- 2 weeks ago
- Wedding: December 2017
I’m starting (technically) in October this year, but I’m still not having periods after depo injections, and they say that takes up to a year to leave your system completely which is next March – so I think we’ll almost certainly still be TTC next year.
Mine/Partner’s Age: I’m 26 he’s 25 in two weeks!
Baby #: 1
When will you start TTC: see above!
Doing anything to prepare: Losing weight (got 3 stone to lose), taking pre-natels & I’ve stopped BC (just using condoms to let my body sort itself)
Most Excited For: The whole thing… I used to be scared of pregnancy but I’m even excited for that now. Just generally parenting together!
Most Nervous About: Everything being ok with TTC, really anxious about that
Anything you want to accomplish before having a baby? We’re timing it so if it happened right away baby would come at the end of husband’s masters
Do you anticipate any trouble concieving? I have mild endometriosis so that might affect regularity of my cycle when it returns… otherwise I’ve idea, I really hope everything will be ok.
I like this thread, it’s nice seeing other people’s plans & experiences 🙂
Meeee! So excited to actually join in with one of these threads!
Your age/partner’s age: I’ll be 27, DH will be 33
Baby #: 1
When will you start TTC: We’ve said January, but I wouldn’t be surprised if we got excited and started in December. We’re avoiding Sept/Oct/Nov as we ideally don’t want a summer baby (lots of other bits going on!)
Doing anything to prepare (vitamins, charting, etc)?: I’ve been charting my cycles for years (I’m training to be a Fertility Awareness teacher) so I feel like I know my womb inside out haha! I’ll start taking folic acid in October.
Most excited for: telling my hubby if we get a BFP, telling our families, seeing my hubby as a dad
Most nervous about: everything else! Terrified of generally being crap as a parent or not being able to cope emotionally
Anything you want to accomplish before having a baby?: We just moved house and want to do some work to it, replace flooring, extend our bathroom. We’ll be able to get this started in January so work will definitely be completed by the time a baby came along.
Do you anticipate any trouble conceiving? On my end I don’t anticipate any issues as I’m so in tune with my cycle, I ovulate every cycle and have good quality mucus. My husband has a varicocele (enlarged, twisted vein in the testicle) which can affect fertility, so we’re prepared for this to be a potential issue.
Thanks for starting this! I’m already so impatient even though it’s more than a year away for us!
Your age/partner’s age: Will be 30
Baby #: 1!
Sibling age now/ when TTC:
When will you start TTC: Not till the fall
Doing anything to prepare (vitamins, charting, etc)?: Will start charting more closely next year
Most excited for: Everything!
Most nervous about: Everything!
Anything you want to accomplish before having a baby?: Finish my dissertation
Do you anticipate any trouble conceiving? I have no known reason to, but yes I worry about it
Your age/partner’s age: 34/35 at TTC
Baby #: 1
Sibling age now/ when TTC: NA
When will you start TTC: Spring 2018
Doing anything to prepare (vitamins, charting, etc)?: I will be doing all of the mentioned. Considering buying an expensive ovulation test kit. I have started to read some books on family planning.
Most excited for: Those two lines naturally 🙂
Most nervous about: We are a little bit older for the first go and would like to have 2-3 kids. I am in very good health but I do have a stressful job. I also deal with arthritis in harsh winter temperatures and that may dictate when it would be best to TTC/be heavily pregnant.
Anything you want to accomplish before having a baby?: Yes, we would like to go on a ‘babymoon’ cruise. I am not sure if we can go where we were hoping though (Peru, Mexico) , due to Zika concerns. My student loans will also be a continuing concern to me and I would like to make a few massive payments in addition to my normal payment schedule. I am going to continue to work hard on my health in preparation for the best pregnancy possible.
Do you anticipate any trouble conceiving? Not on my part because my cycle is very regular and I have never been on birth control. However, my fiance may have some issues. Either way, I am going to get a check up with a Gynecologist this summer.
We are! probably in the spring.
Your age/partner’s age: When we start trying we will be 32/36
Baby #: 1
Sibling age now/ when TTC:
When will you start TTC: Next spring
Doing anything to prepare (vitamins, charting, etc)?: Probably will start taking prenatal vitamins a few months before. Other than that, will likely not do anything strategic at first – if no luck for a few months then I’m sure I’ll become obsessive with the charting etc.
Most excited for: Being pregnant! I am weirdly excited about that. Also excited to expand our family and watch DH become a father. 🙂
Most nervous about: Having a newborn/sleep deprivation/being afraid for the rest of my life that something bad might happen to my child.
