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    meremarty    July 2010  

    I live in California but am getting married back on the East Coast (in 6 months)! I'm just wondering what others in similar situations due about dress shopping.  Do you buy your dress in the city you're getting married or buy it at home.  What about alterations?  Do you ship your dress?

     
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    simply_elegant    July 3, 2010   Austin,TX

    Yes! I am in the same situation. I live in Texas and I am getting married in Minnesota on July 3, 2010--Just like you! I'm stressing out too...I'm to quite sure what to do. I went home over thanksigivng and went dress shopping with my mom, sister and grandmas. I'm so glad I got that experience. I found a dress that I kind of liked but not loved. I think it would be easiest to buy it where you live. Just so you can do alterations easier. What I am planning to do is to buy my dress here and take it on the plane as my carry on item (which I recently saw a bride do) or carry it in my car depending on how i decide to get there. Its been a challenge to plan a wedding from afar, but we can do it meremarty! I'm using theknot.com and its helped me prioritze things.

     
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    sombra    September 10, 2011  

    I think I would purchase the dress in the location that you live in. It will make things much easier when it comes to alterations.

     
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    meremarty    July 2010  

    I was thinking I'd just carry it on too... but I had to carry on a dress for a wedding a couple weeks ago (that I was just a guest) and they made me put it up in the bins.  It didn't get too wrinkled.  I guess if I box it up maybe it will be ok?  Glad to know someone else is in the same boat! It's a bit of a pain planning from the other side of the country!

     
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    mayeast06    5/1/10   NYC

    i think there are some posts similar to this - im in the same situation myself. i live in NYC so it was a no brainer that i'd get my dress here. but then be faced with the problem of transporting it to south carolina.

    supposedly the thing to do is just to carry it on the plane with you. if you can fit it into a suitcase that can be carried-on, that's the thing to do, then gently steam the wrinkles out when you get to your destination. also, evidently if you call ahead to the airline and let them know they might be able to make special accomodations (ie. hang it in the first class coatrack) but given how airlines are these days, im not counting on this.

     

     
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    aekarlen    July 24, 2010   Ferndale, MI

    I bought my dress in Wisconsin where I am getting married.  That way I can fit in alterations while I am in town doing other wedding details and my dress doesn't have to do any major traveling :)

     
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    lkbphmd    August 7, 2010   MN (ceremony in Omaha, NE)

    I bought my dress where I live now but I will be able to drive instead of fly, so it is a bit easier.  The bridal salon told me to just make sure to have the air conditioner on and keep air circulating and the dress should do fine.  If you are flying, contact the airline beforehand- I've been on flights to the Caribbean where the brides dress hangs in the first class closet, even if she isn't flying first class.

     
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    bridetwobee    July 24, 2010  

    I live in Illinois for Grad school, but I'm getting married in California. I did all my dress shopping here and found my dress 2 weeks ago! It's so much easier that I can get my alterations and fittings done here. I also loved going with my friends and sister who live here as well. It really added to the experience.

    I am just planning on taking the dress with me on the plane. My sister did it last year and the flight attendants actually just let her hang it up with their jackets in the back of the plane so it wouldn't get bumped. I'll probably contact the airline ahead of time (thanks for the tip!)

    Also, the shop I bought it from agreed to steam it right before I leave so that it will be as wrinkle-free as possible. 

     
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    aqua    June 5, 2010  

    I live on the West Coast and am getting married on the East Coast in less than 6 months. It was important for me to pick my dress out with my mother so that factored into my shopping. I looked on my own where I live now once or twice, but the real shopping I saved for when I was back home with my family.

    We bought mine in the area where my wedding will be held. For me personally, I still consider where my parents live - home. It's one less thing to deal with for me because it's close to where the wedding will be and no issues of having to travel with it, whether car or plane.

    However, if I was not getting married in my hometown and instead having a destination wedding in a place where no family lived, then I'd purchase it where I live and then figure out how to get it to the location.

