(Closed) long distance parenting?

posted 5 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Military families do it a lot, how well or what advice thwu have I’m not sure but you’re certainly not alone or less of a good mother because of it! 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

These years are critical for kids who will look after them?

 

@gut_feeling:  

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

I think the important thing is that they will be well looked after and you have taken that into consideration with your choice. And in the long term you being employed and employable is a responsible thing to do for your family.

I guess this situation is like a lot of bicoastal divorced couples. I think as long as you make the provision to be in contact with the kids (via phone/skype) and that they or you can come for visits and maintain your relationship, then it is all you can do.

It will be hard but you have to look at the long term picture as well.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

Sound like you have it covered then:)

Its going to be hard for you but knowing that they are with there dad is really great.

Sometimes life throw these curve balls at us and you know what it only makes us stronger.

I wish you all the best on this challenging journey.

With Skype I sure you will be able to chat with them all the time.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

In today’s world of technology you have more options than ever for staying connected to your kids.  Make sure you make a consistent plan to talk to them regularly and send them things- doesn’t need to be expensive- postcards are cheap! 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I know I’m not in the same situation as you, I have my kids 50% of the time. But a quote someone told me once that has always stuck  “It’s not the quantity of time you spend with your child, it’s the quality of time”.  

Just be there, keep connected, talk often!  I don’t see my kids every day, due to divorce, but I talk to them on the phone every night before they go to bed when they aren’t with me.  

Like PP, use skype also 🙂 

Stay strong! 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Motor museum

Is there anyway at all you can not go? There has to be some way we can think of to keep you with your children 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

isn’t there any way at all to take the children with you? what do THEy say?

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

@gut_feeling:  Goodluck I wish you all the best:)

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

What do your children want?? I don’t mean to sound negative, I grew up with a sometimes absent mother, but never for a positive reason like work. My childhood was hard because there wasn’t a constant. My mother dipped in and out as she pleased. I’m in no way implying that’s what you’re doing. 

As long as your kids are happy with the decision and have a constant in their life, like their dad, then it should be fine.. If they aren’t happy with the decision, it will be difficult. 

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

As long as you keep in touch and make sure they know that you love them, I think you’ll be okay. Kids are resilient, generally. Be there for them in any way you can (email, Skype, Facebook, etc.). Send pictures. Talk to them. Keep up on what’s going on in their lives. Tell them you love them every day. Things will be okay!

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