Post # 1
I’m terrified, I have many elderly guests, in their late 80’s. =( They all seem in decent health right now but my grandfather for example started having kidney trouble and stopped drinking water, which freaks me out. Wedding in 3 months. I dunno what would happen if I loose someone but I think about it all the time. Like for one, I will be devestated and for two I have a mother who’s already emotionally unstable, if anyone dies she will probably need to be put into the hospital herself.
Just wonder if anyone else worries about this.
Post # 3
My FI’s grandmother, we found out was very ill before our 1 year mark. I thought to myself if she passes on our wedding date, we would have to change it. She just passed on the 19th. Im still thinking about changing the whole entire month, not only because of this though. She lived to be 92 years old. FI is taking it pretty well but we have yet to attend the funeral. I dont think its crazy thinking. You really care about your loved ones being able to attend your special day. I have one grandparent left and she is my closest grandparent. I dont know if I would be able to even continue on with wedding plans if anything were to happen to her.
Post # 4
My grandmother is well into dementia, and declining. She won’t be attending, but I hope that she’ll be around to have pictures of us in her room (even if she doesn’t know who we are at this point.)
Post # 5
I think you will drive yourself crazy if you spend your time thinking about this. This is a bunch of what if’s and you can’t spend your time wondering about what if’s!
What if god forbid one of your guests get in a fatal car accident in the nest few months?Gets fatal food poisioning? Gets struck by lightning?
Post # 6
I am worried about this happening but am learning to stop worrying about what I cant change and this we cant change…
But I have to admit I did imagine some bridezilla yelling that _______ Died just ruin her weddig day…
Post # 7
Yes. 100x yes. My father died of a heart attack suddenly, and I was devasted. In July, my uncle that I was the closest to, my godfather, who told me he was going to walk me down the aisle instead of my dad committed suicide. I feel like I am planning the whole thing with a big hole in the middle. I just ordered memorial candles with their names on it. I’m afraid someone else will pass before the wedding. I just keep telling myself there’s nothing I can do about it.
Post # 8
<—Yep, this girl right here!
I want my grandfather to be the officiant at our wedding. He is also a senior pastor at a church my family and I really love. I asked him during Christmas, and he agreed so as long as he is in good health to do so. Him and my grandma are sick often and sometimes I worry about them, although I know old age is old age.
P.S. I don’t have a grandpa on my mother’s side of the family, and I was able to meet my FI’s grandpa (when we were dating during high school) who died shortly afterwards. My grandpa is SO special to my sisters and I and I can’t imagine him not being there. He told my FI and I, after we announced our engagement, that he knew we were going to get married all along. He really loves my FI and is so happy to see us preparing for this great journey ahead.
It would be that much more incredible and special to have him AND my grandma (who are celebrating 50 years of marriage in June by the way, yahoo!) present. Bees, I’m worried but I know that there are so many things in life that are 100% out of my control. I have to just live, and be happy–and carry just enough hope.
Post # 9
@fresitachulita: And of course, I am very sorry to hear what you’re going through. You seem like a sweet and caring person who knows how much it will mean for your elderly relatives to watch you get married–it’s a big deal and a very special occasion. I wish you the best and hope all of your loved ones will be able to witness your special day. *Hugs*
Post # 10
I’m trying not to worry about it, but my grandfather has lung cancer. He’s been steadily declining. I’m pretty sure they wouldn’t be able to make it to the wedding anyway since it’s a 12 hour drive, but they would have been way more likely to attend if he was in good health. It makes me sad because I always imagined my grandparents at my wedding. I’m hoping he pulls through, and they’re able to make it.
Post # 11
I have as well I know that my grandmother, with whom I was extremely close to growing up, has dementia that is rapidly getting worse. I know that she won’t be able to make it to the wedding and that makes me sad, but I’m pretty sure that she will still be alive for our day. But I have had moments where I suddenly have this small twinge of anxiety when I think, “what if something happens to so and so.” I know that it’s irrational, but I think bc this is such a huge day for us that we tend to think of the worst.
Post # 12
yes. my grandfather died last year and my first thought was “he got to see all of his grandchildren get married except me.” Ever since then I’ve worried about all of mine and SO’s elderly relatives.
Post # 13
Yes, I’m worried about a few family members. It will be beyond awful if it happens. It’s sad to think that people so close to you could miss the most important day of your life.
Post # 14
Thanks bees. Glad I’m not the only one. Yes, I’m sad if someone passes, they won’t be able to be there, but also that those around me will fall apart because of it, including myself.
I do know someone who’s father commited suicide the morning of her wedding. She went through with the wedding, but it must have been agony.
Post # 15
@fresitachulita: Oh my! Her father committed suicide the morning of her wedding?!?! I would be absolutely devestated! Not to mention angry =/ Poor girl
Post # 16
Yes! My wedding is 4 days away and I’m concerned about something happening to anyone (death, illness, accident, etc.). I absolutely care far more about loved ones than I do about a wedding, but the selfish bride in me keeps thinking, “Hold on everybody – just a few more days!”.