Post # 1
Am I reading her the wrong way when she says certain things regarding our rings? 3 scenarios that happened with her…
1) Her and her husband were married a year and a half by the time my now husband and I got engaged. We were engaged right before new years. I knew the engagement was coming…so did everyone else. We just were not sure exactly when. Now, my friends engagement ring center stone was a half carat princess cut. Magically, two weeks before we got engaged, she had her stone upgraded to a 1ct. On the year and a half mark, seems like a odd time. My center stone is a 1ct. When we were with all of our friends on New years, you’d think she’d let me have my moment and show off my new bling. Nope, she had to go around and show off her new stone. Nice.
2). People will always comment on my ring at work and we happen to work together. On the occasions that they comment on hers, she will gladly talk up (in front of me) how happy she is with her princess cut stone before she hates round diamonds (which is what I have). It’s ok to not like a certain stone but to comment on it in front of someone that has it?
3) I’m very picky so I was very specific with my husband on what I wanted and we even did some shopping together. Her and her husband did none of it and she always makes crude comments in front of me how her husband picked it out himself and that I should like anything he picks out for me. But she always makes me feel like I was rude for giving my husband specifics
Does anyone else have a friend that is or has tried to one-up you with a ring or downplay yours? Am I thinking too much into her actions?
Post # 3
Ouch…sounds like she’s a spotlight lover.
I’m sorry you’re going through this with your friend. I’m of no help right now in terms of experience.
Just let her talk herself up, eventually she’ll run out of things to say or opportunities for her to show her ring off. You’re only responsible for your own actions, so just be the better person and just enjoy your gorgeous ring that your husband had gotten you!
Post # 4
My new line for people who feel the need to make rude comments is, “Everyone does what’s best for their situation.” So when she makes those comments about how she doesn’t like round or why you had so much say in your ring, just let her know that everyone does what’s best for themselves and let her squirm. B/c what kind of comment is she going to have back to that?
Post # 5
I’m sorry to hear you have a friend like that, but sadly….that’s a lot of the girls I know. And the main reason I don’t have many girl friends. Girls are very competitive and can be very snarky. I just shrug it off and tell myself that it’s a compliment that they feel the need to compete.
Sadly, my BFF makes snarky comments like that ALL the time. It bugs me from time to time, but I remind myself that’s just her personality.
Post # 6
That’s too bad that your friend feels like she’s in competition with you. I have a friend who tries to make me feel bad because I have a smaller ring. I have a ring of decent clarity, good color, etc and it’s a half carat. My friend has a one carat (it’s VERY cloudy, visibly included etc) and she brags about the size of her diamond. I’m educated about diamonds thanks to the bee and know that I prefer a smaller rock of better quality than a larger cloudy stone. I just smile and say wow your ring really is big, what a lucky girl…no need to stoop to her level of try to justify why I chose a smaller stone
P.S. She’s in competition about ALL aspects of our weddings not just the ring…ugh!
Post # 7
I have this friend. I have this friend so much- I actually asked my SO (her FBIL) to make buy me a center stone with the same qualities as hers. Silly? Yes. Reasoning why- she is always comparing and contrasting whatever she has with whatever I have. And I am always the ‘loser’ in her eyes. I know its dumb but I would be hurt very much if she was always talking down about how she has better clarity blahblahblah at EVERY moment possible. I feel your pain girl!
Post # 8
It unfortunately goes well beyond the ring too. She’s pressuring her husband to start having a baby because she told us to our face that she is going to be p***ed if we get preggo before her since she’s been married longer. We are both a lot older than her and her husband. It’s so frustrating to have friends like this!!! None of this competition thing started until the time my hubby and I got engaged.
Post # 9
@MrsB99: How annoying. I’m so not looking forward to being in a lifelong competition with this girl..I’ve really distanced myself from her in the past few months. It’s so childish to base a life altering desision like having a baby on what someone else is doing.
Post # 10
so…. why exactly do you consider this person a friend?
Post # 11
There weren’t bitchy comments (between the women) involved, but when we got some new neighbors, the wife supposedly made her husband get a really expensive upgrade to her e-ring because my mom’s ring was big and pretty. (Which we all found pretty hilarious, because the ring my mom wears is glass or CZ)
Post # 12
a) she isn’t a friend.
b) if someone did this around me more than once, I’d say something along the lines of “you sure love talking about my ring, are you jealous?”
I’ve got no patience for people who are blatantly rude.
Post # 13
WOW, what a B! She’s what I call a “one-upper.” I say, just laugh it off on how silly she’s being because she’s clearly insecure about her ring while you’re in complete bliss. 🙂