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Considering we haven't picked a song yet...yes, a little nervous : )
Don't be nervous! It goes by so fast and no one expects you to be good. Most of the time the couple has the band or DJ request the bridal party to join after about 30 seconds anyway, so think about doing that!
If you took one dance lesson that would be all you need to know how to dance without stepping on each others feet!
You could even watch on youtube or something!
Um yes. We have not taken lessons, nor do we plan on it. We don't have a song either. Yikes!
I am SO nervous about the first dance! Not only am I not much of a dancer (I'm not AWFUL, but when it comes to slow dancing I don't know what to do with myself), but FI and I cannot seem to even agree on a first dance song! Also, my dad HATES dancing, and while I figured out a good song for us (Beatles' All My Life - props to the hive on that one!), I still feel like he is just going to be secretly (or maybe not so secretly...) hating it the whole time. And I totally hear you on not liking to be the center of attention with everyone's eyes on you. I'm going to absolutely hate every second of the first dance and father/daughter dance but my mom and FI insist on it. Oy.
My Fi and I aren't bad dancers, but we decided to take dance lessons to wow our guests. We picked a Frank Sinatra song that I know will be great...I can't wait! But it does make me a little nervous to have the spot light and that might make me mess up even more!
Pick a slow song and just sway to the music. Seriously, your day flies by SO fast it's such a blur anyway. I hardly even remember our first dance (let alone most of the other parts) except for the pictures. You'll be fine, enjoy your day.
It's your day. Don't worry about what others think of your dancing. If I think back on all of the first dances I've seen - in person and on tv - they weren't exactly spectacular. It's just extra if it is. Most people just relax and sway to the music, like IA Snowflake mentioned.
We tried the Youtube dance lesson thing, and it just made it more stressful for us. So, we're just gonna wing it. Hahahaha.
I'm nervous about it, too, but people keep telling me that half the room doesn't even pay much attention anyway, and the other half expects you to just do the "hug 'n sway" thing. I started you tubing first dancesd at weddings, and some, with the exception of the choreographed ones where people took lessons, they weren't all that bad.
I didn't even want to do the first dance, but my FI REALLY wanted to for some reason, so I told him, "Fine, but I pick the song, and it can be really short." I ended up picking "That's How Strong My Love Is" by Otis Redding, and it's about 3 mins long.
beagle, i'm with you! we listened to some songs last week and nothing has struck us as "our song." most of the songs that are meaningful to us are not appropriate first dance songs...
I was nervous about this too, and a few of my married friends offered me this piece of advice: choose a short song.
People tend to pick these long, long songs and after about 45 seconds, the level of awkwardness triples. After about two minutes, the level of awkwardness quintuples. Five minutes later, you and your hubby are wishing the ground would open up and swallow you and all your guests are wondering how much longer the torture will last.
So either choose a very brief song (my guy and I are dancing to Coldplay's "Parachutes," it's less than a minute) or just have the DJ only play a minute or so of the song you want.
One to two minutes is plenty of time to get out there, enjoy being alone on the floor together and get some great pictures.
Try to think positively about it - worrying will just make it worse. Think of it as some moments you get with your new hubby that NO ONE will interrupt. And, I love the advice of picking a song on the short side... I think you'll be surprised by how quickly the time will pass... and it may help to practice with your FI a few times w/ the song.
Coming from a brand new newlywed who definitely doesn't like the spotlight, you will be OK. My FI and I are great dancers but for our first dance, I swear we didn't move lol. It was just a very slow sway side to side. Why not try to practice before the big day. Close your curtains and shades and the two of you go at it...Not GO AT IT :) but just practice. I promise you will be fine, especially if it is just a normal slow dance.
I agree. I was considering taking dance lessons too. I'm a good dancer. My fiance is ok - basic high school moves :). I was originally all gung ho to choreograph our dance, but I get a little nervous being in the spotlight as well. And after talking to most of my married friends who keep telling me how fast the day will fly by, I've decided to forgo the lessons since I would rather be able to hold him close and talk and be nervous and reflect on the day for the 2-3 minutes we're dancing than be concentrating on steps and not being able to focus on him.
Oh my goodness, I am soooo nervous for the first dance. I didn't even want to have a dance at the reception, but my FH and I had to compromise. I agreed to dance with him at our wedding if he didn't smash cake in my face...let's hope I learn how to dance between now and then! lol
Practice at home!!! Also, noone there is going "oohhh look theyre tripping over each others feet"... everyone will be watching the two of you thinking "wow they look great together" & "what a wonderful couple". I would guess you are the only one who will really overthink it :)
No worries! you will do great!
Don't try to do anything fancy. Just sway back and forth and then let him turn you a couple of times. Just practice at home doing a turn and maybe dipping you.
