Post # 1
Probably the biggest reason why we decided to actually have a wedding rather than just elope was so we could bring together family that doesn’t get together very often. And while I don’t regret making the choice to throw this big party I can’t shake this feeling that I am throwing more of a family reunion than a wedding. Does anyone else feel like this?
Post # 3
I pretty much literally am sort of throwing a family reunion haha. My dad’s family was supposed to have a reunion this past summer in North Carolina where my grandparents live. But my grandmother became too sick so they called it off. My dad called everyone and said, “HotChildintheCity is getting married next summer! We’ll just all get together then!”
As for my mom’s side, our family is so huge that weddings are pretty much the only time we all see each other in one place!
Post # 4
my fiance’s family is from california and mine is from nc. many of our family members have never even met yet, so it’s going to be a family “introduction” and “reunion” all in one.
sometimes, when i start to get stressed about details and the expense of it all, i remember that this is probably going to be the ONLY time EVER that all of the family members are assembled in one place. pretty cool, actually. it reminds me that it’s actually worth every penny, and going to be amazing.
Post # 5
I kinda do. One side of FI’s extended family actually pretty much said that they’re coming now to have a family reunion, which is fine, but we kind of thought that these family members were definite no’s considering FI doesn’t know half of them – and they barely came down for their grandmother’s funeral two years ago.
Post # 6
We actually planned the wedding to pose as a mini-reunion at a location fairly inexpensive and convenient to all (Vegas) instead of Hawaii where we live. Was much easier to coordinate than trying to get all these people to the islands at the same time.
Post # 7
@ hotchild: We had a similar experience. My dad’s side of the family has said that they are going to have a summer family reunion every year for the past five years, like they start planning and getting dates and locations together but then nothing ever actually happens. But this year was the first year no one really tried to plan anything so I think that they are thinking my wedding makes a nice subsitute and less work for them! Oh well, I am glad as long as I can see uncles I haven’t seen in 20 years! Even my siblings haven’t all gotten together in at least five years.
Post # 8
OH my yes!!!! i do. why cant it just be small and about us?!?!
Post # 9
Yes! The sad thing is, my family doesn’t regularly attend family weddings. They will all show up at a funeral, and then talk about how we need to all get together under better circumstances, and then there are better circumstances, and they all have something better to do. I may have ranted just a little bit about that to my mom just after I got engaged.
Post # 10
I am definitely throwing a family reunion! My family has not been together in the same place for over 4 years, and that’s just my immediate family! I have felt a lot of pressure to do it for them…
My groom wants to elope because no one gets along in my family, and they don’t want to get along… I don’t know what to do!
Post # 11
I am! I have about 30 extended family flying in and thinking they’re all staying at my parents’ house…yea probably not gonna happen. We haven’t all gotten together in years so our wedding is basically acting as a family reunion. It’s going to be soooo busy and crowded!! I don’t think I’m even going to have a place to sleep at my parents house around wedding time 🙁
Post # 12
ours turned out that way and i loved it. i was the first grandchild so it was like a family reunion about me (and my hubby).
Post # 13
I am definitely rowing that boat! Our wedding is a destination wedding and since both of our families are spread out all across the country, this will the A) a big get together for everyone who hasn’t seen each other in forever, B) the first time our families will meet eachother. And since it is taking place in a location where no one lives, it is more of a full weekend event – family reunion all the way.
Post # 14
Yes. We are having about 400 guests, So it will be like a mini family/class reunion.
Post # 15
Definitely! My FI has not seen his aunts in ~10 years and they are all coming. In fact, most of our guest list is family because we wanted to keep the size at something manageable (~80).
Post # 16
I really did in the beginning when we were putting together our guest list. We wanted a smaller wedding because those have been the weddings we’ve enjoyed the most (50 people or so, total). Well, we hadn’t thought about the fact that we both come from big families. After putting together our lists with aunts, uncles, cousins, stepfamily, and SOs for everyone we were over 80 people and just family! I feel like were are organizing four, simultaneous family reunions. I felt even more like I was planning a reunion when we got into reception planning. But, once we started thinking about our ceremony it has felt more like planning a wedding, so I guess it kind of is two events in one but part of having a wedding rather than eloping is to celebrate with family and friends.