Anyone else think these Boards can be emotionally tasking?

posted 3 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
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9226 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

I love Weddingbee. But I certainly find it emotionally draining! I am one of the overly sensitive, somewhat argumentative ones, and so I get very involved in threads! I honestly don’t go out much, besides with FI so the boards have become an outlet for me.

Post # 4
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4072 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I don’t find it emotionally taxing.

I don’t even see THAT much fighting. Disagreements? Oh yes. But it’s usually done in a respectful manner. It’s only the few and far between threads that have true rude fights. Just avoid those.

It can be difficult for some to recognize when someone is simply disagreeing and when someone is fighting with her. You may be one of those people. Give others the benefit of the doubt and assume the tone is much kinder, or else don’t engage those people in conversation.

Post # 5
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2052 posts
Buzzing bee

@raziel1687:  Personally, I don’t find it too much.

When people write things that bother me, I just skip over the debates lol.

I love weddingbee because it gives me a safe place to get out my frustrations and also share my joys without seeming like I’m putting my business out there all the time with my coworkers/friends/family.

But I’ve never been flagged or moderated haha.

Post # 6
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615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

the internet is rude. doesn’t matter if its weddingbee. rules of the internet, there are none.

Post # 7
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2355 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Emotionally taxing? No. Full of BSC, foolishness, and millenial thinking? Yes.

Post # 8
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2052 posts
Buzzing bee

@veryberry13:  I’ll also add this-when I post things, sometimes I hear things I don’t want to hear.  But I’ve found that to be the most helpful in my experience as far as getting over crap that I’m possibly being a brat about lol.  

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@raziel1687:  I think it depends on how much Internet Bulletin Board / Discussion Forum experience you have.

I have been on the Internet in some way since the 1980s, and Bulletin Boards / Discussions Forums since the mid 1990s… it is what it is.

WBee really isn’t any different from any other Board / Forum I’ve been a member of.

Mind you, I do think that the world is becoming more “in your face” less polite over time…  so ya things in that regard have changed a lot since 1995

People will always have other opinions different from your own… that is both what is GREAT and NOT SO GREAT about the Internet

It is sort of like Real Life on Steroids… you are not going to get along with everyone you meet

Then there is the “written” element, that makes the written word harder to interpret than seeing / being with someone in person, where one can see facial expressions and hear verbal inflections, tone etc.

Don’t know what else to say…

Grow a thicker skin… or find a way to let things just slide off your back… it really isn’t personal… it is just a bunch of people hanging out on the Internet.

Take what you want, and leave the rest.

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Weddingbee is by far one of the most polite forums I’ve ever been on. Heck, the moderators shut down/censor the craziest stuff. 

I don’t think WB is any worse than real life…some people have different opinions and will argue with you. I try not to start stuff with people, both IRL and on WB, but sometimes stuff happens. Try not to let it get to you! I know it’s hard brushing things off when you are emotional, but try to focus on all of the nice things that are said on this site. I think the niceness far outweighs the “bullying.”

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

It’s the internet.  People will express themselves more freely and bluntly when they’re not facing a person.  That’s simply how the internet is – if you find Weddingbee so upsetting, then perhaps you should look for something that aligns more with your views?

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@raziel1687:  Compared to almost anywhere else on the internet, I find it pretty good, and most debates are pretty respectful. There are a few hot button topics I avoid though 🙂

If you think someone is criticising your beliefs for the sake of criticism, that is against the terms of service and you can report them. See the first point (point i) in   http://www.weddingbee.com/comment-policy/#axzz2ixjjoMGy 

Post # 13
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7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Sometimes, sure. I find this site is one of the nicest communities I’ve seen on the internet, though.

If anything, the #1 thing that annoys me about this site is how everything has to be sugar-coated and people flip out if you’re direct. Threads get shut down fast… that is probably a good thing, though (even though I love to get the imaginary popcorn out on some threads).

Post # 14
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1249 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@raziel1687:  I can totally relate to you. I respectfully disagree with Bees who say to toughen up. That isn’t always possible. I think it is sad that people can hide behind the glow of his/her monitor and say whatever comes to mind, ESPECIALLY when it would never be said face to face.

Post # 15
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498 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I actually think i was one who commented on something u said a couple days ago..but it wasnt meant to cause an arguement…thats y i had to comment back and say that u were right and u have the right to your own opinions…i dont like confontation so if i am one of those who made u upset i do aologize and i didnt mean to at all…i hope u dont leave the bee…theres a lot to gain from here

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