Post # 1
Being pregnant is one of the most emotional parts in a woman’s life. Depending on the person, you try to share the news with only a select few for the first three months before spreading your joy out to the rest of your friends and family. For my immediate family and friends I was so excited, I’m not a person who shows off by any means and in this I felt justified in basking in the glow of warmest wishes and congratulations.
And then I got the “I KNEW IT”. Why? Why does a person feel they have to shout that when you give them the good news? No. You didn’t ‘know’ it, you guessed it and chances are you’ve guessed it 100 times already but weren’t right. Back off, this is my glow, this is my spot light. I didn’t invite you into it. It’s like the people who, when you say “Guess what?” their immidiate responce is, “YOU”RE PREGNANT?” Again…why? You think anything envolving guessing is something like that? The only thing you want at that moment is to follow up with the “I knew it!” STOP IT. Maybe it’s just me. I’d like to think it isn’t. I know they want to be excited and share in that excitment but there are other ways to do that. If you absolutly have to pop out with an “I KNEW IT” then wait til the pregnant-overly hormonal lady is gone and blab it to someone who cares. Til then keep the lip shut. Please.
Post # 2
Peach_Cobbler: I put on an Oscar-winning fake-drink performance (I was in my first trimester over the holidays, so it was way too easy to always have a glass of wine or beer in my hand) so I never got any “I knew it.” Actually, a few older moms did guess, as did a friend of mine, but I didn’t mind at all. Our families were stunned and happy so that was enough for me.
Post # 3
I have a few of those types of people in my life. They KNEW I was pregnant, KNEW I would have a girl (despite guessing boy first lol), KNEW this KNEW that! At first it really annoyed me… then I realized it must be so very difficult, tiring, and just sad to “KNOW” everything ;). (thus I feel bad for people who make jackasses out of themselves lol)
Post # 4
Haha I feel you. My MIL actually felt like it was time to tell our friends on the day of my 12th week. She went ahead and mentioned it to them before we had the chance to announce. Yep, way to take our whole moment away. Thanks.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Peach_Cobbler: Usually it means they are excited for you. I knew it with a friend of mine because she didn’t drink at my wedding and she just had this lovely look of happiness all over her face that evening (she had just found out that week.) It was the first friend that I was truly 100% happy and excited for her being pregnant. 🙂
Post # 6
I never got any “I knew it” becuase I never shared if we wanted kids or when we planned to have kids. I kept my lips sealed pretty tight on our plans (or no plans) have a baby, and I will do the same with a second child. We already have people saying, “You have to have another” and I just say, “I don’t HAVE to.” And if we decide to, we won’t be telling a soul.
Post # 7
Nope don’t care, but then again I’m not that emotional or feel that I need a moment to “bask.” If people knew and guessed it, great. If they’re surprised, great. It doesn’t make me any less pregnant lol.
Post # 8
octoberbaby: Oh man that would make me so angry. It was your news to share not hers.
I get people being excited but that doesn’t mean they get to ruin the moment or make it about them.
Post # 9
Peach_Cobbler: Oh lady you are NOT alone. We’re almost in our second trimester and started telling more people. I’ve gotten a few “i knew it’s” from people who in no way shape or form could have known it. I kind of want to slap them every time i comes out of someones mouth. I’ve been avoiding telling a few people specifically for this reason.
Post # 10
MrsA1222: It feels so good to know I’m not the only one. It really does. I want to slap them too. And that takes away from the happy moment.
Post # 11
My mom did this and it drove me nuts. She brags about it to people but truth is she was wrong and got a lucky guess the next time.
Post # 12
Peach_Cobbler: Umm…I think you may be overthinking it and investing a little too much time into it. I don’t see how anyone is “stealing your glow or your spot light” by saying “I knew it.”
This situation seems somewhat similar to when people ask about “the wedding” that is exciting, but it gets exhausting answering so many questions.
I get this an emotional and exciting time, but I just see it as they are excited for you, and nothing else. Maybe they had a hunch and they were right. Maybe they are just saying it to say it, but I see it as….no harm, no foul.
Post # 13
Peach_Cobbler: I don’t get why it makes you stabby in terms of spotlight. If anything it should make you stabby in terms of improper grammar.
All joking aside, maybe they’ve been suspecting as you said and are happy you’ve confirmed the joyous news. It doesn’t make them wrong to express joy and well wishes in a different way than you prefer. It’s definitely better than the “Oh.” response.
Post # 14
I’m not pregnant.. So I can’t relate to this really… (Although I suspect that some day it will piss me off too!)
I do have a friend though that, everytime I say “guess what?”, she asks if I’m pregnant.. It drives me crazy. There are a million other things I could be talking about! For cereal.
some day, she will rain on my parade I’m sure haha 😉 some people just always have to be right and feel like they have a sense of premonition about your life.
Dont Worry; the limelight is still yours! No one else cares that some random person knew it or not.. They do care that you’re pregnant though!!
congrats by the way 😀 (I had no clue 😉 )
Post # 15
I guess I’ll take this as a PSA lol. I got this about getting engaged, and it didn’t bother me at all. I’ve correctly assumed a pregnancy about others before, but it was a group setting so it was more saying it to the person next to me and not mommy to be. From now on, I’ll keep it to myself.