@oracle – “if the crush came up to you and flirted with you and asked you out – would you want to accept?” Would I want to, I’d maybe want to, but would I probably not. “are you doing anything to try to get to know the crush better?” No, I haven’t……..
A little background on myself an my FI, we are both in our early 30’s. We’ve been together about 3 years now, we’ve broken up a couple times. There has always been one issue that seems to get in the way, which is him having a full time job. He’s a substitute teacher but cannot get a full time teaching job. It’s very competative, a lot of politics involved. He went to a great school etc. He’s the type that has to be pushed though, whereas I’m the type that if I want something I go get it. To me, he needs to be at the point of if he wants to get married and have kids he needs to go into a different field to get a full time gig. He’s pretty set on being a teacher as that’s his passion. Which is great and what I want for him as well, but I’m all about stability, ie full time job. So that’s been a constant roadblock for us, and to be honest isn’t that attractive either, the lack of drive. Granted he did just get a part time job, today actually, to go along with subbing, so that will work for now. Other than the job situation, we are great, he’s a great guy, has a huge heart, would do anything for anyone, we like some of the same things etc. I guess the only other thing is we don’t have sex that much lately, I don’t know what the problem is there, maybe it’s just a rut?
In regards to me, I’m sort of the type that always searches for something better, which sounds horrible, but I’m like maybe there is someone out there with more drive, has a stable job, likes to do ALL of the same things I do etc. Ie, enter co-worker, he seems to like everything that I like, we seem to have a lot in common etc. And he HAS a full time job. Which again sounds shallow, but I’m not saying I need my FI to make a ton of money at all, like I said just stability is what is important to me, not to mention benefits which you do not get as a sub.
I guess with the crush, is that maybe there since there are a few things missing with my FI, or am I just dumb and need to appreciate what I have and not look for something better, or mess something up that’s great just cause I get scared………
So yeah if any of that made sense:(