Post # 1
So i have one Maid/Matron of Honor, my sister and 2 bridesmaids. They have all got there dresses that are very particular styled dresses. Black with a champagne bow and three rosettes under the bust, the bottom of the dress is pin tucked all around giving it a lot of volume. They are gorgeous and never seen anything like them. My moh/sister has gained a lot of weight lately and her dress is no where near fitting here now, and they weight gain and pin tuck bottom has made the dress quite short and bunching around her bottom so its quite short at the back. Contacted the dress shop hoping to get her a bigger one and they are unable to get a bigger size! I dont expect her to loose a lot of weight or starve herself as that is just not nice. Its 2 months till our wedding. ANY IDEAS? ADVICE? has this happened to anyone else?
Post # 3
Well since she’s your Maid/Matron of Honor maybe she can wear a different dress. Even though she has a dress already and they have no bigger sizes, it just sounds like the better alternative. With having a drifferent dress she can stand out from your other BMs and people will know she’s your Maid/Matron of Honor.
Or hopefully she won’t feel good about not fitting into the dress that she’ll want to lose weight, without you having to say anything. No girl doesn’t like having to go up in size, so myabe she’ll take matters into her own hands!
Post # 4
I’m sorry to hear this. This is actually one of my fears only because all of my bridesmaids are crash dieting before they are fitted for their dresses – and that just makes me nervous. Plus it is just silly – they are gorgeous and don’t need to lose any weight – but I’m afraid whatever they are doing now will not be sustainable for nine months, and then their dresses will all be tight.
Your wedding is still three months away so she may be able to slim down by then. That is one option. Another possibility is to find an excellent seamstress and see if she has any ideas on how to alter the dress so it fits her properly. She may need to add panels, and I’m sure it won’t be cheap (but hopefully it won’t be expensive) but she may be able to alter it in a way that keeps the style and look you love, but also fits your Maid/Matron of Honor properly.
Lastly I would also start looking for a dress that compliments the one you initially picked out – in the event that she doesn’t lose weight and the dress can’t be altered to fit right. This way you will have all your bases covered. My bridesmaids aren’t wearing the exact same dresses, just the same fabric. Luckily it is your Maid/Matron of Honor, and not a bridesmaid, bc some people intentionally have their Maid/Matron of Honor stand out, so you can just pretend you always meant it to be that way. Regardless of how things play out, I’m sure your bridesmaids will look lovely. Good luck with everything!
Post # 5
Dress issue aside, you may want to talk to your sis (or have your mom do it) about her recent weight gain. It sounds like a LOT of weight and that is probably attributed to something–depression or anxiety or a thyroid issue. Find out why she’s suddenly packed on so many pounds her dress hasn’t fit. There could easily be an underlying issue that could reverse it. Also, she needs to know if her dress won’t fit so she can watch her weight and slim down some.
Post # 6
thanku all so much for ur help, its much appreciated. in response to the last message the weight gain is concerning me, its a good 2 dress sizes she has gone up. she had a laproscopy friday and maybe something might come out of that to explain the weight gain. spoke to my bridesmaids this morning, they are both very supportive girls and said regardless what happens they still have the tags on there dresses so if we have to change we will. but i will be hunting for a complmentary dress to the others in the mean time.w ish me luck!
Post # 7
i do have the same worry, bc i had all of my girls get their dresses early bc they were on clearance at j crew and exactly what i wanted. I worry that something will happen not so much in the weight gaining area but in the pregnancy area. many of them are married and starting families and the dress just doesn’t leave a lot of room for alteration. i guess the best thing to do is just keep our fingers crossed. i like the idea of having your moh wear a different dress.
Post # 8
i can understand your worry, do any of them already have kids or are they in they trying for the first phase? hopfully it will work out ok for you. its a added stress you wouldnt need. Spoke to other bridesmaids this morning and there dresses are both still tagged and they have the receipts, so are happy to change. Taking my sister down to the shop where i brought the initial dresses in the morning, see if we can change to something else. Fingers crossed
Post # 9
i wouldn’t really highlight the issue to your other bm’s – maybe just get your Maid/Matron of Honor another dress.
Post # 10
You want to make sure you don’t embarass your sister, so maybe just indicate to the other bridesmaids that there was an issue with her dress. Let them think what they want (shipping, color, material). Are you set on having them wear the same dresses? Perhaps there is another dress by the same designer that you could purchase for your sister? If they are the same designer, same material, and same color, it will still have a very cohesive look, while allowing her to stand out a little bit with a different dress.
Post # 11
I definitely think getting a different but coordinating dress is a great idea. She is your Maid/Matron of Honor so it won’t be weird. In fact I’ve seen a lot of weddings lately where the Maid/Matron of Honor wears a different dress! Hopefully she is alright health-wise.