- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
We’ve been NOTHING but accommodating. Tried to make sure we did things so others are happy as well. BUT THERE IS STILL PEOPLE WANTING OTHER STUFF.
We are five weeks out. I don’t want to be changing things now.
And really, I’m getting to the point where I’m going to start pulling a BRIDEZILLA on people. And that’s totally NOT who I am. I’m generally easy going and really don’t expect the “perfect day”.
Everytime FI”s mother calls he gets stressed. (She is in florida, we’re in ontario). She is flying in almost a week and a half before the wedding. We are both working. It is 2 days before I am done work for the summer. Great timing.
And she wants a family dinner that weekend. I have a bridesmaid and her husband flying in and staying with us on Saturday. ARGH. I have emailed people this information, so they KNOW we are having them as guests (and they are helping with all last minute wedding things).
Then she started going on about wanting family portraits done. FI assumed she was talking about during the wedding. So he went on about our “schedule” and how it’s not fair to the other families etc etc etc. (Which I think are very valid points). Turns out she was talking about the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner which she is hosting. I hired our photographer for that day and have emailed EVERYONE to tell them that they can have any pictures done during the dinner that they want, so she should already KNOW this! The issue is that she has invited her sister and her husband, but no other aunts and uncles. This may cause issues with others. BUT I figure that she can deal with that fall out since htat was her decision.
Then she started going on about how she’s worried someone will be wearing the same colour dress as her. The mothers-including FI”s dad’s wife-know what each other are wearing. The thing is that FI’s dad and his wife went to a wedding before and she accidentally wore the same colour as the bridesmaids. This was an honest mistake as she had NO IDEA what colour the bridesmaids were wearing. Of coure, FI’s sister hates this woman and makes it sound like she did it on purpose. So FI’s mom thinks she’ll do it on purpose. Which she won’t. FI’s dad’s wife actually isn’t impressed with FI’s mom wearing a silver dress, since it will look white in pictures (I don’t care, she’s the one who will look disrespectful). Of course FI told his mom that it was an honest mistake and that we cannot control what other people wear. I really don’t care what people wear to my wedding. They just can’t wear jeans because of the wedding.
Then there’s the mother son dance. We combined it with the father daughter. So of course now there’s issues with it. I posted about that on another thread.
With my parents I can tell my mother off pretty easily when she starts being stupid and controlling about the wedding. My mom is very controlling and likes being the center of attention. She actually told me that “this is her day to walk down the aisle”. Basically I don’t really care, and told her that no one will be looking at her they’ll be waiting for me to walk down the aisle. I just said it to make her stop talking about it. I actually don’t want to be the center of attention, but her attitude drives me nuts.
Then FI’s sister is pleading poverty. So I bought her boys the shirts for them to wear for the wedding. We are having them escort FI down the aisle. This drives me nuts since she just went to florida with her family and spent a LOT of money. I dont’ doubt that they are having money issues because of their over spending, but, she has known about the wedding for 1.5 years. I don’t expect people to put their lives on hold for the wedding, but really $30 worth of shirts is an issue? I know I should not judge but it gets hard as she pulls out all the new coach bags she buys.
I’m so over this wedding at this point.