Post # 1
Saw a thread from 4 years ago similar to this, wanted to make an updated one with my own experience!
My FI and I have been dating almost 4 years, we had picked a date and started booking venues and vendors as well as asking our friends to be in our bridal party. Out of nowhere my MOH started dating a guy and 2 weeks after they started dating, they are now planning to get married less than two months before my FI and I. I’m still a little in shock over the rush. She’s decided on the same color scheme as us and suggested sharing the wedding planning experience. I’m kind of at a loss of how to feel about it all. Wedding planning wasn’t something I had ever thought I would be sharing with another bride; especially not my MOH given how long they’ve been seeing eachother.
Have any other Bee’s had BMs get married around the same time as you? How did the situation play out? Did you enjoy sharing the experience or do you wish the timeline would have been different? Please share!
Post # 2
Not a BM, but a close coworker [who’s a guy] recently announced that they were getting married a few months after me, which is fine.
They broke up over 4th of july weekend, though.
Post # 3
One of my bridesmaids is getting married a month and a half before me. We are each other’s bridesmaids 😀
My FI’s best friend is getting married the weekend before we do. He decided to stay an extra week before leaving for their honeymoon because he didn’t want to miss our wedding. We knew they were getting married in September so I chose my work vacation for october so we wouldn’t be so close to each other. Unfortunately the only day that worked with my ridiculous schedule was the first weekend of october, and they decided to get married on the last weekend of September so….. nobody’s fault, bad timing on both ends haha.
We are all very excited for each other.
Post # 4
I know girls who were bridesmaids for each other and married 2 weeks apart. As far as I know there were no problems.
I shared some planning with a girl at church who married about a month after me, but we weren’t in each other’s weddings. She even used the same venue, but I saw that as sharing a great bargain I’d found. Our colours were completely different so I didn’t feel like she was copying or anything. If you feel your MOH is likely to copy, just plan (mostly) without her and keep some details secret.
Post # 5
sort of… I have a friend who just got engaged a few weeks ago and we already received pre-printed invites to her shower and wedding which will take place just three months from now. Apparently she had been planning the entire time before she got engAged. Anywho she is having the same colors as me, and a few other things. alot of people think she’s doing it on purpose so she can have hers before mine, but it’s a full year before so I’m not complaining let her rush it and not enjoy it!! Point of my story being I would be kinda annoyed if I were you esp about the colors, but at the end of the day she looks like the fool for rushing and not you. I know it’s prob hard cause u wanted to share and enjoy your wedding with her but now you will have to be more secretive about your ideas. Just be happy for her and keep your ideas to yourself so the weddings stay different even if they have similar colors. Good luck!
Post # 6
I feel like we share a similar situation! My fiancé and I have been dating for 6 and a half years and when I asked my MOH she was really excited. She started dating this guy after and only a few months in they decided to get married. She picked her date 3 weeks before mine! I was really upset and hurt at first and then after I gave it some time we talked it through and decided she would not be my MOH , although we will still be in each others weddings. All our friends were on my side and thought it was incredibly rude. But to me it wasn’t worth ruining a friendship over.
I just told her straight out I will be strapped for cash at that time and won’t be able to do much for her, both of our weddings are next year. I am not saying you have to kick your MOH out of her position, 2 months should give you enough time in between. But I will say it has been fun sharing details and talking “bride talk ” with another bride , most of my single friends can only take so much lol . But also be warned if there is something special you are planning and would be upset if she copied I would keep that to yourself. She doesn’t have to know every detail. Not sure if this helps you but I would talk to her about it don’t be afraid to say how you are feeling !
Post # 7
crisy003: not a bridesmaid just a really good friend. She got married a week after me. We didn’t really plan much together, she’d ask my advice for things like kids activities and logistics of a dessert reception and we’d check on with each other about how the planning was going. We both had lovely weddings and I thought it was a great bonding experience.
Post # 8
Ish. One of my bridesmaids (former roomate, very close friend) got engaged about 4 months before FI and I but they haven’t officially set a date yet and FI and I are getting married in 6 months. It has been a bit awkward (mostly because our planning has gone forward) but we’ve both been good about it, I don’t really bring up my wedding at all which helps (but also sucks). I’d love to be planning together and sharing the experience but I think she’s a bit put out becuase they haven’t been able to move forward with planning and we were engaged after her but getting married before her and I don’t want to push her feelings. I will say though that we didn’t do anything “on purpose” to upset them, we’ve been together for years longer and are having a little over an 18 month engagement, so we definitely aren’t rushing or competing :-/.
Post # 9
Both of my maids of honor are getting married before me (so I guess they are technically matrons once they get married). One is getting married in 2 weeks, one in 6 weeks, and then my wedding at the end of Sept. We all picked out our dresses together on the same day and have shared in wedding planning excitement. We all have completely different visions and venues so it has worked out. It is fun having friends to text about wedding decisions all of the time… my other bridesmaids would have probably gotten sick of hearing about weddings since they are not engaged. Overall, I have my one wedding day and am more than happy to make their days about them and not try to hog the wedding-having fun!
Post # 10
I got engaged in October and set our date of May 2, 2015 pretty quickly. My MOH got engaged in March and then set her wedding date 2 weeks before mine. I am a little worried about it since she’ll obviously be completely focused on her wedding instead of mine. But I’m a pretty laid back bride (so far haha) and she’s in another state so I didn’t really expect a ton of help with the planning anyway. It also helps that our styles and the types of weddings we want are completely different, so I’m not really worried about them being too similar.
My other bridesmaids, on the other hand, think it was a really bitchy move. They’re pretty mad at her (we’ve all been friends for years) and think I should choose a different MOH. So much drama.
Post # 11
I have 3 bridesmaids – one of them got married this past March and the other one (my sister) is getting married 1 month before me. Honestly, it was a little nuts at times with all the juggling of events and planning and being too busy for certain things, but it has all worked out.
Well, my wedding hasn’t happened yet so perhaps I shouldn’t speak too soon but despite all the concerns about having weddings close together, it really wasn’t a big deal. You get one day and that’s it – that’s what I’ve learned.
Post # 12
We got married 2 weeks after friends of ours, at the same venue. My DH was their best man, and he was in our wedding as a groomsmen. That particular weekend just happened to be the date where everything came together and was available for the majority of our family and the vendors I wanted to use. They did get engaged and pick their date first. However, DH and I had been dating over 10 years by the time we got engaged and when we found a date that worked I was just not willing to wait another year because friends were getting married 2 week before us.
We also had friends get married the weekend after us. We were happy to attend their wedding!
One of my good friends was recently married, and two of her BM’s were both engaged and planning weddings – all 3 of them at the same time.
Another good friend of mine is getting married, and I’m in her wedding. While I’m already married, she currently have 5 bridesmaids who are engaged. One is getting married the week before her in a DW, and one is exactly 1 month after her.
Post # 13
Colormepink: Your situation really is similar to mine! I asked my friend to be MOH after my FI and I had gotten engaged and she was really excited for us, but then she kept talking about wanting to get married too. Now she randomly started dating a guy and after 2 weeks of dating, they decided to get married right before us. She wants me to be a bridesmaid for her too but what was really the kicker is that she wants to have the same color scheme as us as well as a few other details with my wedding. My friends right now think that what she’s doing is kind of a B move, my FI especially isn’t happy about it. I may end up changing a few things and keeping my planning more private from her now… Thankfully my FI’s cousin is excited for us and wants to help me with details. She even asked to be a personal attendent although I’m thinking of asking her to be a BM as well 🙂