My FMIL went to a wedding where the bride and groom tried to do a choregraphed dance step and they couldn't do it and the bride ran off crying.
Just do what you fell comfortable with and don't worry about if you think swaying is cheesy. I'd rather you sway and gaze at each other's eyes then to be falling all over each other.
Besides you have a big dress so most people understand that sometimes all you can do is sway.
Also pick short songs or have them cut shorter.
Vintage, i am so afraid that i will be that bride that runs off crying. My fiance and i have been taking dance lessons for the past month and a half every week but our dance routine isn't very fun at all so we haven't been inspired to really practice (at least thats my excuse so far) plus life happens every time we try to practice so we never get around to it. So at this point i'm at a loss at what we should do since we've spent so much $ but really...we don't know our routine very well at all. Plus i don't think fi and i have that dancing "chemistry" that one would look at and say, oh how cute they look dancing together. four more weeks of practice is all we have!
good luck girls!
If I felt that way about my first dance, there is NO WAY I would have a first dance!! I want my wedding day, and especially the reception, to be fun, I don't want there to be any part of it I'm dreading. I was BM earlier this year, the couple did get lessons but they weren't keen dancers and they looked TERRIFIED. They left the dance floor after a few songs and everyone else followed soon after, so there was an empty space all night. In my view, if you aren't dancers and don't enjoy it, don't feel the need to have dancing at your wedding. Two other recent weddings I've been to had a fast song, the couple just said "OK we're dancing now, don't leave us up there too long", we all watched for maybe 10 seconds and then joined in. Low key, low fuss, no awkward swaying or dreading the spotlight. It was fun! Not sure why more people don't consider this an option? A first dance is a lovely tradition, but only if you're going to enjoy it - it's not worth stressing over. You are still married, even without a first dance :)
We are and just signed up for basic dance lessons at the local highschool, $95 per couple for 8 lessons and hope they will be well worth it. We both have 2 left feet. Neither of us have any intentions of looking like dancers nor want a choreographed routine, we just don't want to step on each others toes. I called around to lots of local highschools that offer it thru adult ed as well as dance studios, we thought this might be the best and most affordable way to go.
Personally - neither of us dance either, but we're doing the jr. high sway - why? Because our guests don't need to be impressed with our moves - it's a sweet and tender song and BTW - no one can see my feet in my dress, so they can't tell i have NO IDEA how to dance well! This may well be the only night I get to dance like no one's watching lol
My sister is a fabulous dancing so I called her for some tips. The tempo in our song changes and we are not dancers so needless-to-say, I am very nervous!! The best part of it is, I'll change into a totally different dress to surpirse my fiance and everyone in the room, will hopefully take the attention off the dance!! lol Just stay calm, have fun, and u guys will be fine...Good luck.
Again don't do a dance routine that you've learned in a dance class. I dance in Broadway musicals here in Houston and my FI doesn't. I'm not going to make him learn a dance where he is all left feet. People at our wedding know that I'm a dancer but they aren't expecting us to get out there and dance like you would on Dancing withe The Stars. We will be doing the whole sway thing. We are dancing to Unforgettable.
Now my Dad and I might do a country two-step since he and I have danced this way together my whole life and I know that we can dance smoothly together. And I'm leaning towards an old Willie Nelson Song.
hahaha i think my FI and i will just wing it and have a laugh! if we've got enough time and money to spare, i might try to drag him along to a couple of dance classes... we shall see
Mr G. & Myself are very very fun people and everyone we know is pretty laid back for the most part. We talked about our first dance and laughed because we both had the same idea that his should be a fun tme a party it's a celebration and we're planning on something funny..
You know that youtube wedding dance thing.. I don't know if we'll follow through but if I had to say anything at all it would end up that way..
I am definitely with you on this one - I am a terrible dancer too! One word of advice (related to the first dance's music, not the dancing itself) - I was just in a friend's wedding and come to find out the DJ had NO idea what the first song was and didn't even have it on his system! Luckily another bridesmaid had it on her iPod and he was able to play if off of there. Make sure the DJ knows WHAT the song is, and that he has it with him!!!! :) Good Luck and Best Wishes! :) Even if you step on eachother's feet, it'll be 'cute' because you're the newlyweds - you can do no wrong! :)
totally worried about it. we will prob just dang awkwardly for 30 secs and have the DJ call everyone else up
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I am really nervous about the first dance. I do not really like the spotlight to be on me so that is the one thing about the wedding I am not looking forward to! I hate being infront of a crowd. I am not a great dancer - I really don't like dancing so I don't have much experience. My fiance is not the greatest dancer either...I am worried we are going to be up there looking like idiots or stepping over each others feet! Then I have to do it again with my dad! We should have taken dance lessons but it is too late for that now. At the time it seemed like too much money...