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I pretty much literally am sort of throwing a family reunion haha. My dad's family was supposed to have a reunion this past summer in North Carolina where my grandparents live. But my grandmother became too sick so they called it off. My dad called everyone and said, "HotChildintheCity is getting married next summer! We'll just all get together then!"
As for my mom's side, our family is so huge that weddings are pretty much the only time we all see each other in one place!
YES!
my fiance's family is from california and mine is from nc. many of our family members have never even met yet, so it's going to be a family "introduction" and "reunion" all in one.
sometimes, when i start to get stressed about details and the expense of it all, i remember that this is probably going to be the ONLY time EVER that all of the family members are assembled in one place. pretty cool, actually. it reminds me that it's actually worth every penny, and going to be amazing.
I kinda do. One side of FI's extended family actually pretty much said that they're coming now to have a family reunion, which is fine, but we kind of thought that these family members were definite no's considering FI doesn't know half of them - and they barely came down for their grandmother's funeral two years ago.
We actually planned the wedding to pose as a mini-reunion at a location fairly inexpensive and convenient to all (Vegas) instead of Hawaii where we live. Was much easier to coordinate than trying to get all these people to the islands at the same time.
@ hotchild: We had a similar experience. My dad's side of the family has said that they are going to have a summer family reunion every year for the past five years, like they start planning and getting dates and locations together but then nothing ever actually happens. But this year was the first year no one really tried to plan anything so I think that they are thinking my wedding makes a nice subsitute and less work for them! Oh well, I am glad as long as I can see uncles I haven't seen in 20 years! Even my siblings haven't all gotten together in at least five years.
Yes! The sad thing is, my family doesn't regularly attend family weddings. They will all show up at a funeral, and then talk about how we need to all get together under better circumstances, and then there are better circumstances, and they all have something better to do. I may have ranted just a little bit about that to my mom just after I got engaged.
I am definitely throwing a family reunion! My family has not been together in the same place for over 4 years, and that's just my immediate family! I have felt a lot of pressure to do it for them...
My groom wants to elope because no one gets along in my family, and they don't want to get along... I don't know what to do!
I am! I have about 30 extended family flying in and thinking they're all staying at my parents' house...yea probably not gonna happen. We haven't all gotten together in years so our wedding is basically acting as a family reunion. It's going to be soooo busy and crowded!! I don't think I'm even going to have a place to sleep at my parents house around wedding time :-(
ours turned out that way and i loved it. i was the first grandchild so it was like a family reunion about me (and my hubby).
I am definitely rowing that boat! Our wedding is a destination wedding and since both of our families are spread out all across the country, this will the A) a big get together for everyone who hasn't seen each other in forever, B) the first time our families will meet eachother. And since it is taking place in a location where no one lives, it is more of a full weekend event - family reunion all the way.
Yes. We are having about 400 guests, So it will be like a mini family/class reunion.
Definitely! My FI has not seen his aunts in ~10 years and they are all coming. In fact, most of our guest list is family because we wanted to keep the size at something manageable (~80).
I really did in the beginning when we were putting together our guest list. We wanted a smaller wedding because those have been the weddings we've enjoyed the most (50 people or so, total). Well, we hadn't thought about the fact that we both come from big families. After putting together our lists with aunts, uncles, cousins, stepfamily, and SOs for everyone we were over 80 people and just family! I feel like were are organizing four, simultaneous family reunions. I felt even more like I was planning a reunion when we got into reception planning. But, once we started thinking about our ceremony it has felt more like planning a wedding, so I guess it kind of is two events in one but part of having a wedding rather than eloping is to celebrate with family and friends.
Ugh YES and not happy about it. I love how my mom never had any interest whatsoever in maintaining real relationships with extended family when I was growing up so I don't actually KNOW any of these people in any real way, but now that there's a wedding involved we "HAVE TO" invite X,Y, and Z people and that means these people too and blah blah blah. I'm like, really mom? Really? You didn't give a shit about them before so why now? So annoying.
Oh wow, yes yes and definitely yes. I feel the exact same way, lol. All of our "courtesy invites" we sent out, (y'know, for the people that you don't really expect to come, but are pretty much required to send an invite to anyway?) yeah... pretty much all of them came back with "YES!! We'll be there along with so and so!". This is including family i haven't met before (at the behest of grandparents and such) as well as my deceased father's family, who i've seriously only met only a handful of time in my 27 years. So yeah, my fiance and I will be spending the evening going around to the tables going "OH HI! Nice to meet you!" to almost half of our wedding, lol.
I am pretty much! We planned ours around my FI's family reunion. Our wedding is Friday and his reunion is sunday. Normally only a few people will end up coming from out of town but since The wedding EVERYONE is coming!!! People are serisously coming out of the woodwork! We ended up switching venues b/c our previous one could not hold all of us and now we have maxed this place out too! I just hope my fiance knows everyone! He is soooo bad at that! Luckily we have been together for 7 years and I know most of them but I know there is alot of people that he has NO idea who they are! its going to be interesting!
Kind of! I hope they remember there's a wedding in the mix too! :P I mean, one of FI's uncles was going to have their big wedding anniversary party the day after our wedding! Sometimes I wish we went ahead with the barefoot-on-the-beach route......
YES!! I do feel like I'm planning a reunion, meet and greet, mixer & wedding! It's esp hard when we can't invite everyone to everything - like the rehearsal (it'd be as big as the wedding). I hate excluding people. Also nobody knows the city where the wedding is - only FI and I live here and I can tell everyone's a little intimidated by that.
the worst part (vent) is that we signed a contract for block of hotel rooms and we may not fill them. YIKES!! With 175 guests invited I figured we could book 18 nights but we're 1.5 weeks away and only 7 nights booked. This could be bad. Since people don't know the city they may be booking hotels far away - and not getting OOT bags - suckers! I tried.
almost as if you are to single handedly get everyone together to enjoy festivities, like it desnt revolve around your wedding at all? I know the feeling all too well!
yes indeed! and it's scary cause my family is crazy! but i want everyone who helped raise me to be there, sane or not! =)
gonna be a wild party!
*sigh*
So after inviting family and the wedding party to the rehearsal dinner, that was 85 people - and that only extends to the first cousin circle... this is because his family is very small... about 24 people on both sides. At first, I wanted it to be wedding party and immediate family only. When FMIL insisted that her brother be there, that opened the floodgates for my 13 aunts/uncles... then when she said that her two nephews needed to come, here come another 13 cousins, not including their significant others (or their children)... and the cousins I've never met but still need to invite so that we're not pissing anyone off...
At this point, I dance a little when someone can't make it, because I'm already past overwhelmed.
Ours is definitely a wedding AND a family reunion and we are really happy about it!
I'm really close to my extended family and feel like I don't see them as often as I want to, so I guess that's part of it. FI has a smaller extended family but feels the same.
But I can certainly understand how it would be frustrating if one feels obligated to invite extended family but doesn't want to.
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Probably the biggest reason why we decided to actually have a wedding rather than just elope was so we could bring together family that doesn't get together very often. And while I don't regret making the choice to throw this big party I can't shake this feeling that I am throwing more of a family reunion than a wedding. Does anyone else feel like this?