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I am pretty new to WeddingBee having joined in late September (it sounds like most have been here a couple years). I specifically joined because the "other site" seemed rather dramatic.
I realize people have said it is just a phase and these things have come and gone, but some of these posts are getting ridiculous!
I am wondering if anyone else is debating just picking up and moving on? They always say if you can't beat them join them, but that is certainly not an option for me. Why are all these people getting enjoyment out of upsetting other people!?
Oh well.. I guess you could call this a depressed vent..
yeah sometimes, but I'm too addicted to leave weddingbee. It is nice to take a break for a few days every once in awhile.
Yah I wouldn't blame ya... I do think things have gotten much better though, even in the past week!
I love this message board I really do. But I can't handle all of this craziness that has been going on lately I really can't. And like you it's only pushing me away from enjoying this place. I don't want to log in as much anymore simply because every time I do get on we are all up in arms again. That's just my two sense.
Seriously though...I don't know what I would do without you girls though.
I considered leaving like a month ago, but its really not that hard to just ignore it... Most days. Today was probably the most dramatic I've ever seen this place. I really do think this will die down, and you'll be happy to have a place to bounce ideas around or just vent (anonymously :)). I'm not leaving, but I get why you feel like you might want to. Maybe take a week off to see if the silly drama on a website really bothers you that much, and then you could ask for them to delete your account or not.
Honestly, I take what happened as something that all women do. Including myself. We're women, we're dramatic, and we let our emotions get the hold of ourselves, some more than others.
Since I've been here two really good bee's that I defended from attack left because they were upset that they weren't being treated well. It's really sad.
But personally, I love it here. Just learn to stay away from some bee's and take the insults for a grain of salt and move on.
I hope this didn't make you want to leave more ):
I think that WeddingBee is just as good as it always has been, and it's easy to avoid the drama. Don't give up!
I love weddingbee and have learnt so much from here.. i think you gotta learn to just ignore the drama threads and focus on the threads that do serve as inspiration for your wedding
It is a phase, like people have said. And if you avoid those posts about the "drama" then all is good! I have been to other sites and in the end, none can compare to this one. The community is irreplaceable. Right now we are just trying to make sure it stays that way.
I know what you mean. I just ignore those posts, and then I'm happy. It's usually obvious from the title or the initial post itself when it's going to be a drama-fest. If I don't read it, I'm not bothered!
I haven't been here that long (not quite as long as you, @Gilde37) but I'm not thinking of leaving. I enjoy the site. I like finding ideas here and getting support. Sure, it can be a huge time sink but I also come on here to relax.
And all the drama? I don't give a crap. It's a public board so some level of this is to be expected. I'm just thankful I don't have to moderate it! (Sorry, Mr. Bee) I'm choosing to concentrate on the parts of the site/forum I really enjoy, not all the drama-filled posts about banning, etc.
I'm not planning on leaving. I love the bee! I put on my big girl panties in the morning and ignore the stuff I don't like...
WB for me, is a place where I can obsess about wedding stuff, ask wedding questions, and just be WEDDING'ED OUT so that I can save family/friends/FI from having to hear nothing but wedding crap come out of my mouth.
It's where I go to ask questions that NO ONE outside of brides-to-be could really give a damn about (like my recent poll about whether a hem being 1/2" too short was noticeable, lol). I like watching people's movie premiers so that I can figure out if it's something I NEED to have. I like looking at pretty shoes, giving my opinions on topics I have experience in, and researching "proper etiquette."
When I log on to WB, I do a quick blog scan, and a quick board scan, then simply skip over topics that don't interest me. Is that so hard for some people to do?
Me either! I stay away from the drama and enjoy the other 90% of wedding bee :)
I am contemplating the same thing myself. I used to feel excited to share things with a group of women even though I didn't know them. I don't have many female friends in real life because I hate gossip and everything that goes with it. I am honest and upfront and like to surround myself with people who are the same, however there's a big difference in being honest and being mean. For instance someone saying "that dress isn't as flattering as i think one could be" vs "you look fat ugly" both maybe honest but one just not productive. Recently, I feel constantly judged and even though not attacked persay just no longer as friendly as it used to be. I had assumed some folks with Mr.Bee's post of the "Circle of Snark" that some of these girls would be gone, but I just checked and 3 out of the 5 that crossed my mind are still here. Ugh. It's probably time just to move on.
@Gilde37: I understand the frustration, but try to focus on the positive. There is a lot to be learned about wedding planning here, friends to make and support when you feel like you can't talk to anyone. I don't think I could pull off planning a wedding if I didn't find about this site. I'm also eternally grateful for meeting a wonderful Bee here who recommended a doctor to me for some health issues I've been battling for years. There IS a lot of good stuff here if you stick around. The unfortunate drama stems from those of use who have been here for a while and feel protective of the community, and feel hurt and uncomfortable over some things that happened recently.
You all have very good points. Up until tonight I have REALLY enjoyed all the advice and seeing all the dresses, diy's, blogs, etc.
I think it was just that I ended up reading about four posts in a row that were full of it and it started to bother me.
After all - we are planning one of the happiest days of our lives ladies!! ((And yes it is stressful sometimes and stress brings out the worst in people))
I've been on this site for years (I was an active "observer" for a while before I got engaged and became a member) and would never think of leaving. I love everything about weddingbee! This site has helped me more than words can express in simply being a safe outlet during such a huge changing point in my life.
