(Closed) Anyone feels you are all alone during the whole planning process?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

**HUGS** I feel your pain. My BM’s were pretty much unavailable to help me & forget the Bestman who actually came AGAINST me alot of our planning…

I do however think that you should have a chat with your FI about him helping… b/c whether he “cares” or not it is his wedding too, and he’ll appreciate it on the day of when everything is done & his guests are happy that you did it.

Have you thought about maybe doing a more traditional ceremony? and cutting your to-do list?… That’s what I did and it SAVED my sanity!… AND they weren’t missed the day of.

Get your to-do list concrete & in front of you and start cutting it down… THEN delegate, without option. Your FI can pull some weight, make some phone calls/emails, and lighten up the load….. b/c planning a wedding is ALOT easier and lighter than making a marriage… which you could always kindly remind him of that ๐Ÿ˜‰

Don’t eat b/c you’re stressed…. drink MORE water… and try try try to get some sleep, regardless of what is still left to do.

I promise that you’ll get more down in the next few weeks than you ever thought possible and in the end it will not only be worth it but you’ll realize that for 1 day you stressed way too much. Take a deep breath and proceed with your planning ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@LittleBruin: Oh my dear {hugs} I am completely going through the same thing right now.  No help whatsoever from anyone but my Dad when he has the time and my FI slightly but he knows nothing really.  I’m really upset with my Mother and two Maids of Honors who are my sisters, they have really done nothing for me.  Now, you still have a little over a month until your big day.  You can do this!!  Here is a good one month before wedding Bridal Stay Fit guide to help you. 

Stress is the number one factor to keep you feeling your best the month prior to your wedding. Getting enough sleep will do you wonders at this stage of your wedding planning process. If you are just starting to think about getting into shape, be realistic, and recognize that change is going to be tough at this point. Having said that, there are things you can do:

1. Get 7.5 – 8 hours of sleep a night.

2. Drink enough water. All beverages help, and just focusing on it will help you stay tuned to your thirst. When you feel hungry and don’t think you should be, start with a tall glass of water.

3. Bridal Workouts. Try to get in 2 -3 per week for 30 minutes. Something is always better than nothing. Keep them simple, and even if you can only grab 10 minutes here or there, do it. The stress reduction you will get from the workouts will make a huge difference in how you handle the stress of the month leading up to your wedding.

4. Massage. Take time to take care of yourself. Getting a weekly massage can help you feel great, relaxed, and pampered. You want to feel good from the inside out a stressed bride is not a fun bride.

Post # 5
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4606 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I know what you’re going through,, all too well.

I get very little help in real life. My mom hates FH and has made sure that I know it, FH doesn’t really care about anything wedding related, my BMs aren’t really helpful either, except for one, but I can only talk with her via Facebook because she’s not even in my state right now. All I have is FMIL and her work schedule is so weird right now I don’t have much time to ask her for advice or to bounce ideas off her.

Stress can be… unpleasant. I have 15 months to go and I’m already starting to stress out, but I also have school. I’ve started walking up and down my street (it’s short and it’s a dead end) when I get too stressed (about anything, not just the wedding) and drinking plenty of water. So far, it seems to keep me in check.

((HUGS))

 

Post # 6
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486 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Me too… I literally started crying yesterday my FI was looking at me in shock. My BM’s all live out of state and My mom is out of state. So u have 0 help it’s a tuffy but it’s almost over and at least we will be able to take all the glory! ๐Ÿ™‚

Overall, I think I would have been done liek 3 months ago if A.) I wasn’t such a detailed person who wants to constantly add cute touches and B.) if I had normal people who RSVPed on time I could have been done long ago.

 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Luckily my gf is a planner and I’m Type A.(I had everything planned in a month.)  My suggestion is you put together what’s left and start enlisting help from various ppl.  Also use google, yelp, weddingbee, and weddingwire.  I was able to find my photographer, officiant, MUA, cupcakes, hairstylist and florist through these sites.  I even purchased my dress online. 

Also my minister provided me a detailed ceremony template so I could pick my vows, prayers, etc.  Plus the timeline was given so there won’t be any surprises.

If you need vow suggestion, goggle it. 

Yeah, the stress will get yeah so I’m using MyFitnesspal.com to keep me on track.  And I’m losing weight cause ppl are driving me crazy.  Its only 50ppl so I’m not spending extra money to send out STD.  That’s why you got an email or phone call. I soo can’t wait til this event is over.

Good Luck!!!!!

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