Post # 1
For some reason I’ve just had babies on the mind lately. I think that if FI had I were married right now, I’d be ready to start trying. I asked FI if we could think about trying soon after we’re married and he said no that he wants to wait at least a year to have time to be just us. I just feel that the last 3 years of living together was enough “us” time. I think I’ve been two years ahead of him, in terms of when we should get engaged/married/and now having kids. I’m sure once the things get busy with work and the wedding plans get rolling again, the baby feeling will be on the back burner and FI will be back on the same page…for a while at least..
Post # 3
We’re seriously considering trying for a honeymoon baby! We have a little while before we’ll be married. A big factor is my fertility which is questionable at this point. It’s a tricky situation, a lot of people suggest being married awhile which I totally understand. Another con is that I want all of our student loans paid off, but my Fiance isn’t really concerned about that (we’ll have a lot less than average but still). My fiance is pretty game for anything, I think he’d rather just let nature take it’s course than actively TTC but I keep flipping back and forth. I still have a while to decide!
Post # 5
Honeymoon baby here. However, he was baby #4 for us and we’d been together for 10 years prior to getting married. Because we had 3 kids before getting married, a honeymoon baby wasn’t a shock to us or our marriage.
Post # 6
I’m on the same boat here. I have been wanting one for a while now, but the closer the wedding gets the more I want one. I’ve asked my FI if we are going to try after the wedding or wait and he said he doesn’t “make plans” and I will have to find out. How cruddy! :”]] But we have talked in the past about having a honeymoon baby, which I would love!
Post # 7
@divergirl: We’re date twins 🙂
I’m going to go off of birth control once we’re married and let nature take its course. If it takes 1 month, great, 10 months that’s ok too. He’s a lot older than me though so we’d like to start not trying not to as soon as we’re married.
Post # 8
DH and us wanted to wait as well. To enjoy being married and maybe go on vacation one more time before we settled with kids. We thought about it and decided that it could take awhile TTC so we’d we’d stop the birth control and see how long it took.
Well, we went out BC 2 weeks before the wedding… and I got pregnant on our honeymoon lol… SO.. yeah 🙂 We’re having a baby sooner than expected. I have to tell you though… there is never a “perfect time” to have children. There will always be that big purchase you want to make… or a vacation, or weight to loose or that small debt that you want to clear.
We’re happy it happened this way 🙂 We’re really suprised at how excitted we were from the very begining…
Post # 9
i want a honeymoon baby! We each have a child from prior relationships and are ready to make our own little one.
Post # 10
I loved having us time and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. 🙂
Post # 11
goodness do we want a honeymoon baby ..but the wedding is 101 days away. I dont know why but that seems like forever away.
Doesnt help that FI keeps talking about kids and saying that he wants to try soon. What does that mean… like now? lol
Post # 12
My fiance and I are going to start trying to have a baby on our wedding night! We have been together for three and a half years and living together for three years, and we have decided we are ready now! If I didnt have to fit in to a very expensive wedding dress in 178 days I would start trying now!
Good Luck and Congratulations to you!
Post # 13
@divergirl: FI and I have already decided that we are going to shoot for a honeymoon baby 😉 … We are both excited and although "us" time is VERY nice, lol… we consider this time as "us" time…. also, we are moving in together this July so we will have more than enough "us" time… If you think about it… we are moving in July 2011, not getting married until July 2012, it will take some time to get pregnant, and then when we do, it will take 9 months for the baby to get here…. so I think we should be good…
Good luck bees…. this is a VERY exciting time for us all!!!
Post # 14
Me me me! We’re NTNT right after the wedding. My fertility is in question a bit (PCOS), so we’re going to just let go and let nature do its thing unless nothing happens within a year, then move on to other options 🙂 Exciting!! Baby dust to you all!
Post # 15
If we had our choice we would try right after getting married. Unfortunately I have a genetic disorder and we are either going to have to do IVF with a surrogate or do adoption. Since both options are really expensive and adoption agencies usually require that a couple be married a certain amount of time (unless you find a birth mother outside of the agency and do an independent adoption) we are going to be forced to wait. It is really unfortunate and sometimes frustrating that we will have to jump through hoops to start a family.
Post # 16
Before marriage, we thought we’d wait a while to start having kids, but that all went out the window pretty much as soon as we tied the knot. 🙂 We got pregnant like 4 months after we got married!