Post # 1
One of my fiances friends is getting married in JUly, two months before all, all of our friends will be attending both our weddings.
However ours will be a smaller 70 persons £10k wedding and theirs will be 150 persons £30k wedding.. im just really worried everyone will be comparing the days and as we dont have as much money to splash our venue is alot more modest..
all i want is for my friends and family to have a good time, but i also dont want to feel like im competing, so i need to get that thought out of my head!
anyone else experienced this?
Post # 3
I know this can be hard. Honestly I think most people would agree that they can’t help but worry about comaprisons to some extent. But..try to keep in mind that whatever you do in life you will be able to find someone who is better off and someone who is worse off, so comparing yourself does not really mean much. Try to focus on your own wedding and why you are having it – you are getting married to the person you love and that’s really all that matters..all the other stuff is just extras. I also tend to find as a wedding guest that the wedding I’ve looked back and have enjoyed the most and left me with a warm happy feeling are not the ones where most money was spent x
Post # 4
Our friends’ wedding is 2 WEEKS after ours. I hate talking about any wedding stuff with her because she always wants to compare everything. I feel like its a contest or something. My family is also used to over the top weddings. However we are paying for it ourselves so we can’t afford to go overboard. I definately feel a lot of competition with our wedding. Its an awful feeling.
Post # 5
@tinkerbell_83: I have the same worry–FI’s brother is getting married next month, and having this huge blow-out shin-dig, whereas FI, and I plan on something very small, and intimate (maybe not even a wedding party), and a reception for just close family at a restaurant, or something. I’m totally fine with it, but I’m worried that other people will think badly about it.
I guess the only thing I can do is stay positive–our day will be about us, and that’s all that matters.
Post # 6
FI’s sister is planning to get married the month before us. She hasn’t booked yet so maybe she won’t. I’m not concerned about comparisons so much as I am concerned with declines to our wedding since a lot of the mutual guests are from out of town. It’s a lot to ask of folks to travel twice in two months. I think our styles are different, however. So while it may be natural to worry make your wedding yours and people won’t be able to help but see you are happy and your wedding was yours alone.
Post # 7
I know the feeling…my brother just got married in April, my sister is gettiing married in the next few weeks and my cousin is getting married the day before me, IKR…CRAZINESS. They’ve been very reluctant to share any of the details however, we’re just doing what we want to do as far as our day goes. I just think about it like this everyone’s day is gonna be different because we’re each different people. There will always be things some people like more/less than the next person’s wedding. All I can say is do what makes YOU HAPPY…and try not to even think about what they’re doing. Good luck and Congrats! 🙂
Post # 8
I don’t worry about comparisons, every person is different therefore every wedding will be different. Different doesn’t mean good, bad, or better, it’s just different. My wedding will be a reflection of my FI and I, so to me that’s all that matters
Post # 9
I dont think I’ve ever really compared weddings. I had a year where I went to a 4 or 5 weddings and I’ve *never* sat there going .. “person 1’s wedding had such better xxx, and person 4’s wedding should have done something like person 2, or this persons has so much better xxx than person 3…” I enjoy the moment that I’m in, and if I make any thought like that, its to the event that its relavant to… like, “I dont like THIS appetizer”, but not… “wedding C’s apps were so much better.”