Anyone get married without a ceremony?

posted 2 years ago in Legal
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May

I’m not sure I’m too helpful but we had considered this option. In our area you apply for your license and then make an appointment with the clerk. Your married in the court house, no fuss no muss. I actually find this to be incredibly romantic ( i know I’m weird!). Definitely call town hall and ask for information, it’s usually incredibly cheap and fairly easy. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May

akirasan:  I agree that the information online seems confusing or limited. I believe here it was simply the cost for the license with no additional cost. Usually the clerk does it by appointment. Also the town mayor will marry couples and my friend offered to call him and have him marry us ( they’re close friends? Surprise!). I can tell you my grandparents were married in the court house in New York back during WW1 and my in laws were also married in town hall. For us it was a definite option but we wanted to be married outside so we hired an officiant for our elopement on the beach. Good luck- I think it’s an awesome plan!

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2014

In Colorado, you can still “self-solemnize” your marraige, which is what we are planning to do. You get a marraige license ($30 here) and indicate that you’ll be your own officiants/witnesses. Also – you do not have to be a Colorado resident to do it!

You can then do as much or as little as you want, but you and your FH sign as both the participants and the witnesses. It is really cool! You can even go so small/informal as walking out into the hall, signing it, and walking back in to file it. We thought it was crazy romantic to be able to say “I marry you” and not have to get any other person’s permission/blessing to do so. 

The only thing they suggest is to get more original certified copies than normal, because some states might only accept an original certificate due to the self-solemnization. Bonus though – they cost like $5 each I think.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We did that, and had our full-on wedding a few weeks later. We got our license, went to a Justice of the Peace, and signed the paperwork without bothing with vows or anything like that with my sister and mother there as witnesses.

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