Post # 1
I’m having to work very hard to stop my other half to stop panicking over rings.
He has the tiniest hands in the world for a man and he’s terrified of the moment we’re going to exchange rings at the ceremony…he’s scared someone is going to notice and comment.
Anyone else there who’s dealt with it? He claims no other couple has got this problem, but I’m determined to show him that it’s not true!!!
My BF’s hands are the cutest tiny things, but that also means that their smaller than mine…not just shorter…smaller all over :-/ I can understand he’s embarrassed but it shouldn’t matter, should it?
Post # 3
I can’t say as I’m in a similar situation, but no, it *shouldn’t* matter.
And nobody except maybe the officiant is going to be close enough to notice, anyway. 🙂
Post # 4
The only person who will notice his fingers are small is your MOH who will be holding his ring. No one else will notice. And MOH probably will be thrilled it fits on a more secure finger than her thumb.
Post # 5
I have the same situation and it doesn’t matter to me.
Post # 6
@purpleglitterglam: DH’s ring size is smaller, but his hands are bigger than mine, but it honestly shouldn’t matter. No one is going to be noticing something like that or look for it.
Post # 7
FI has tiny little hands. We’re the same height, but I have really long fingers and his are short and stocky. His look like little breakfast sausages next to mine. Adorable little sausages.
I’m sure no one will notice, and if they do I really don’t care.
Post # 8
@purpleglitterglam: That’s his insecurity, not yours. No one is going to notice except him and now you. I wouldn’t sweat it.
Post # 9
@purpleglitterglam: My husband is smaller than me and it seriously does not matter . During the ring exchange, he actually mixed up our rings (his name is engraved on the inside of mine, my name on the inside of his) and our officiant just made a joke about him being nervous. Everybody had a good laugh and he relaxed after that.
Post # 10
We’re the same height (6’1), but I have very long fingers, much longer than his (I have ridiculously long limbs so it makes sense that I have long fingers as well. Heck, my legs are 8 inches longer than his!) He wears a larger ring size, but my hands are definitely longer. It really doesn’t matter. And its highly unlikely anyone will notice.
Post # 11
I have man hands, he has dainty hands, so mine are larger than his. It is what it is, we just didn’t take too many up close ring pictures on our wedding.
Post # 12
I have REALLY big hands, so I get where he’s coming from. My hands and FI’s hands are the same size, but mine are a lot thinner, so he definitely wears a bigger ring size.
It is kind of one of those things people make comments about when they notice it – it’s kind of weird, but I’ve gotten used to it. In high school, they called me “Man Hands.” I’m a pretty confident person, so I didn’t let it bother me – tell your SO to embrace it! Tiny hands are good for lots of things.
Post # 13
Part of getting married is getting over our fears.
If a simple ring exchange is giving him nerves, he’s got to steel up! And stop caring about what other people think.
You can certainly design the ring ceremony in a way that it’s impossible to confuse the rings (i.e. have best man / maid of honor hold one ring each and hand it to you when ready to exchange) to help calm his nerves a bit.
Post # 14
Thanks for your kind messages 🙂
I’m going to tell him that there are other couples where women have bigger hands than their men. I bet he’ll feel relieved, ha ha!!!
Personally, I don’t mind the fact his hands are smaller. It freaked me out at first because I’m shorter than he is (I’m 5’6 and he’s 5’9), and also because I wear really long nails so it exacerbates the difference, but then I grew to like it. Now I find it endearing. It’s our little secret —well sort of given that lots of people have noticed, especially the jewellers when we had our rings made!
Post # 15
We wear the same size – a 5. Actually, we’re concerned about getting a wedding band that is small enough for him without resorting to a ladies style. Did any of you run into that problem?
Post # 16
@SepiaSquid: My FI has a size 6 ring finger and I have a 7.25. All the rings we looked at could be sized at a 5 or above; HOWEVER, when we placed the order, we had some issues. Not with getting the ring, but with them believing that was his real size. The jeweler called me 3 times to verify the size. The last message went something like “I am calling to confirm that your FI’s ring is a size 6. My manager keeps telling me that can’t be right and MUST have been written poorly and is really an 8. Could you please give him a call and confirm the ring size?”