 4
I am the traditional one in my family. You know how most families have black sheeps? Well I’m the white sheep in a family full of black sheeps. My boyfriend is the blacksheep in a family full of white sheeps so it kinda smooths out.
I was just thinking a little while ago… There are girls everywhere that become engaged after just weeks of meeting a man. They are married a month later and their new lives begin… But those relationships hardly ever actually make it, it kind of gives me a greater appreciation for waiting.
The fact that you know when the question is asked and when you do become engaged makes it that much more real and honest. It’s my opinion that the longer you are together before and during the engagement the better your chances of getting married. He knows way more about you now then he did when you were only dating a couple months. Would your family prefer you become a single mother and divorced 5 years from now or to hold off and wait for the right man so it will last? I’d say the second one. So if they’re bugging you about getting married, just say “We have our whole lives together, I don’t feel there is a need to rush into it when I know we’ve got the rest of our lives to do it”
Just my opinion though… If it makes sense
Post # 5
@pinkgreenandyellow: yeah….almost all of their marriage have lasted and my sister has been dating her now husband for 10 years so I am not too concerned about that not lasting. my So and myself have been dating for 2.5 years so I am definatly not rushing into things nor in a huge rush…I want to have kids before or around 30 though and I’ll be 28 in a few months.