Post # 1
I know it’s petty. People are so wonderful and care enough to ask but I am just soooo tired of talking about the wedding.
I am not working right now so pretty much my whole life is consumed by wedding planning and working on my dissertation, –both overwhelming tasks that I am pretty much sick of at this point though both will take me somewhere wonderful! It’s just that people greet me with “hows the wedding planning” or “getting nervous yet?” instead of “hi” or “how are you?” I am so overwhelmed by it al and n, it’s not like most people are offering to help, they are just askin gto show interest in my life. I have on occasion told people “it’s fine, but I’m just so tired of thinking about the wedding right now, how are you doing?” Not sure if that’s being rude though?
Note, I am so in love with my fiance and cannot wait to be married. It’s just as you bees understand, this is crazy planning.
Post # 3
yup. and i still have a year to go!
i know it’s nice an all, and i would probably ask others the same because you mean well and know it’s a big part of their lives, but yes it gets so annoying! especially because it’s like, we were friends BEFORE this engagement, we don’t need to talk wedding all the time!
silly, but you’re not alone!
Post # 4
Honestly, I’m the opposite. I wish people would ask me about it more. But maybe it’s because I’ve been really conscious not to mention it too much during the engagement. I don’t want to bore people. But I wish people would ask me about it more. I get a bit put off when people don’t.
Post # 5
@HourThyme: YES, luckily I get married saturday so that will stop but I know the “when are you going to have babies” is gonna start up. It never ends…
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
@HourThyme: That and “have you set a date” – if I set one, you would definitely know by now, so why are you asking me? I’m getting super tired of my close friends constantly asking me this!!
Post # 7
I got tired of hearing it pretty quickly. I didn’t want to talk about planning at all–I wanted people to be surprised. And then there was DH’s SIL (who I can’t stand) who said to me, verbatim and four separate times, “HEY GIRLY!!!! I hear wedding planning is going great! It sounds like everything is really coming together!” which I found hilarious, seeing as I had not said anything to her about the wedding (or about anything at all) in the 18 months that we were engaged, nor did anyone else really know anything beyond “such and such is booked” or “such and such is paid for.”
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
Sometimes it gets to me because with certain people I don’t know what to tell them. Like when my dental hygienist asked, I just said it was going well and we had most of our big decisions done. She then asked me if my dress cost as much as those ones on “Say yes to the Dress”. That made me laugh a little because she really seemed to think that ALL wedding dresses must cost that much and she thought that was a little outrageous. I assured her in our area a lot of brides are getting dresses for under $1K.
Post # 9
people ask and i just tell them i’m done and ready, just waiting for the day…
i’ve had it pretty easy, no drama, the best BMs, a little momzilla-y mother but nothing i couldn’t handle.
Post # 10
@HourThyme: completely there with you. I don’t mind talking about the wedding with some people but I find a lot of people ask jus tot give unsolicited advice and I can’t be bothered with it.
I usually just say ‘it’s coming’ and change the subject.
Post # 11
@MrsGatito: +1 nobody seems to give a crap about my wedding planning. I’d enjoy more interest if there were any.
Post # 12
I’m stressed about the planning these days, so that question stresses me out. But really, most people who ask me that are just being polite. They don’t have a strong desire to hear the details. So I tell them that the planning is going well and we move on to another topic.
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church
I’ve been tired of it since we got engaged last November. People are too intrusive into other people’s business. I’d prefer they just leave me alone about the whole thing.
Post # 14
Yesss.. It’s the unsolicited advice that kills me. Ughh, the reason why I avoid discussing wedding planning
ANd yes, super stressed and dont want to talk about it.
As a whole I dont like to talk about it bc I always found it annoying when people talked about weddings when I was engaged. People have such funny questions like “whats your budget?” Other questions hit close to sensitive issues so arent meant to be hurtful but then are like “where are you going on your honeymoon?” I actually can;t travel abroad and we don’t have any money, sooo nowhere. That’s where we’re going. ughh
Post # 15
@HourThyme: People ask me that all time, and I just give a generic response ‘fine, good…pretty much all done…’.
What I have gotten next 8 out of 10 times is what irritates me…
“Geez, I would think you would be more excited than that…” or “STOP, your excitement is TOO MUCH” (things along those lines).
I AM EXCITED, trust me, but our marriage is 8 months away. And, I assume that those that ask about wedding planning are the same ones that complain that ‘her wedding is all she ever talks about’. SO, unless asked specific questions, I am keeping specifics out of the conversation!
Post # 16
@FutureDrAtkins: Haha I got asked “Have you set a date?” the first time I announced the engagement. As if we could manage to do it that fast!