Post # 1
I’ve shown my guy wedding dresses to get a feel for what he likes and doesn’t like. Sure, I’ll wear what I want, but I do want my guy to like it.
The problem is he doesn’t like any wedding dresses! Well…..98% of them anyway! He doesn’t like lace, he doesn’t like pickups, he doesn’t like trumpet or mermaid shape, he doesn’t like tea length, he doesn’t like too much sparkle, he doesn’t like texture, he doesn’t like dropped waists……the list goes on!
Some of the things he doesn’t like I don’t either, so great, but I just can’t seem to find many he likes! And on the rare occasion I do show him a dress he likes, he can’t tell me why. Then I will find a dress that is similar and he wont like it. He’s just totally inconsistent! He likes the way mermaid and trumpet dresses make a girl look curvy, but hates the way they flare out. I’m like…”Honey…it has to flare out so she can walk!” He thinks if the dress comes out from the body at all it’s too “poofy”.
Anyone have this problem and are a little terrified of picking out a dress?
Post # 3
@Tunacupcakes: I would say, you need to pick your dress because YOU like it. Ultimately, you will glow in what YOU love, regardless of whether or not it would be his choice. At the end of the day, he’s going to love you in whatever you choose as long as YOU love it, because that feeling will carry you down the aisle with beauty and confidence. If it truly is important to have his blessing, however, and you feel that knowing he loves the dress ahead of time will help make YOU love the dress yourself, then maybe revisit the dresses he did like, don’t expect him to verbalize exactly why (we’re talking about men here! haha), and out of those he likes, pick the one that you also love out of that pile. Are you having him come along to salons? Or are you going to have your dress be a surprise?
Post # 3
I honestly think that whatever dress you are wearing he will love because you are wearing it and you are getting married. I actually didn’t ask FH at all about what he does or doesn’t like in dresses. He has no idea what I am coming out in. Don’t be scared… pick out the right dress for you and I know he will love it too.
Post # 4
@tuscanbride: “maybe revisit the dresses he did like, don’t expect him to verbalize exactly why (we’re talking about men here! haha), and out of those he likes, pick the one that you also love out of that pile.”
This is a good idea, except that he is inconsistent. I have showed him a dress, had him say he likes it, then when I showed him another dress that was very similar had him not like it. The dress will be a surprise so I wont be shopping with him. I just have always thought that the dress should be a mix of things both people will like.
@jessjess: I’m starting to think that I should have just not asked in the first place! lol
Luckily the wedding wont be for a while so I have plenty of time…but I’m just freaked out that he hates practically all wedding dresses!
Post # 5
I agree he will think you look beautiful regardless because its you, the woman he loves and its your wedding day. What about a sheath style? It’ll make you look curvy yet it doesn’t flare out and isn’t trendy. Very classic. Think Pippa Middleton, maybe a little less sexy. What style do you love?
Post # 6
I’m so sorry. I worry that my guy won’t like my dress and he is very consistent and likes dresses similar to mine. But I agree that he will love you no matter what you wear. You should find a dress that you love, but maybe avoid the few things you know he really hates. Although, how a dress looks on a model, and how it looks on a real person are very different. Some dresses look really weird and awkward on models, but totally beautiful on real women.
Post # 7
I think it’s difficult for a man to really envision a dress– especially when in photos on models they look really wierd. There have been so many dresses I thought were ugly until I saw them ON the bride, and I couldn’t believe how gorgeous they were. My guy is terribly fashion-backward, so I don’t pay attention to his opinion. Bring ladies with youwhen you try on dresses, for they will know what’s flattering on you. I guarentee when you walk down the aisle he will think you are the most beautiful woman in the world!
Post # 8
@Tunacupcakes: Well if he doesn’t like 98% of wedding dresses like you said and is so inconsistent, then I don’t think he’s the best person to be bouncing ideas off of. haha. I would just take him out of the equation, maybe stray from anything too over the top, since it sounds like he probably won’t like a poofy bedazzled ball gown, but other than that, make your decision for yourself. He will honestly be so overwhelmed when you are walking down that aisle toward him that it won’t matter what you’re wearing!! 🙂
Post # 9
@HZ: I totally agree! I wrote my post before reading yours, then realized we said the same thing! Great Bees think alike!
Post # 10
@7-9-11bride: It’s funny you mention a sheath dress. He thinks the most elegant piece of clothing is the toga.
@HZ: I’m sorry you worry about this too, but I’m sure you have nothing to worry about. Especially if your guy has been more helpful with his feedback.
@LittleDee27: You’re right. A lot of the models look strange. I think sometimes he can’t separate his dislike/like for the models face from his thoughts on the actual dress.
@tuscanbride: *nods* I should probably just cut him out of this area of planning. Maybe I’ll show him so many he wont have a clue what I’m going to buy. That and I’ll threaten him with one of those see-through corset dresses with TONS of fluffy pickups on the bottom.
Post # 11
OMG!!! My FI is exactly the same way. I know that he can be pretty picky about things so I wanted to make sure he didn’t totally hate the dress I’d be walking down in. I showed him lots of dresses and he found something wrong with every one. Sometimes he would say a dress is ok, but then I would show him THE SAME DRESS on either a different model or a different pic I got off the web and then he wouldn’t like it. -__-
In the end I decide that he probably won’t even notice the dress and just picked something I loved… =)
Post # 12
Honestly, he will love whatever you pick because you are wearing it. Go with what you want to wear.
Post # 13
I was orginally worried about that at first but I decided he didn’t have to wear it and as a guy he doesn’t have much to pick from for his wardrobe so isn’t able to create a real opinion. 🙂 hee hee! But seriously, I think you should get what you like and feel like a million bucks in because that will be what you exude which is what makes the dress. He’ll be so flabbergasted from the glow you have from feeling so gorgeous and just at the sight of you that he will love anything!
Post # 14
I second the suggestion of a sheath dress, depending on your figure. This one is so classic and amazing – it hugs the curves, but not super tightly, and it doesn’t flare at the bottom:
Post # 15
I think you should just get what you want and not worry about what previous comments he has made! He’ll forget all about the dresses he doesn’t like when he sees you in your dress!