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    judithsr    October 16, 2011   Hastings, NY/Wedding Bear Mountain, NY

    This may be my own self imposed pressure, but in the search for a wedding dress, I feel like I have to find something that's actually a wedding dress, complete with frills and lace and jewels and all that sparkly stuff.  But really, I'm a pretty simple person and I don't like super fancy stuff.

    Anywho, in flipping through a bridal magazine (feeling girly enough already!) i came across an add for a bridesmaid dress, and reallllllllly like it as a wedding dress.  It's totally the style I like, minus all the froo-friness.  I showed it to one of my friends, whose going to be a BM...her inital reaction was, wow it's simple (though I think sometimes she doesn't QUITE get me...I mean, mostly she does, but sometimes...)  And I showed my best friend, whose my MOH...she said it would be cute. 

    So, I think I'm being overly paranoid about what I "should" do and have to get into what I like is what I should do mode.  :-)  Anywho, I attached a pic of the dress I like (the one on the right in white/cream/ivory, etc). 

    So, thoughts, opinions, affirmations are appreciatied!  :-) 

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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    I was actually encouraged to get an affordable dress. Everybody told me I'd regret spending too much (on top of the whole wedding, ya know?) and they were RIGHT! I think the dress on the right would be BEAUTIFUL as a wedding dress.

     
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    alundberg    February 13, 2010  

    I thought I wanted a plain dress and put on a fancy, glitzy dress and fell in love. That said, I think you need to do what's right for YOU!! If you aren't into the fancy-schmancy dress, don't get one just to appease your family and friends. Get what you LOVE!!! That dress is gorg.

     
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    menobride    June 5, 2011   NH

    This is my dress, and I am second guessing for the same reason. But, I onlyh spend $275 on it (of course, alterations will pump that up a bit)

    You can't see it in this photo, but there are sparkles going across the ruching. 

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    menobride    June 5, 2011   NH

    Oh, and i think the dress you chose is beautiful!

     
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    princess poolau    October 11, 2010  

    i think that dress would be beautiful as a wedding dress!

     
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    Vonnegurl    June 12, 2010  

    Yes, I hear you! That dress is gorgeous, and what I try to remember is that my groom gets to wear his suit again--but my dress is just for one day.

     
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    Mattel    November 6, 2010   WNY

    That dress is beautiful! What color would you order it in? In my search for a dress, I found that there's also a huge market for more simple dresses. I say just go out and look at them, don't discount bridal shops. But most of all, be true to you, I think one of the most important things is to represent yourself and your personality on your wedding day.

     
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    futuremrssteel    August 27, 2011   Kansas

    I love that dress. They have something very similar to it as an online only dress at David's Bridal. I have been debating ordering it but not getting to try it on makes me nervous. Go with what you love and ignore what everyone else says!

     

    This one http://www.davidsbridal.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplayView?storeId=10052&catalogId=10051&categoryId=3001962&currentIdx=8&subCategory=-49998493|3001898|3001962&catentryId=6165414&sort= is close to the same look but not quite the same. The price is fabulous though!

     

    and I love this one http://www.davidsbridal.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplayView?storeId=10052&catalogId=10051&categoryId=3001962&currentIdx=35&subCategory=-49998493|3001898|3001962&catentryId=6165420&sort= but am probably too scared to order either of them

     
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    judithsr    October 16, 2011   Hastings, NY/Wedding Bear Mountain, NY

    Thank you everyone for the encouragement!  I think I need to realize that you're all right...more important to be happy than make others happy.  So thank you everyone!

    Oh and menobride...I love your dress!  That's beautiful.  And amazing how low cost it was!

     
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    cakegal    August 14, 2010  

    I love simple dresses, and I think that is a great choice. I think some elaborate wedding dresses look more like costumes! I chose a simple dress as well.

    Anyone feel pressure to get a fancy wedding dress? :  wedding Alix Kelly Wedding Dresses Kate

    If you have any doubts look at this simple bride- I think one of the most beautiful ever!

    Anyone feel pressure to get a fancy wedding dress? :  wedding Carolyn

     

     
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    brittanymichelle    June 5, 2010   Cheyenne, Wy

    mine has no sparkles, or gems. it has rouching around the waist and it's not straplessAnyone feel pressure to get a fancy wedding dress? :  wedding 133

     
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    brittanymichelle    June 5, 2010   Cheyenne, Wy

    p.s. i think that would be a perfect dress for a wedding! don't feel pressured to buy a 'wedding dress' when you can find something that is you even if it's not labeled

     
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    2dBride    October 6, 2009   Washington, DC.

    My wife and I both had relatively simple dresses with no beads, ruching, etc.  I really preferred it that way.  In the more ornate dresses, people tend to say, "Oh, that dress is gorgeous!"  In the simpler ones, they tend to say, "Oh, the bride looks gorgous!"  I prefer the second.  ;-)

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