Post # 1
Newly married Bee here — been married just over a month! I’m really loving married life so far.
We had about five different events around the wedding, and the weekend after my reception, I was back in the office working.
I have all these things I would like to do, but when the weekend rolls around, I just want to sleep. I slept in until 10 a.m. today, and now I’m contemplating a nap! I really *should* do the groceries, but part of me just wants to sleep. It’s not depression, just laziness and feeling, well…really tuckered out. (I should add that I’m also totally unmotivated and distracted at work, and I am brainstorming about my next big project, but haven’t decided what I want to do with my free time outside work.)
Anyone else feeling like this about a month after your wedding? Maybe it’s the result of having a to-do list of almost 300 items before the wedding…
Post # 3
I’m on summer vacation, and I am soooo unmotivated. I just found out that I’m teaching a section of seventh grade. I’m also teaching two classes at community college. This all starts in a few weeks. You’d think I’d be planning….no I just sit here. Stupid couch!!!!!!
I ironed yesterday…!!
Post # 4
YES. So much so that I can’t even formulate a proper response.
Post # 5
@PrincessPerry: Love your response. It’s perfect!!
Sometimes, I feel like like I should *really* kick my butt into gear and get moving — do the groceries, go for a dentist appointment, clean the apartment, get going on my post-wedding project, be more motivated at work.
But then, the couch calls.
I just woke up from a nap.
Post # 6
@peachacid: Maybe this is all normal. After all, we did just throw the party of a lifetime. (In my case, five different events all around the weekend.)
Naps are underrated.
Post # 7
@bombaysapphire_13: YES. I’ve been married for about 2 months and I’m still in honeymoon/vacation mode. I was eating so restrictively before the wedding and then I started eating like crazy on the honeymoon and haven’t stopped since! I keep saying i’m going to start working out again but I just feel lazy. I was going to sell some wedding stuff and start decorating our house, etc. but I haven’t managed to start a single project. I still feel like going out to dinner every day, drinking, and just relaxing LOL. I feel totally unmotivated to do anything!!
Post # 8
@bombaysapphire_13: I understand about the basic things not getting done. I live like 7 miles from town, and you would think the nearest store is like 6 hours away. DH told me if he had to wipe his ass with paper towels EVER AGAIN, he was going to seriously consider leaving me. Needless say we now have TP, but no paper towels. Fail.
NO one around me understands that I don’t just want naps, but I NEED naps. A three month long one, thankyouverymuch. That shit was stressful lol. I told DH we should have planned this for two weeks before I went back to school. Maybe I wouldn’t be such a slug lol.
My day so far has consisted of.. slept until 9am.. not my fault really, DH got up to go to work and was SO loud he woke me up. Took some pictures with my new pretty camera of DD, played with online editing stuff, printed them out so she could give them to her Momma.
Layed down and channel surfed.
Now I am surfing WB and trying to decide which photo editing software to buy that isn’t going to A. make me have to take out a loan. and B. make me blow a fuse when I try to figure it out. I’m thinking Elements 11.
I have exaggerated a bit for comedy, but my level of “get up and go” from pre-wedding to now, is just GONE. In fact, this has taken all of my energy. Must. Lay. Down. I think there should be a support group for this sort of thing.
Post # 9
@sofiekitty: PLEASE don’t get me started on the post wedding eating habits. This part is not exagerated for comedic effect. I promise. Bought one of those Entermann’s box of glazed donuts yesterday. It came with EIGHT. Eight freaking donuts I tell you. Guess how many I ate in less than 24 hours. Eight of them.. DH looked at them, I snarled and he walked away slowly. He knew better. Crazy man would have pulled back a stub.
Post # 10
I still feel like I’m on honeymoon mode too lol. Totally unmotivated to do certain things and it is probably because I am so exhausted from wedding stuff. I’m halfway through our thank you cards (had them made with pro photos so we were behind a bit) and all I want to do is not do them lol. I guess it didn’t help that I was sick for about a month after the wedding. I agree with PP that prior to the wedding, I was a DIY machine. Where did all that energy go?? Second a support group! 🙂
Post # 11
How funny! Glad to know it’s not only me who is feeling this way…
Here’s the million dollar question: How do we get motivated again?
Post # 12
@bombaysapphire_13: Well I’m certainly no motivating good example for ANYONE!
married 6 1/2 months now, and effective immediately after our ceremony/party weekend, EVERY FIBER of my being “gave up” having ANY initiative at all!
we spent most of 2012 in a legal battle with DH’s ex (we were victorious, thankfully), got engaged, began combining our Brady Bunch, remodeled and redecorated an entire three floor house, planned and hosted our own In-home ceremony & bash, and after that…generally just trying to keep the kids and ourselves fed, clothed, housed, and educated, is more than enough!
I have big dreams that somehow, soon, or at least by 2014, motivation and I will meet again for a much needed rendevous!!!
Post # 13
I slept in til noon today. I hate going to work, I just want to sit at home all day with DH. I have a list of things I want to do that I haven’t started, we are moving in two weeks and we haven’t started packing, and I haven’t hung out with any of my girlfriends since the wedding! It’s so sad….
Post # 14
It wasn’t till fairly recently that I started getting motivation back LOL….give yourself some time to relax & enjoy being newlywed, you have the rest of your lives to work on task lists : ) I think it’s normal to want to lay low after any big life event.
Post # 15
Yes! I’m so glad it isn’t just me. I think part of it is, I planned for a year and a half and now I’m not sure what life is like without working two jobs and planning a wedding! I feel unmotivated and kind of sad it’s all over. Guess it is time for a new project 🙂 Maybe saving for a house or decorating our townhome!
Post # 16
Pfft, I was lazy by my Honeymoon. We took naps that lasted at least an hour every single day of our Honeymoon. I remember waking up at one point to my husband laughing…he then told me, “You looked like a zombie.” I felt like one after the wedding.
I think it’s normal. A few months after the wedding, I felt rejuvenated and started getting back to my life – seeing folks, working out, working more, etc.