     
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    bamm    June 5th 2010/August 15th 2010   Seoul

    I'm living in Seoul but also having a wedding in Southern Ontario.  My friend's mother is a flight attendant for Air Canada and she told me that hanging my dress in 1st class is entirely up to the kindess of my flight crew.  A friend of mine who lives in Korea but is getting married in Egypt and Ohio had huge problems getting her dress from Seoul to Cairo.  I'm trying to find a direct flight home, and trying to buy a dress that won't wrinkle very much.

    Miss Poodle also had a great way to take your dress on a plane if you are of the crafty sort:

    http://www.weddingbee.com/2009/10/22/how-to-travel-with-a-wedding-dress/

     
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    meremarty    July 2010  

    Thanks for all the advice.  I'm leaning towards buying my dress here and trying to pack it carefully in a small carry-on.  Then just making sure I'm there in time to have any small wrinkles pressed out.  Hope it works! 

     
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    ProudPeacockBride    August 13, 2011   Washington

    I'm almost getting married out of state - I'm on the very tip of one side and our wedding will be held on the very tip of the other side! About a 400 mile seperation! From what I've learned, do as much as you can in your home town. Don't assume that things you need or are planning on will be in the out-of-state area. Good luck!

     
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    qasiaraine    8/3/09  

    I live in CA and my wedding was in WA and I got my dress down here.  My dress went through a LOT to get to its final destination and came out great!

    For the trip up the dress got put in a tri-fold garment bag (that wasn't really long enough for the dress) and stuffed in the overhead bin...I was actually in first class and didn't have an option of hanging it up.  It was probably in the garment bag for 4-5 hrs until I got to my mom's house.  Then we hung it up out of any bag for the 3 days we were there to keep it from getting more wrinkles.  On day 4 it went back in the garment bag and stuffed in a car where it remained for 4 whole days before we got to our destination where we could actually hang it up again.  It had about 2 days to hang before getting worn for the wedding.  On the morning of, my mom used a handheld steamer to steam out any remaining wrinkles (there weren't many and it didn't take very long despite the 4 days stuffed in a bag).  It looked perfect in the end.

    Just sayin...it's probably not nearly as big of a deal as you're worried it will be (I was worried too!).

    It does depend somewhat on the dress material, but my dress wasn't exactly what you would think of as 'travel-friendly'....fairly plain satin (so wrinkles would definitely show on the skirt), 100% silk ball-gown.  In my experience, silk fabrics will wrinkle much more easily than synthetic fabrics...but the wrinkles will also come out more easily.

    Good luck!

     

     
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    sewing    July 2010   SF Bay Area / Oahu

    I'll have my dress with me in CA, then bring it to Hawaii.  I hear sometimes, if you ask nicely, the flight attendents will let you store your dress in the first class coat closet, which is better than being shoved in a suitcase or overhead bin.  I'm hoping that's the case.

     
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    QueenBecca037    04.05.09   Atlanta, GA

    We live in Georgia and got married in Florida where we're originally from (and our parents live).  I got my dress in Atlanta and after arrived, and alterations were complete, my dad drove up for a visit and brought the dress home with him in the car.

    Since you're getting married on the other side of the country, I don't think driving the dress is an option for you :(  If you're getting your dress at a chain, I'm sure they'd ship to an East Coast location for you.

    Penga's idea is a good one about the first class coat closet.  I'd feel better having the dress on me personally than sending it on a trip across the country unaccompanied! 

     
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    Chachacha    June 2010   Minneapolis, MN

    We are getting married out of state and I decided to get my dress where the wedding will be taking place. I felt it would be easier to not have to worry about transporting it and it isn't too much of a hassle for me to get up there and get alterations done. Plus, I bought the dress in a state that doesn't have tax on clothes, so I saved a bit of money that way.

     
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    phedre    August 9, 2010   New Orleans, LA

    I live in New Orleans, am getting married in Hawai'i, and I bought my dress in Dallas, lol.  My parents are in Dallas so I figured it would be easiest to shop there with my mom and I will probably go to Dallas a few days before we leave for Hawai'i for the wedding anyway.  As for my dress, I plan on getting a good garment bag and bringing it on the plane and asking the flight attendant to put it in the captain's closet.  I thought about shipping it but it scares me too much!!

