Anyone feeling "over" it?

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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2052 posts
Buzzing bee

@DrD711:  Sorry for your week, sounds like it’s not been a good one with the family and friends issues, that will put me in a bad space too.

Yes, I have days where I am over it more and more lately, but I think for different reasons than you.  When SO and I first established a clear timeline, which is to be married in 2 years, I got REALLY excited and started coming to these boards and thought, this is great, I have MORE than enough time to plan a wedding.  Not sure if you read the blog portion of this site, but as Mrs. Ruckasack put it–‘Wedding Planning Kind of Sucks’.  Because honestly, I could only pin so many ideas and DIY projects before I realized that A LOT more goes into weddings than ‘just’ picking a color scheme, type of flowers, dress and a meal.  It’s a lot of hard work, it’s expensive and exhuasting and enough to get overwhelmed with the thought and eloping seems like a better idea!!!  LOL.

Shortly after that post (which you can still read on the blog today), I decided to STOP all wedding planning and just save for our wedding, and whenever it happens, I’ll stress about it then.  BUT after feeling exhausted with the planning without being engaged, it was actually enough to make me totally okay with waiting a year or more to put it off as long as possible!  LOL!!

Post # 5
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Helper bee

I thimk all waiting bees feel the same at some point. I only come on here every few mos now. It’s not that I’m not happy for others just over it until it’s my turn. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

@DrD711:  I can see your points, I’ve given that a lot of thought, notsomuch about the fact that we can ‘die’ at any point, but it’s true.  For me, SO is about to head off on an internship and we will now be in an LDR for a few months.  I have been busy figuring out what’s next (SO can’t pay two rents, therefore I’m working on figuring out the living situation, dog situation, researching trips to take to see him, etc)…and indulging in retail therapy, both online and brick and morter lol!!

@MrsGarrityToBe:  I’m still on here more than I should be–It’s def something fun to pass the time with when SO is working or if my friends aren’t avail haha!!  I used to be on all the boards and now I’m mostly just hanging out in the waiting hive just for fun.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

@DrD711:  i’ve been over weddings for awhile now. one of my former co-workers got engaged in dec 2010. it got me thinking about my SO & such things. but, as usual, life came along, and everything to do with marriage etc was pushed to the  back burner. i still glance at wedding mags, & come on here occasionally. but most of the time, i just don’t care. it’s no longer the sole focus of my existance. if it happens, cool, if not, i’m not going to meltdown each time we pass a jewellery store, lol.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

@DrD711:  Not just you. Until our financial situation turns around, we won’t be getting engaged. I’m past the point of feeling eager about it, and I’m just focused on getting us to a point where we don’t have to worry about finances (as much).

Post # 10
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2516 posts
Sugar bee

@DrD711:  I think that’s what I did too! I was so excited about all of the details, but I’m definitely over that now. I don’t think I’ve looked at a wedding blog in months.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Alexander Homestead

@DrD711:  I think I am TOTALLY in that place right now. So much so that my SO is actually more talky about it than I am, which I never thought possible! We had lunch last week and I mentioned that i was so optimistic about the new year because “we would have new staff for our business, I would be on less committees and had more free time to look forward to,” and SO chimed in, “Yea, and you’ll be getting engaged!” and I just causually thought about it and said  “Yea, that too.”  No butterflies, no gushing, just…blah. Undecided I think I have experienced every emotion on the spectrum to the point that I think I burst my bulb and I am fizzled out. I am very much like “Whatever.” right now.  I love SO, I’m looking forward to our future, and I guess I am just not sweating the small stuff. Got enough stuff to worry about with work, money, and everything else that my body is conserving my energy for emergencies at this point I think. LOL!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Alexander Homestead

@DrD711:  WOW! Surprised That is the PERFECT analogy! “I scared myself back to reality.”  We are truly one in the same.  I, too, was completely shocked at how totally obsessed I became and I think I literally burnt myself out! I enjoy logging on to the Bee now that it is engagement season and seeing who I recognize that was a waiting bee like myself (especially during the deepest period of my obsession) and has now experienced a recent engagement, but unlike before, I don’t feel any of the excitement and anticpation for myself like I did when I used to stalk the boards.  I kinda feel like, “Whenever he does it (prob Valentine’s) then that’ll be cool. Then i can scratch it off my list.” Is that bad? LOL! I love SO beyond measure and he moved in with me this year in April which was such a boost to our relationship so I guess in a way I am realizing not much is going to change once ‘he puts a ring on it’.  It’s gonna be kinda hard to be happier than I am right now, I think, so Im ready to go with the flow instead of being on the verge of my head exploding. Laughing

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