Post # 1
The more details I plan (or don’t plan) the more I feel like my reception is going to be random and has no real theme/vibe. We are having a traditional fall wedding in NH but I’m not sure how it is all going to come together. I look at all of the wonderful weddings planned by the bees and by brides on Style Me Pretty and wonder how they do it!
How did you decide on your vibe and what are you doing to make sure your reception is not a mishmosh of random decor??
Post # 3
We don’t have a "theme" per se but we do have cohesiveness through color. I personally do not like themed weddings.
Post # 4
I feel the SAME way! (maybe it’s NH related, as I’m from there haha!) I’m really nervous my color scheme will not go together and it will just end up looking weird. I’m planning a wedding out-of-state and it’s been hard to get everything to match so we’re doing "shades of blue." Dear god I hope it works haha!
Post # 5
We don’t have a theme, we hardly have colors, our wedding party are all wearing clothes of their own choosing (we asked the bridesmaids to wear any blue dress, the groomsmen to wear any black suit and white shirt and we are providing different blue ties).
Here’s my general thoughts on the matter: it’s a wedding!! Weddings are about celebrating your love and combining your two families and friends. People aren’t going to be upset that your wedding isn’t "themed" or if things don’t perfectly match–they’re there to rejoice and enjoy the company of others. That’s all that matters!
Post # 6
I know, I know. We don’t want a "theme" either, but I’m still trying to figure out what our vibe is. Our venue is more formal, but we want it to be not as formal so are trying to incorporate fun elements. I don’t know…
Post # 7
I think style theme is what I prefer. I have seen "a perfect pair/pear" just too much as of late. I agree with the others..cohesiveness through color and style. I have a loose themed idea but it’s going to be fused through style (Old South meets Old Hollywood) but only maybe a little theme tossed in. Like a literary quote here and there from a favorite southern author or from a movie.
Post # 8
We are having a hint of a theme throughout our ceremony and reception. We’re doing a Detroit Redwings theme, colors and little aspects are going to be present throughout our ceremony and reception. Examples, instead of flowers, the groomsmen are wearing red "A"’s (stading for Assistant Captain) while my FI will have a red C on his lapel standing for Captain. Our place cards are actual set in acrylic ice cubes. It’s little things like that that I like but I didn’t really want a huge theme that stuck out. We decided on this because we’re both red wings fans (obviously!) but we also wanted aspects of our lives to be present in the wedding, like our favorite BBQ place is catering, we have board games on the table, we’re having a snack (cookies and milk) served at like 10:30, things that are so us! I think that’s more important than then having an overall theme!
Post # 9
Now that is a cool theme..It’s definitely not everyday nor cookie cutter. Btw, T loves the Redwings and we watched the championship last year!
Post # 10
Yeah, I have a feeling that we’re going to have a mish-mash of elements. I was stressed about it for a while, but I’m starting to get to the "It is what it is" point. Mostly I’m worried that the set-up will be massive and we won’t be able to achieve what we’re envisioning!
Post # 11
The fear of mish-mash will probably strike you even if you DO have a theme. Instead of wondering, "Will this look good with that?", you’ll start wondering "Does this fit with the theme? Does it speak to the theme the same was as that?" In my experience, it was just one of the things about the wedding where you can have a general idea of how it’s all going to look (heck, you can even do mock ups of all kinds of stuff if you want) but ultimately, you kind of have to wait and see it all come together.
What kind of mood do you want at your wedding? Does the venue itself make any kind of statement? That’s where we started for inspiration for our wedding decor.
Also, let yourself off the hook a tiny bit about Style Me Pretty–I drooled over many of those weddings too but it’s important to keep in mind that most of those wedding are planned by wedding coordinators and event planning companies.
Post # 12
I’m in the same boat…
We don’t have a theme, and my fiance thinks it’s crazy to even be worried about it. His thought was: "it’s a wedding – it’s a party – as long as people have a good time, and WE have a good time, then we’re fine!"
I totally hear you, though, on at least wanting a certain "vibe". After giving it lots of thought, I finally came ’round to the fiance’s way of thinking. Our "theme" is going to be "things we (the couple) love". For example:
– He’s a huge Mets fan, so we are having the tables named after famous players
– We both LOVE to read, so we have literary quotes on the programs, notecards, etc. Also, our save the dates are a "see dick, see jane" theme…
– He’s Puerto Rican and I’m Irish, so we are having two signature drinks at the cocktail hour: one with rum and one with whiskey.
– We love to salsa dance, so we’re getting a salsa band
– Family is MUCHO important to us, and we are setting up wedding portraits of family and friends on an "inspiration table"
I’m also thinking of doing some explanations of the above on the reception menu/program/something, so that people who attend the wedding can know where we’re coming from and why we’ve chosen to highlight the "loves" listed above.
So, I think as long as it makes sense to you, and people understand the meaning behind your decor, then you don’t have to necessarily have a traditional theme per se. It’s the little details that make a wedding special, and anytime those little details are personal and bring the guests into the fold of "who you are" as a couple, then you have a successful theme!
Best of luck!
Post # 13
I actually prefer no theme also. I’m trying more to have cohesiveness yet I’m not concerned if its mis-matched if everything has a similar "vibe". I guess in some ways a theme is falling into our laps, but nothing is done intentionally.
Post # 14
I’m definitely in the same boat too! I really don’t want to feel like I’m locked into a theme, but I want to have the different things we love and that our families and friends would enjoy and have a good time with. Somehow I would like them to fit together though… I feel your pain! I’m in the beginning stages of planning and I have so many Style Me Pretty and Snippet & Ink boards marked as favorites, but now I’m trying to figure out what "works" without being too theme-y.
Post # 15
I really think the theme thing is overdone. Just pick out stuff you like that doesn’t clash. The theme will be classy event celebrating our marriage. What more do you need?
Post # 16
I don’t have a theme, just colors. As long as I can look at it all at the end of the day and take with me the memories of us all having a great time, I will be happy.