(Closed) Anyone else’s FI have a dangerous job?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2208 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Yes, my FH has a job that could turn very dangerous or violent.  without elaborating too much he interrogates people.  I get terrified every time he works late at night and isnt home on time.  He obviously cant answer his phone every time I need him and I dont want to bother him, but I always get scared about the "what ifs" and go into panic.  It rarely happens, but when it does just try not to think about what bad COULD be happening – that only makes it worse.  Your mind starts racing then you cant calm down.  Im in the same boat honey, no amount of suggestions can ease your mind that your FH/uhsband might be in danger, but the best advice I do have is above.  Also, ask him that in the event of a fire, he at least shoot you a quick text to say "im fine, I love you" so you at least KNOW.  xoxo

Post # 4
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Helper bee

My fiance is an infantry airborne soldier with the Army on his thrid year long tour to Afghanistan. So yeah…jumping out of planes and shooting/getting shot out is his job. He loves it but when he is gone it’s not very fun for me.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

MY FI is a pilot.  With all the planes lately in the news it makes me a little nervous.  Plus when you know more then you’d like to know it makes me even more nervous.  But I just tell myself that he is one of the most cautious guys and takes such pride in his job that I know he doesn’t take chances. He wants to do such a good job he won’t risk it.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ Staceyrp: I hate flying and my husband has been taking flying lessons, so I’ve been a bundle of nerves the last few months. I don’t know how you do it! It’s especially worse since he’s just started flying solo!

And it also seems everytime there’s some idiot pilot in the news, they’re from Florida (where I’m at). Eeek!

Post # 8
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2008 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’m with you girls on this one. 

My fiance’s a professional bull rider.  He absolutely loves it and there’s no way I could ask him to quit but that doesn’t mean I like it when he gets hurt.  Fortunately he has been very blessed and has avoided major injury for the most part, very impressive considering he’s been doing it for 16 years! 

I am very thankful though that it’s not a lifetime career.  He’ll retire within the year and then hopefully take on the much less dangerous job of a college rodeo coach.  I’m not sure how many more years I could handle it, but there are a lot of other factors included in that, not just the physical dangers. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

My guy is a welder and he works on highway bridges. Apart from the obvious dangers in his job, getting burned, falling off the bridge, getting hit by a car if they’re on the road deck, I always worry about his health as he is exposed to lead every day. Even though he wears a respirator his lead levels peak out at times which among many other things can affect fertility.
I try to remind myself of all of the safety precautions he takes but I do worry about the long-term effects for him.
Every morning when he leaves I say a prayer and ask God to keep him and his crew safe.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m so glad I found this post. I am actually having a hard time with my FI being in Afghanistan. He’s a, well I don’t really know, he can’t tell me…one of the reasons I worry. I’m new to the whole military thing and this deployment has been hard knowing he’s close to the Pakistan border where its very violent. I keep him in my prayers but want nothing more than him safely home. 20-30 min phone calls just about every night are great but it still is hard.

“she that waits also serves”

Post # 11
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340 posts
Helper bee

@jaydee1125 My fiance is also at the Pakistan border, so I know exactly how you feel. Message me if you want.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

bree72- I completly understand about the flying solo thing!  FI is wanting to take off in a plane after the ceremony! I’m cool with that but he can’t drink and it can’t be dark outside!  So we are more then likely going to take off the following day.

 For those of you who have SO in the service overseas I admire you and your SO and pray for their safety!

Post # 13
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256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

 My FI is a Firefighter also… when they had the bad wildfires here in SC he worked 5 days straight… the actual day they started there was a pretty bad structure fire near my work he called me on his way to the station (we were supposed to meet for lunch but he was called to the structure fire)… he was all excited about going to the fire. So since it was pretty much across the street from where I worked I walked over to see… just in time to watch him walk into the burning building! He had to go to the wildfires after so it was like 5 more days till I had him home. It’s one thing to know they are doing a dangerous job but to see it was too much for me. 

He also came home about a month and a half ago with 2nd degree burns on his ear and arm… yeah. At least he told me about it once he was home… I wasn’t too freaked out about it till they replaced his “defective gear”?! What?! Defective gear? It still isn’t fully healed and he definately has a scar to remind me.

I am so proud of him and happy he loves his job, but eh the stress of it. He wanted so badly to have a scanner at home so I could hear what he’s up to when he’s at work… after those fires I put my foot down and said no. All I want is for him to come home and let me know how it went… call me when he’s safe. I am thankful he can come home to see me between shifts but think it will be 100x harder once we have kids.

 

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