Post # 1
So far I have gone dress “shopping” twice, once with my best friend/MOH and once with one of my BM’s. The problem is, said MOH lives in NY and we only went because I was in town for the day (I live just outside of DC), and other MOH (yep, having 2!) lives in Philly, along with another BM. The rest of my family also lives in NY.. so you can see how it’s a bit difficult to coordinate.
That being said, I do have 2 BM’s who live close, but our schedules are very different; ideal times to go shopping for me are not always ideal for them. So now I enter the possibility of going dress shopping/looking alone.. any other brides (to-be) who have done this? Was it hard for you?
I know I won’t buy anything, especially not without my mom being there, or at least seeing the dress. It just makes me a little sad that I don’t have my close family and friends to go with me!
Post # 3
It was easier for me. I went with my mom twice and all my maids and the FMIL. Eventually I went myself and that it when I found and bought my dress!
Post # 4
I went to a bridal shop by myself, it was efficent, but not fun!
Post # 5
i went with my mom… i did think of going alone but am glad i went with her.. cos everyone else had their mom or moh there for extra support
Post # 6
I realized that I should have searched this topic more before I posted, but that’s ok! Found several other bees who went by themselves too, with sentiments ranging from happy about it to regretting that no one was there when they picked “the one”.
@CantWaittillMAY I have the feeling it may end up being easier for me, too. So many opinions! And I always try to make people happy, so it could get messy 😉
Post # 7
I did go dress shopping alone, and it was kind of a mixed experience. First I went with my three best friends, and that was really fun, but I didn’t end up finding a dress I loved. Also, though I love my friends, I felt like there were some dresses I liked more than they did, and my opinion sometimes got lost in the mix (we went to three different stores that day and I tried on about 20 dresses!). I live 2000 miles away from my family and close friends so we had to pack it all in one one weekend visit.
Then I think I had two or three more dress-shopping trips on my own. They were kind of sad. the saleswoman has to fill in as your friend, and take pictures for you, and tell you that it looks good, etc. Also, being alone in those “peacock rooms” as they’re called, when other girls have their moms or friends, is kind of depressing, I won’t lie.
However, when I finally did end up finding my dress. I was also alone. In this case, I actually liked being alone. I felt empowered by making the decision on my own, and maybe it’s also because I liked to store and the sales people, and I was their only customer that day. My mom and sisters didn’t see my dress until the wedding, and they loved it. I don’t know what to recommend–it is a little sad, but it can also be okay!
Post # 8
I went alone twice. It was much quicker than going with everyone. Both times I was asked, “Are we waiting for people?” I think it’s more common to go with people, but I enjoyed going alone too.
Post # 9
I went alone, and enjoyed it thoroughly. I did find my dress while I was with a friend looking for HER dress, and she made me try some on, but the decision was my own. I think my mom was sad that I didn’t take her with me before buying the dress though… 🙁 Oops.
Post # 10
The first time I went dress shopping I went with my mom – and that’s when we found my dress. But I didn’t buy it until a few days later and I went to the store on my own and tried on the dress alone just to make sure that I was sure. I preferred being on my own – just because I got to stand in the dressing room and take a deep breath and be on my own for a moment.
Post # 11
I went alone! I HATE shopping and did not want to make a thing of it. I went to one dress shop, and bought a dress during my first visit. No muss, no fuss.
My one bridesmaid and my mother both live very far away from me. If they lived closer I might have brought them, but I am sercretly glad that I didn;t have to!
Post # 12
I went by myself. My mom doesn’t live in the same state as me, or else I would have gone with her. My bridal party is all local, but honestly, we all have such different tastes that I know they would have been picking out dresses I didn’t like, and insincerely complimenting the dresses I did like. I did it by myself on a Friday, took way less time than I thought it would. Then again, I’m a pretty low maintenance bride.
Post # 13
It’s kind of a personal thing. Some brides can’t make a decision without others; some just want the moral support and then there are brides like me who really don’t want the pomp and circumstance. I went alone.
But it sounds like you just want some reassurance that it’s not weird or a bad experience to do so–and honestly, it’s not. The advantages to shopping by yourself is that it’s a lot simpler and easier and you can concentrate better on things. I actually think that for you, it’s ideal because you can narrow down a selection or a suitable silhouette and save the refining to do with your mom–remember that for your BMs and your mom, it’s fun to go dress shopping when we’re talking about 1 shop and 5 dresses; it’s not so fun to be dragged around to 4 shops and like, 30 dresses. I think they’d prefer if you did the “scouting” a little before bringing them in.
Post # 14
I know the feeling! My MOH and BMs live ALL over the country. I’m going next weekend to NYC to look at dresses with my MOH, BM and mom (she’s flying in from CA). I live in DC as well and don’t have any close friends here that I would go shopping with either.
I’m thinking about going alone this weekend to a couple places so I have an idea and then hopefully going to those places with my friends and mom next weekend. But it’s so frustrating. I know I won’t buy anything without my mom seeing it, but I shop better on my own anyway. We’ll see how it goes! I hope it all works out for you, but I don’t see anything wrong with going by yourself.
Post # 15
Thanks for the supporting words and advice everyone!
@JennyW1 Absolutely understand the whole 1 shop/5 dresses thing.. I think you’re right, going alone will let me focus on me and what I want, and then I can show my mom/whoever else after I have narrowed it down a bit.
@jenewitt Fellow DC bride? We should go together! Lol.. but in all seriousness, that sounds like a great idea, to look around a bit on your own so you have a better idea when you get together with your mom and friends. Good luck!