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Girl, I feel you, but I'm lucky because mine lives in Nevada and we live in the Carolinas. :)

What I have learned is that it's always best to be honest with your FH about how his mom makes you feel, although don't vent about EVERYTHING she does. With that said, if she says something that puts you on the spot or makes you uncomfortable, tell him how you feel once you go home and ask him to back you up the next time she does something like that. For instance, my sister's MIL is always trying to commit them to babysit for his brother's kids or attend family events, so she and her husband have a rule that they talk about all engagements in private before making a decision. 

Good luck! Remember that everyone has crazy MIL stories, so you are not alone! Maybe you could plan a weekly girls' night with your friends on the night she comes over... haha just kidding. :P

I'm glad you guys talked and he could see where you are coming from! Wow, my family is the exact same way with my fiance. They are always talking about how great he is, and they never put him on the spot or ask him any awkward questions. My future MIL is the total opposite of that with me! At least you are marrying him, not her; always remember that! ;) haha 

Yeah, there's always an adjustment and I think there always will be an adjustment.  For us, my MIL was used to making plans and having her son follow through with few questions asked.  The thing is, she doesn't tell me the plans!  I have relatives nearby so I'll go visit them or we'll plan a little date for the two of us (and yes we ask before we go visit her if there's any plans).  She just doesn't decide until the last minute and then I've ruined everything.  She overall is very nice but only has sons and I don't think she's being competitive but just isn't used to having another girl there who makes plans.  Yeah, in my case she just isn't used to having a daughter who has her own ideas, she's been used to going into her sons houses, decorating them how she pleases and reorganizing them.  They've been fine with that but now we're married we're slowly chipping away at her coming in and doing those things (gently, ever so gently) but I can't find anything after she leaves!  But her older son's live in gf is even more particular than I am so in a way it's good because I give her more room than the other sons gf does.