     
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    crayon78    October 2009  

    I bought my dress in NYC and did the alterations here, and then shipped it to Hawaii to arrive over a week before the wedding, so I would have enough time to make FedEx find it in case it didn't arrive on time.  It all went really smoothly, so I was able to sleep the entire flight there and not worry about the dress at all once we were on our way!

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I would definetly buy it where you live now so that alterations are easier.  The only thing that worries me about these girls who say they are shipping them is how are you going to get the dress pressed at the other location?  I don't know if all dresses are bad but mine was in serious need of a steam and press before I wore it or I would have looked like a walking wrinkle!

     
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    ebs1123    July 9, 2010   Omaha NE

    I live in New Jersey and am getting married in Nebraska. We started looking when my mother was out here and found my dress at Kleinfeld's in NYC. No one in Nebraska even carries the line, so buying it back there was out. I'm doing the alterations and such there and I think having them ship to Omaha for me - I don't want to have to get it back to my place on the train, then on two planes.... I feel safer, honestly, with a huge pile of insurance and a lot of prayers for FedEx.

    Extra bonus? Since I'm shipping out of state, no sales tax!

     
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    skibobrown    July 31, 2010   CA (wedding in Bar Harbor, ME)

    I am another bride living on the west coast and getting married on the east coast.  I bought my dress in Boston and I will be doing the alterations there.  I will see the dress over the holidays when I'm back east, and then alterations will presumably happen this spring when I am home for my bachelorette and then during the week before my wedding when I will be home again.  The wedding is in Maine, so my dress will be making the car trip with us up to Bar Harbor. 

     
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    crayon78    October 2009  

    Because of how we packed it, the dress wasn't too wrinkled when we got there but we had the hotel press it overnight.  I don't think it would have fared any better if we carried it on the plane since the bins were so stuffed on all of our flights, so we probably would have had to press it anyway.

     
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    Mrs2theDr    April 16, 2010   Chicago, IL

    Initially I lived in D.C. and just relocated to Chicago. Our wedding is in Dallas and been planning long distance for over a year. I purchased my dress in Dallas and got alterations done over the Thanksgiving holiday. I will have another fitting in March, when I return for my bridal shower.

     
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    otb    December 31, 2009   Chicago, IL

    Because I am getting married in my "home" state (i.e. where I grew up), I got my dress there, and got it altered there.  It's sitting at my parents house now, in the closet in my old bedroom.  I haven't thought how I will get it to the city I am getting married in (2.5 hours from mom and dad's) but I think I will have them bring it, so the FH doesn't even see the dress bag! Lol.

     
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    2dBride    October 6, 2009   Washington, DC.

    A lot depends on your availability for alterations.  In our case, we were getting married in Massachusetts, but were not arriving there until the day before the wedding.  Thus, we bought our dresses in the DC area (where we live), got them altered here, and took them with us up to MA.  If you are getting married near your family's home, and will be seeing them several times before the wedding, it may make sense to buy it there and have alterations done when you are in town anyway.

     
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    Mermaid1082    September 4, 2010   St Louis, MO

    I bought my dress where I live and then will bring it home with me the week of the wedding.  I am driving home (couple of hours away) but I've heard of people shipping it.  Miss Poodle carried hers on, if I remember from the blog.

     
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    Shellybeth    January 1, 2011   South Bend, IN

    I am in a similar situation. I am getting married in Indiana but live in Pittsburgh.  My home state is Indiana and my fiance is still living there so I plan on moving back before the wedding but I want to start dres shopping soon. What worries me is that I am currently looking for a job back home and as soon as I find one I will move back, I just hope that doesn't happen in the time between purchasing the dress and having it come in, or in the middle of alterations. I guess I will have to just cross that bridge when I get there. Wish me luck!!

     
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    amanda5morris    June 2, 2012  

    @aekarlen: What did you do about the Marrage License since you were from out of state?

     

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