Post # 1
I was hoping to be on these forums to relate to other women getting married and to help with my wedding planning, but I find people here like to argue a lot. I bet this thread will start someone arguing with me. “Oh, well don’t be on these boards then if you don’t like it….”
I find a lot of women on here to be very argumentative, easily offended, and very self-righteous. When I offer my opinion to somebody’s thread, there is always someone there to try to argue with me, to try to start a fight with me. Why do I need to back my opinion You’re not going to change it, I’m not going to change yours, so why even argue about it? If I see someone’s opinion who vastly differs from mine, unless they’re already trying to debate me, I don’t try to start debates with them? Why would you do that?
The other day some of you women were really making me feel depressed for my beliefs and I literally was crying!!! A bunch of bullies trying to beat up on me! I’m very sensitive, though I do have pretty strong opinions, but I don’t like arguing with people, but then I feel like I have defend myself……
Anyone else feel like this? If it continues to be too much, I probably won’t come back to these forums…
Post # 3
I love Weddingbee. But I certainly find it emotionally draining! I am one of the overly sensitive, somewhat argumentative ones, and so I get very involved in threads! I honestly don’t go out much, besides with FI so the boards have become an outlet for me.
Post # 4
I don’t find it emotionally taxing.
I don’t even see THAT much fighting. Disagreements? Oh yes. But it’s usually done in a respectful manner. It’s only the few and far between threads that have true rude fights. Just avoid those.
It can be difficult for some to recognize when someone is simply disagreeing and when someone is fighting with her. You may be one of those people. Give others the benefit of the doubt and assume the tone is much kinder, or else don’t engage those people in conversation.
Post # 5
@raziel1687: Personally, I don’t find it too much.
When people write things that bother me, I just skip over the debates lol.
I love weddingbee because it gives me a safe place to get out my frustrations and also share my joys without seeming like I’m putting my business out there all the time with my coworkers/friends/family.
But I’ve never been flagged or moderated haha.
Post # 6
the internet is rude. doesn’t matter if its weddingbee. rules of the internet, there are none.
Post # 7
Emotionally taxing? No. Full of BSC, foolishness, and millenial thinking? Yes.
Post # 8
@veryberry13: I’ll also add this-when I post things, sometimes I hear things I don’t want to hear. But I’ve found that to be the most helpful in my experience as far as getting over crap that I’m possibly being a brat about lol.
Post # 9
@raziel1687: I think it depends on how much Internet Bulletin Board / Discussion Forum experience you have.
I have been on the Internet in some way since the 1980s, and Bulletin Boards / Discussions Forums since the mid 1990s… it is what it is.
WBee really isn’t any different from any other Board / Forum I’ve been a member of.
Mind you, I do think that the world is becoming more “in your face” less polite over time… so ya things in that regard have changed a lot since 1995
People will always have other opinions different from your own… that is both what is GREAT and NOT SO GREAT about the Internet
It is sort of like Real Life on Steroids… you are not going to get along with everyone you meet
Then there is the “written” element, that makes the written word harder to interpret than seeing / being with someone in person, where one can see facial expressions and hear verbal inflections, tone etc.
Don’t know what else to say…
Grow a thicker skin… or find a way to let things just slide off your back… it really isn’t personal… it is just a bunch of people hanging out on the Internet.
Take what you want, and leave the rest.
Hope this helps,
Post # 10
Weddingbee is by far one of the most polite forums I’ve ever been on. Heck, the moderators shut down/censor the craziest stuff.
I don’t think WB is any worse than real life…some people have different opinions and will argue with you. I try not to start stuff with people, both IRL and on WB, but sometimes stuff happens. Try not to let it get to you! I know it’s hard brushing things off when you are emotional, but try to focus on all of the nice things that are said on this site. I think the niceness far outweighs the “bullying.”
Post # 11
It’s the internet. People will express themselves more freely and bluntly when they’re not facing a person. That’s simply how the internet is – if you find Weddingbee so upsetting, then perhaps you should look for something that aligns more with your views?
Post # 12
@raziel1687: Compared to almost anywhere else on the internet, I find it pretty good, and most debates are pretty respectful. There are a few hot button topics I avoid though 🙂
If you think someone is criticising your beliefs for the sake of criticism, that is against the terms of service and you can report them. See the first point (point i) in http://www.weddingbee.com/comment-policy/#axzz2ixjjoMGy
Post # 13
Sometimes, sure. I find this site is one of the nicest communities I’ve seen on the internet, though.
If anything, the #1 thing that annoys me about this site is how everything has to be sugar-coated and people flip out if you’re direct. Threads get shut down fast… that is probably a good thing, though (even though I love to get the imaginary popcorn out on some threads).
Post # 14
@raziel1687: I can totally relate to you. I respectfully disagree with Bees who say to toughen up. That isn’t always possible. I think it is sad that people can hide behind the glow of his/her monitor and say whatever comes to mind, ESPECIALLY when it would never be said face to face.
Post # 15
I actually think i was one who commented on something u said a couple days ago..but it wasnt meant to cause an arguement…thats y i had to comment back and say that u were right and u have the right to your own opinions…i dont like confontation so if i am one of those who made u upset i do aologize and i didnt mean to at all…i hope u dont leave the bee…theres a lot to gain from here
Post # 16
I’ve been on the internet since like 1995? And this has been one of the most vicious forums I’ve ever been on! Every comment I make on any thread, someone is trying to argue with me! It’s fine other people have different opinions, but why bother trying to argue with me about mine? What is going to be the end result? You’re not going to change my thinking or my opinion? Unless I ask you for your opinion, don’t bother trying to argue with me about mine…. And then tell me that my opinion is “WRONG” and that’s “The dumbest thing I ever read.” FTS!!!!