- 3 years ago
I posted a few weeks ago, “Disappointed after ring shopping..” after a let down of ring shopping and then being told not to get my hopes up. It was confusing!
Anyways, about three weeks ago, my parents, SO and I were all together for Sunday dinner and SO pulled my father aside. We are somewhat traditional so I assumed that this would be a step but after the setback with $$ situation I figured it wouldn’t have been for a while. Turns out that he asked for his blessing, my dad said yes! At first I wasn’t aware of what they had spoke about but my mom is pretty bad at keeping secrets and sort of spilled the beans to me. She said that SO told my dad that he loves me and is planning to propose within the next few months. I guess I’m considering this a “step” but I don’t want to get my hopes up again..Just in case.
After that weekend had passed, SO surprised me and took me out to dinner. He claimed that we were just going “down the street” to pick up some dinner. We ended up in the car about 30 minutes away from home at one of our favorite restaurants..After dinner, I thought we would be going home but I noticed that he was driving a different path. He took us to the beach..(first beach we visited together, we went on our first lunch date at the restaurant there as well) So we’re walking along the beach and he’s professing his love, saying that he loves me and how I’m the one for him, etc.. No ring. It was a random Thursday night and I figured something would be up since he lied about where we going :/
Fast forward to last weekend, SO had to work Saturday and said that we had reservations for 9 p.m., to pick out something nice for him to wear and to wear something nice as well. As we get out of the car…I notice that it’s an upscale restaurant..The bill at the end of the night was over $300 just for the two of us.. No ring :/ but a very sweet surprise!
SO then said recently that he feels that the pressure is on to get the perfect ring, give the perfect proposal, etc. He said that he feels like I have so many expectations about the ring and proposal..but after these almost-proposals it’s kind of hard to not imagine? Although I try not to give expectations or anything of the sort..He did ask me if I thought the ring was coming once he got home from the beach lol
He *LOVES* to surprise me, and by love..I mean before we started officially dating he drove about 250 miles to show up at my doorstep on a Friday evening once he knew I was home to show that he was serious about relationship. (Because we were long distance) Most of the time I have no clue where we’re going for dates and at first when I would fly to see him he would surprise me in the airport..Send a text saying that he’s outside and then a few seconds later, a tap on my shoulder and boom! he’s behind me lol.
Did anyone else’s SO do this? Go through many surprises before actually proposing? or, is anyone’s SO’s personality like this in general?