Post # 1
I have a question for anyone who has ever been in this position or who works in HR
I went on an interview today (2nd interview, 1st in person interview). I honestly didn’t get a good vibe from the HR rep or the hiring manager. It’s not that the interview didn’t go well, I feel confident, they asked me for writing samples, and spoke about next steps. However, I just don’t feel like I will “fit” there. Walking around the building, it was completely silent where you could hear a pin drop, everything felt rigid. It didn’t seem that there was much group dynamic…and in all honestly you spend more time with your coworkers than you do your family…that is very important. I walked out of the building thankful that I was going back to my current job.
I have to write my thank you letters and I am strongly considering withdrawing my candidacy, as I cannot imagine myself working there. I was just wondering how anyone else has handled this or if there is anyone in HR that thinks this is a good move? I honestly do not want to waste their time as I know they are looking to fill this position as soon as possible, as the hiring manager will be on disability come next month.
Any insight will be helpful 🙂 thanks bees!
Post # 2
I think it is very respectful. You can even tell them another opportunity came up and you have to withdraw your resume at this time. We had that happen at my former employer and nobody minded. Obviously, we really liked that person but at least we were able to move on without any hiccups. It’s better to let them know now than at the time they offer you the position. Or, even worse, take it and then leave because you really don’t like the atmosphere.
Post # 3
SoonToBeMrsD921: I’ve done this. I actually had two interviews in one day and get an offer on site from the second interview and accepted it. I just included in my thank you note that I accepted another position and that I would like to thank them for their time but withdraw my application. You could lie and say you got another position (probably the easiest) or simply say that you have decided to withdraw your resume.
Post # 4
I have on a couple of occasions. I teach, and I knew after each interview that the schools were not going to be the right fit for me. I also teach something very specialized that few people are certified for in my state, so I told them fairly quickly afterwards that I was withdrawing my name in case I was a final candidate. Both times I called and sent a follow-up email thanking them for their time but that I was withdrawing my name. I think most people appreciate that so that they know they can move on to the next candidate.
Post # 5
SoonToBeMrsD921: WITHDRAW! There’s nothing wrong with turning down an opportunity you have absolutely no interest in.
I turned down a job offer in the middle of an interview! It was the first job I was offered an interview for out of college, so of course I was excited/nervous and so happy someone called me back for an interview. I was told the position was an entry-level marketing (office, which was stated on the job description) job and given a series of interviews over three days. In the middle of the third day I was told I was going to my final interview with a current employee at another location, so we get in her car and drive to what I thought was another office building somewhere close-ish. NO. We drove a half hour away (I kept asking where we were going) and stopped in the middle of a residential community to do, SURPRISE, door-to-door canvassing. You also didn’t get paid if you didn’t sell anything (commission-only). I blew up, called a cab (and my fiance, crying my eyes out), and called my lawyer since the job was so terribly misrepresented and they had wasted three days of my time. The ad for the job said “office” and “salary,” so they were pretty much screwed. Worst interview ever.
Post # 6
Thank you everyone 🙂 Thing is I really don’t want to lie and say I received another offer…(damn honesty getting the best of me!).
I honestly just started looking for new jobs to see what else is out there as things have been a little off at my current employer (our manager left and our new one is eh…). Even though I don’t see me working at this other company, I don’t want to burn any bridges as they might know people I know in the industry.
Post # 7
I’ve done it, and not because I got something else, but because when I met the guy who would be my boss he came across as a total dick, and I figured if that was how he acts when you first meet him, it can only get worse when you work for him.
I waited until they emailed me for references, and I just said that after some consideration I didn’t think we were the right fit for each other, and I wish them luck with the recruiting process. They emailed me back to say thanks for my honesty, so I’d say it went over fine.
Post # 8
SoonToBeMrsD921: Don’t settle! If it doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. Go with your gut on this one. Also, side note, am I the only person who has never heard of writing a thank you note for an interview? I have never done this and I haven’t ever heard of anyone I know doing this.
Post # 9
Thanks so much everyone! It’s definitely a place I just don’t see myself working in, don’t want to leave a so-so situation for what could be potentially bad. It makes me feel better that others have done this as well. It kinda felt like I gave up right away, but I have been in a bad work environment before and I refuse to get myself into that again if I can help it.
MrsTywinLannister: Oh MY GOD! I would cry if that happened to me…that is so sneaky!!!
Post # 10
FutureMrs.Huemiller: Maybe its a location thing? In the northeast (since College) we were instructed to write thank you notes after being interviewed.
Thanks for the advice!
Post # 11
SoonToBeMrsD921: Yes, don’t lie about accepting another offer! I withdrew from 2 previous job opportunities and one had asked me where I ended up accepting and the other also asked where I accepted and told me they would love me to reconsider and pay me more than where I accepted. I really did take a new job but it would have been uncomfortable had I lied!
Post # 12
SoonToBeMrsD921: I did, believe me, and I hardly ever cry. I absolutely lost it. The cab driver thought I was attacked since I was such a mess!
Post # 13
I nearly did but they were ringing back within the week so I figured I would wait to hear the outcome before letting them know. I didn’t get the job anyway (relief) and she gave full extensive feedback which was great for me – win win. But if you know they are looking to fill the position soon then you can definitely let them know now. Its very respectful to politely decline and you can even tell them why – not that they are a bad company but that you honestly didn’t think you are the right fit. Tell them thankyou for everything they have done for you so far and wish them luck finding the right candidate.
P.s good for you- so many people take jobs they know they wont like out of panic or fear to speak up and decline an offer. I think we often forget that we should be interviewing them as much as they are interviewing us!
Post # 14
SoonToBeMrsD921: I live in California and write thank you notes. Out here it must be fairly uncommon sense I usually receive a thank you from the person or they will say it was a nice touch when I start.
I’ve interviewed a lot of people and never once received a thank you note – the closest thing I guess would be a candidate I met at a college job fair that wrote me a very personal and well-throught-out e-mail thanking me for taking the time to speak with him. That kid was a rockstar anyways, he didn’t need to remember that we spent a minute or two talking about cycling to land the job.
As for the dilema – I would politely decline. You can always say that your situation has changed unexpectedly and that you must (regretfully) withdraw your application. It is unexpected that you would feel such a bad vibe that you wouldn’t want to work there – but might as well be courteous if you may run into these people professionally. I doubt they would pry and ask what changed.
Post # 15
SoonToBeMrsD921: I also always was taught to write a thank you after an interview. (Kansas)
I agree with pp, I would think it would be most polite and respectful to withdraw sooner rather than later.