Anything you want to accomplish before having a baby?: Save some more money, maybe buy a house depending on whether we end up staying in this city for more than another year (depends on DH’s job, still up in the air).
Do you anticipate any trouble conceiving? Honestly yes! My mom had massive trouble conceiving me and she was only in her mid 20s when she and my dad started trying. She had a lack of viable eggs. Doc told her she would never be able to conceive. She did eventually have me (naturally), but could never get pregnant again. So I’ve always worried I’ll have the same issue, although there is obviously no telling!
jbirdlee1015 : I am in the same boat as you re: getting v tired of being solely responsible for contraception. I want to go off bc too when my pack runs out (which is only a few weeks out, eep!) but we don’t actually want to try until next year. Trying to find the right moment to discuss this with DH, who I know is going to whine about having to wear condoms. But I have been on the pill for the greater part of a decade and I know it fucks with my hormones and I’m just done, I want to give my body time to adjust and see what my natural cycles are like. Anyway good luck to you!
beevincent18 : We plan on finding out the sex. We have a slight preference for a girl but will be happy either way. But if we do have a boy we are going to need that extra time to decide on a name! We’ve been talking about baby names for years and still can’t find 1 boy name we both love.
So glad I’m not the only one thinking so far in advance–I was afraid people were going to think I was nuts for posting about this already :p
beevincent18 : Hmmm I’m not sure about finding out the gender. With my first baby I had wanted it to be a surprise but DH reallllly wanted to find out so I caved. How could I resist DH being so excited, ya know? I regret finding out though. It’s hard to explain, but once we found out I felt like other people (read: the first-time grandparents) started bonding a little too well with the baby. I felt almost like they thought she was their kid and I was just a surrogate. Now, once she was born this would’ve happened anyway, but I think if we hadn’t found out the gender it would’ve delayed it so my feelings on the issue weren’t exaccerbated by pregnancy hormones.
DH still wants to find out for #2. I think I might try to compromise and say he and I can find out but keep it to ourselves.
We are also planning way ahead! I’m a few weeks away from my due date with #1 (team green). We know we want 3+ children so we are planning to TTC #2 some time in 2018.
Your age/partner’s age: Currently both 34. 35 by the time we TTC #2.
Baby #: 2
Sibling age now/ when TTC: Baby will be 1 year old. I’m hoping to wait until after his/her birthday but we will see!
When will you start TTC: Fall 2018
Doing anything to prepare (vitamins, charting, etc)?: Will start charting again after I give birth to this one!
Most excited for: Being pregnant again. I am already sad that my 1st pregnancy is almost over. I love being pregnant.
Most nervous about: I’m prepared for 1. Going from 1 to 2 seems like the harder transition so we’ll be trying to prepare for that in ’18.
Anything you want to accomplish before having a baby?: Go back to work and perhaps transition to part-time or freelance status.
Do you anticipate any trouble conceiving? No. We got pregnant pretty quickly with #1, and the women in my family have all had babies well into their 30s so I’m not too worried.
I felt almost like they thought she was their kid and I was just a surrogate.
I can TOTALLY relate to this. I found out the gender of my son, and my ex’s mom is SUPER overbearing, it was her first grand child and she basically acted like I was a surrogate for HER baby. But…she wanted a girl so bad and when she found out we were having a boy she was like visibilty disappointed. She actually told us she was sad it wasn’t a girl (which is so strange).
My FI’s parents are awesome. His mom is super laid back and not overbearing at all…his dad is great. I am really excited for when we have a child!
I brought up to my FI the other day waiting until birth to find out but he is not on board at all…and honestly I don’t think I could wait anyways! Honestly though, I think we might find out and not tell anyone!
beevincent18 : Thanks for sharing this, the very few people I’ve spoken with about it before didn’t seem to understand. It helps a lot to know I’m not the only one.
That’s so rude that she verbalized her disappointment with it being a boy! Who does that lol??!… I had the opposite situation, my FIL realllly wanted a girl. And it was a girl. And he went crazy after we found out and hasn’t stopped.
I had a great relationship with FIL before we found out it was a girl, but things went downhill fast afterwards. That being said, I really hope that will not be the case for you! I bet your awareness of this potential issue will help you prevent it.
lalanono : Shes a quack in general.
My ex and his girlfriend just found out they’re expecting. His mom messaged me just to talk and she told me my son would always be her favorite grandchild….like what? Their child is just as much her grandchild as my son is.
It’s just weird. She’s weird. So glad I don’t have to deal with her anymore. LOL