Anyone else tired of hearing "how's the wedding planning going?"

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
505 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

yup. and i still have a year to go!

i know it’s nice an all, and i would probably ask others the same because you mean well and know it’s a big part of their lives, but yes it gets so annoying! especially because it’s like, we were friends BEFORE this engagement, we don’t need to talk wedding all the time!

silly, but you’re not alone!

Post # 4
957 posts
Busy bee

Honestly, I’m the opposite. I wish people would ask me about it more. But maybe it’s because I’ve been really conscious not to mention it too much during the engagement. I don’t want to bore people. But I wish people would ask me about it more. I get a bit put off when people don’t.

Post # 5
2042 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@HourThyme:  YES, luckily I get married saturday so that will stop but I know the “when are you going to have babies” is gonna start up.  It never ends…

Post # 6
7090 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

@HourThyme:  That and “have you set a date” – if I set one, you would definitely know by now, so why are you asking me? I’m getting super tired of my close friends constantly asking me this!!

Post # 7
11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I got tired of hearing it pretty quickly. I didn’t want to talk about planning at all–I wanted people to be surprised. And then there was DH’s SIL (who I can’t stand) who said to me, verbatim and four separate times, “HEY GIRLY!!!! I hear wedding planning is going great! It sounds like everything is really coming together!” which I found hilarious, seeing as I had not said anything to her about the wedding (or about anything at all) in the 18 months that we were engaged, nor did anyone else really know anything beyond “such and such is booked” or “such and such is paid for.”

Post # 8
2675 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

Sometimes it gets to me because with certain people I don’t know what to tell them. Like when my dental hygienist asked, I just said it was going well and we had most of our big decisions done. She then asked me if my dress cost as much as those ones on “Say yes to the Dress”. That made me laugh a little because she really seemed to think that ALL wedding dresses must cost that much and she thought that was a little outrageous. I assured her in our area a lot of brides are getting dresses for under $1K.

Post # 9
6518 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

people ask and i just tell them i’m done and ready, just waiting for the day…

i’ve had it pretty easy, no drama, the best BMs, a little momzilla-y mother but nothing i couldn’t handle.



Post # 10
9938 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@HourThyme:  completely there with you.  I don’t mind talking about the wedding with some people but I find a lot of people ask jus tot give unsolicited advice and I can’t be bothered with it.

I usually just say ‘it’s coming’ and change the subject.

Post # 11
2358 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MrsGatito:   +1 nobody seems to give a crap about my wedding planning. I’d enjoy more interest if there were any.

Post # 12
301 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m stressed about the planning these days, so that question stresses me out.  But really, most people who ask me that are just being polite.  They don’t have a strong desire to hear the details.  So I tell them that the planning is going well and we move on to another topic.

Post # 13
1355 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church

I’ve been tired of it since we got engaged last November. People are too intrusive into other people’s business. I’d prefer they just leave me alone about the whole thing.

Post # 15
1287 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@HourThyme:  People ask me that all time, and I just give a generic response ‘fine, good…pretty much all done…’.

What I have gotten next 8 out of 10 times is what irritates me…

“Geez, I would think you would be more excited than that…” or “STOP, your excitement is TOO MUCH” (things along those lines).

I AM EXCITED, trust me, but our marriage is 8 months away.  And, I assume that those that ask about wedding planning are the same ones that complain that ‘her wedding is all she ever talks about’.  SO, unless asked specific questions, I am keeping specifics out of the conversation!


Post # 16
957 posts
Busy bee

@FutureDrAtkins:  Haha I got asked “Have you set a date?” the first time I announced the engagement. As if we could manage to do it that fast!

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