Post # 1
I have been given lots of a fantastic advice surrounding my broken engagement and will be taking that advice – so thank you bee community!
But i am wondering if anyone out there has managed to mend a broken engageement? My ex-fiance and I broke up after 8.5 years together, 2 months before our wedding.
Post # 3
Well, I have never experienced a broken engagement, but I do think that in the vast majority of cases, a broken engagement is too much of a hurdle for a relationship to overcome. I mean, if you’re serious enough to be engaged, you don’t end the relationship over nothing. A broken engagement is an indicator that there were some major issues in the relationship, and those issues won’t magically disappear just by ‘getting back together’.
I am a very firm believer in the saying ‘It’s a called breakup because it is broken’.
Also, if your ex were to come back, what’s going to stop him from breaking the engagement again?
Post # 4
My fiance and I had a broken engagement.
Granted I proposed to him in the middle of a crisis, I was emotional. He said yes, we decided to plan for a couple years down the road. We also decided to keep it secret for a few months to enjoy just the two of us. He would call me “my future wife” etc. Started looking at rings.
But from the crisis came lots of emotional breakdowns. I would get insecure thinking I was pathetic from being so upset and at one point I asked him “You don’t want to marry me do you?” and he replied something along the lines of “There is a lot going on, maybe we should wait” and that ended the engagement. But I’d asked him that many times prior to the end of the first engagement. So he thought that I was hinting that I wanted to wait so he decided it would be best to wait. I didn’t know if we would survive as a relationship after that but a couple weeks later we were back to normal, everything was great and we were happy together. about 8 months later he proposed to me with the ring he picked and our wedding is set for 12 days from now 🙂
Post # 5
I broke off my engagement to FI and we were able to turn it back around. He had a serious alcohol problem and I had told him that if he kept it up, that I was gone. Then I found a hidden bottle of COLD liquor in one of his kitchen cabinets. I left him that day. About a week later he called me in tears telling me that he knew that he had a problem and wanted to get help because he had tried to quit on his own and couldn’t do it. He asked me if he could call me while he was in rehab and I agreed to it. When he got out, we slowly began to work things out and after building some trust (that had been so very broken) I was able to accept his re-proposal and things have honestly never been better between us! There has only been one little hiccup with the drinking and I know that for him it will be an ongoing battle, but he has known life drunk and he has known life sober and he tells me that he feels like he’s really living his life for the first time in a long time. It hasn’t been easy and it has taken quite some time to rebuild the foundation of our relationship, but we have managed to walk through the ugliness together and now that we’re on the other side of it, we are stronger than ever and I have never loved him more than I love him today!