(Closed) Marrying an only child? Anyone feel like they're missing out?

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: Do you feel like you're missing out? If you're marrying an only child.
    Yes, I'm sad too : (11 votes)
    12 %
    Nah, they're a pain anyway! : (20 votes)
    21 %
    I don't care either way : (24 votes)
    25 %
    I like turtles. : (40 votes)
    42 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    9917 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I don’t like the term gypped. 

     

    Anyway, brother and sister in laws aren’t all they’re cracked up to be.  

    Post # 4
    Member
    11327 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I think most people would probably want/hope for marrying into a fun family with awesome siblings in laws, etc. But even if he had a big family, that is NO guarantee they would cause more joy than stress 🙂  

    I would certainly love to have married into one of those cool tv families with in laws that become my best friends and all that jazz, but thats just not what happened. I do have a sister in law, but she lives in NYC and honestly I don’t think we’re destined to be friends. Mostly my in laws are not a part of our life. It is what it is.

    Post # 5
    Member
    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Nope. To me it’s one less person who hates me in his family and who wishes he would have married within his race.

    If his family accepted me then I might feel differently. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    1928 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Honestly, I’m jealous of you. I wish FI was an only sibling, FSIL is a nightmare. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    2247 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I wish on a daily basis that DH was an only child.  So does he.  It’s really not all that it’s cracked up to be.  If you have siblings of your own, cherish them.  Rarely will your relationship with an in-law match that of the relationships with your own siblings.  At least, that’s how I feel.

    Post # 9
    Member
    376 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I myself am an only child. I always wanted little brothers/sisters. I really wanted to be an Aunt and knew I never would be because of being an only child. I don’t know why it didn’t occur to me that I could be an Aunt through marriage. My FI has one brother who lives in another country. They are not close and most likely he will never have kids. But I like the idea that I have Aunt potential now 🙂

    Post # 10
    Member
    285 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I’m wondering if this isn’t a “grass is greener” kind of thing, because I tend to agree with you on this one although everyone with in-law siblings tends to disagree. For me, it’s more about the voerall size of his family- I grew up with 8 cousins on my Dad’s side and 9 on Mom’s, and we’re all fairly close, so it feels absolutely alien to me that there are so few people in his family. He has a total of two cousins, and this blows my mind.

    Post # 11
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    3886 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    The term “jipped” is derogatory and insulting. OP perhaps you can edit your title before your editing time runs out?

    At any rate, if you ever met my fi’s family, you’d be in no hurry to have si;’s and bil’s.

    Post # 12
    Member
    2874 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @fishbone:  im not sure i heard of the expression, what does it mean adn why is it derogatory?

    Post # 14
    Member
    9917 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @newname_99:  

    @X0JLYNN03:  

    “Gypped” is arguably the most commonly used racist term in existence today. If someone buys a used car that turns out to be lemon, for instance, he’s likely to complain, “I got gypped.” So, why is the term offensive? Because it equates the Gypsy, or Roma peoples, with being thieves, cheats and con artists. When someone says that they “got gypped,” they are essentially saying that they were conned.

    Explained Jake Bowers, editor of Travellers Times, to British newspaper the Telegraph: “Gypped is an offensive word, it’s derived from Gypsy and it’s being used in the same context as a person might once have said they ‘jewed’ somebody if they did an underhand business transaction.” But don’t take Bowers’ word for it. If you’re still debating whether or not to use the verb “gypped,” consider that Philip Durkin, principal etymologist at the Oxford English Dictionary told the Telegraph that there’s “scholarly consensus” that the word originated as a “racial slur.”

     

    Post # 16
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    9917 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @X0JLYNN03:  Thank you for changing it.  I hope you learned something!

     

    Also, I think people are right about the whole “grass is greener” concept.  People with siblings might not want them; those without want them.  It’s like having curly hair.

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