Post # 1
I work at a newspaper and we ran a story this week about a guest at the wedding (and friend of the couple!) stealing about $1200 in wedding cards from the couple.
I hate to say this but our family unfortunately has a few people who have money/drug issues and my parents are kind of concerned.
Our reception site provides a birdcage for cards. Now I’m wondering if maybe a card box with just a slot might be better?
I feel horrible writing it, but it is a discussion I am now having. I guess if someone is determined to steal than nothing will stop them.
Post # 3
I remember a thread about this…someone had a locked box because of their concerns.
Post # 4
YES! Totally thought of this (I have drug users in my family also who have already stolen the inheritence of their siblings) and we are having a locked chest for cards. It will also be at the front of the room due to the layout of the area, that way one can walk out of the hall with anything unnoticed.
Post # 5
I’m nervous! My one side of the family are Gypsies (no joke). Unfortunately, they are not the most trust worthy of people. My mom’s mohter (I refuse to call her my grandmother) is the worst! I am using a birdcage but I am paying my little brother to keep watch. I thought about using a box but I’ve read stories where people have stolen the entire box though!
Pretty sad, isn’t it?
Post # 6
Could you put a very small gold or silver lock on the bird cage?
How about one of these?
Post # 7
Yes I am and it’s because I have heard that this is happening more and more frequently (that’s why they are now weighting card boxes, just likes safes). In fact, I ACTUALLY WITNESSED it happen at a friend’s wedding. (The bride and groom saw it happen too, so it was their issue to deal with that guest directly).
Our venue recommends that the card box stay out until people are seated for dinner, then it is moved to a safe location (locked away somewhere out of sight) and any cards that have not been placed in the box can be given directly to bride/groom’s parents (whoever you want it to be).
I have heard that this is a particularly BIG problem at venues that are also public locations and those that have more than one wedding at the same time. Make sure your gift table is IN YOUR RECEPTION ROOM and get someone you trust to remove the card box before dinner is served.
Post # 8
I went to a wedding recently where there was no place for cards. They had to be handed directly to the bride/groom or their parents. Not a bad idea, if you ask me.
Post # 9
I plan on having the guest book attendants watch the card box during the actual ceremony and then it will be moved indoors for the reception. We will leave it on the gift table for the very start of the reception (as people come in, if they have a card to drop off) but after a short while, one of my attendants will take the bird cage and lock it up in one of our cars. If anyone has a card later in the evening, they can give it directly to us.
Post # 10
I’ve also been mulling over this card box dilemma. My DOC has reccommended NOT having it locked in a car, but I’m wondering where is a good place for it to be? Is it safe just sitting with a guest? or would it be safe locked up in the bridal salon??
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
Our card box was fine locked in the bridal salon. We do have one missing card, but I’m following up on it, and I’m not sure the guest put it in the card box.
Post # 12
I worried about that too, so we moved our box in the middle of the reception and my DOC from our church watched it for us. We had DH’s parents take the gifts and cards back to their house so we could open them later, and all our cards arrived there safely.
Post # 13
Most weddings I have been to have the card box near the guest book on a separate table, with an attendant sitting there. Choose someone you trust to do that and that person will make sure that the card box goes to a safe spot before dinner and can even take it home with them. You could pick it up later.
Just make sure it’s someone you trust. I remember reading a story on here about a bee whose sister stole her wedding money 🙁
Post # 14
Yup! I will be setting up our gift table, card box, and guest book within our reception area rather than in the main area of the venue. Our guest book attendants will keep a watch on it until our coordinator locks it up or we have Mr.ND’s folks run them home (haven’t decided what we feel safest with).
Since the box we recieved as a gift is too hard to place a lock on due to its design, I plan to pin it to the tablecloth (in the back, were folks won’t see it). Then, if someone tries to walk off with it, it’ll be VERY obvious. We’ll tell the coordinator and his folks so it can be unhooked before locking it away.
Post # 15
Locking it is nice, but they can just pick it up and take it. I saw a girl that put sleigh bells in hers, so that if it moved, she knew!
Post # 16
I also attended a wedding where a random person came in the front door and tried to steal the cards. Thankfully someone noticed and chased them out.
My recommendation, whatever you decide to do with the box and a lock don’t put it near the front door, or any door for that matter.