It's gotten pretty dramatic recently and that has been odd to see, especially with the involvement of so many long-time/well-known bees. But I have faith that everything will be fine--there's always bumps in the road. I just try to avoid the drama at all costs--it's definitely not in my personality!
Why would I leave? I love the bee. I come here for inspiration and I love it. It's a bit nicer than I would like but what the hey right? And I've been posting about a month or so before you. Can you see my post count? And I've never been in on any drama. I doubt most bees know me. I keep my nose clean, enjoy the posts, log off and go to my real life.
@SweetRose2011: I would be so sad if you left :( I love your posts! and I am waiting to see all the lovely images of your wedding someday soon!
It does get a bit much, but I think it'll blow over soon- ultimately I think the good outweighs the bad here on the WB- especially because of the great people I have met (and continue to meet!) on here.
@Bellanouva: Oh I'm not going to leave any time soon. I just "take a break" when it gets to be too crazy here. And you are so sweet. I'm sorry I haven't talked to you in forever (I don't mean to thread jack!)
I was starting to feel like this was drama central...but then I went back to the main boards and remembered that the MAJORITY of the posts here have nothing to do with the drama and focus on people planning their weddings and navigating real life relationships. I think it's good to talk some of this out, but beyond a certain point I'm ready to back out of the few intense threads and focus on the more normal ones :-)
I have not been posting nearly as much in the past month or two as I used to, and I don't lurk as much either. I am disappointed that things are the way they are, and it is not so easy for me to ignore the cattyness.
But I keep hoping that things will go back to how they were before and I will feel comfortable posting again. Maybe things will turn around soon?
i honetly love this site waaay too much to leave! especially 2 months before my wedding! i have see lots of drama come and go since i have been here. at first it was highly entertaining. i never understood why people cared so much. for me, weddingbee is not "real life". i dont know any of these people personally. and i can as easily bond with someone new or someone whose name i recognize. the only thing i am doing differently is reading the drama threads less and less. like i have to be really bored to actually read all 7 pages or something.
Also, i LOVE getting opnions on various wedding related topics, i love getting ideas from other bees, and i love getting to share my excitement over every tiny little thing because i can't do that nearly as much with my non-egaged, real life friends. i have gotten some SERIOUS help for my wedding since coming here and there is absolutely no way i am going to leave that because some people like to get hyped up about stuff i don't care about. and if there are people talking about me or making fun of me on another site, i don't care. at first i was curious, but now i just don't care. it would probably bring me down, so what i don't know can't hurt me! besides THEY aren't invited to my wedding!!
yeah i'm outta here. I love all the wedding stuff but god forbid you disagree with someone they personally attack what they think your life is. take care all good luck wedding planning
Not planning on going anywhere...I still have a wedding to plan 
. I have enjoyed seeing bees get engaged, married, become bloggers, etc. Everyone was SO helpful when I was planning my sister's wedding. The drama kind of ebbs and flows...even though it seems to be flowing a little stronger these days. If people put the focus back on weddings things will bounce back eventually.
@JamaicaBride: i agree! plus even when the drama is going on, the other boads like dress, rings, flowers, decor, etc etc are still active, happy and helpful :)
oh hell no, I'm here to stay. Im not going to be snarked out.
There are some really awesome people here.
Yes, I am thinking about leaving. While you can avoid a lot of the drama by avoiding obvious posts, what you can't avoid (apparently) is insincere support and comments. Since advice and support is what brought me here in the first place and it appears as though those things are at many times tainted with untruth, what's the point? How will we ever know what's real and what's not? Like Okole Maluna, I needed a forum through which to contemplate all the various details that go into wedding planning but I'm not finding it a very constructive place to be at the moment. I'll probably lurk and comment on others' posts but never post an original topic seeking advice again.
I won't leave, I just tend to stick to specific boards rather than the main board.
No. I come here to post, have fun and ogle/get ideas from the eye candy (dresses, rings, shoes, wedding themes).
It's normal to get caught up in drama sometimes. Just say your peace and move on. Thread getting heated? Move on to another, or log off for awhile. I'll continue to chat here, but I'll probably be hesitant to ask for advice in any real way.
Don't leave! You can ignore all the drama. This will pass and things will get better, I'm sure :) I've only been a member for a few months so maybe I don't know what the hell I'm talking about, though. Here's hoping I'm right!
totally honestly--see my post count? i've been here for a really long time and never really been involved in any of the drama here, so it's totally possible to ignore. i'm sad about what's been happening lately, but i still love this place
@finnaroo: same here...high post count....very little drama.
No, I really love WB. The drama threads are easy to spot and avoid if one wishes to, and actually sometimes they entertain me on a slow day at the office:)
@JamaicaBride: haha yay i'm not alone! sometimes i feel a little left out--like, is everyone ignoring me and my comments if there's no drama toward me? but i know it's def a good thing!
Although I haven't been too active on the boards, I've been following WB for around 2 years. I try to ignore drama in general, but I feel like I don't always say what I'd like to say on many threads for fear of being jumped on for having a different view. I'm thinking of deleting my account because I think a lot of what is going on is a little to much like junior high for me, and I'd rather just move on. Still haven't decided because I really do enjoy reading a lot of what is on the site.
Yeah, I also have a high post count but try to stay out of the drama threads. I think my involvement has been minimal. I will admit, I love to rubberneck them though. Free entertainment.
I have no plans to leave. This will pass just like the other periods of drama have since Ive been here.
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