Post # 1
hey just wondering if anyone else has a hard of hearing or deaf SO?
My fiance is 60% deaf, and has been since he was 5. He wears hearing aids, but our communication can sometimes be really strained because he’ll ask me to repeat myself five times before he hears me…
I love him so much though 🙂
just wondering if anyone else deals with this?
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
Yup. The boy is 50% deaf, and has been since he was a little kid. He doesn’t wear his hearing aids EVER, although I’ve been trying to get him to wear them again. It’s tough sometimes, but it’s not a big deal.
Post # 4
well not officially, but he does have really bad hearing due to scar tissue buildup from his childhood. and he plays the drums really loud without earplugs. tsk.
but i understand what you mean about having to repeat yourself. i usually just give up and say “nevermind” (which he always seems to hear.. hmm)
Post # 5
Yep, my fiance is deaf in one year. He hears suprisingly well overall though. He’ll sleep on his ‘good’ ear, so I can’t wake him up sometimes….but I also think he just uses this as an excuse sometimes.
Since he only has one good ear, it does worry me when he listens to headphones too loud (and he does) because I’m afraid he’s going to damage what’s left.
Post # 6
actually I’M the deaf one in our relationship…well – not 100% – but I just got a hearing aid last year (YAY!!!) and I have had tubes in/out of my ears since the age of 7. they are finally completely gone and last july I had to have a tympanoplasty (to repair my ear drum) and mastoidechtomy to remove scar tissue in my right ear.
my left ear I honestly have about 40% hearing in – and that’s the one with the hearing aid.
I know it’s a strain on our relationship – and it got SOOO much better after I GOT my aid…before I got it, I honestly didn’t realize how bad it was. He does get pissy with me at night when I take it out and have to turn the TV level waaaaaay up.
before I got it though – he always wondered why I didn’t want to go out and be social – and honestly THAT was the reason…i hated not being able to hear people – especially at a loud bar and whatnot – so i just didn’t want to go out.
he really hates it when he has to repeat himself – i think it HAS gotten better since i’ve gotten the aid – but even being on this side of the coin, BEING the deaf one – i can’t tell you how irritating it is to constantly have to say “sorry, what? i didn’t hear you”. 🙁
I still may have surgery on the left ear to help the hearing – it’s something my ear doc and I have discussed…we’ll see if the hearing gets worse.
one thing that’s ALWAYS sucked is I can’t get any water in my ears – but that’s a whole other story.
Post # 7
I ask my fiance to repeat himself 5 times and I don’t think I’m deaf, I did perforate an ear drum when I was 10 so I might be a little (I remember my doctor looking in my ear and going “uh oh” and then cringing). Most of the time, I have to face him to understand what he’s saying plus he has a lower voice and likes to talk quietly.
Post # 8
it is a bigger deal with us, I struggle with being patient, and having to repeat myself so often kinda wears on me. When we were long distance it was REALLY hard because he strains to hear on the phone. Now that we’re together again, it’s a little easier, because he reads lips, but same here, I have to be looking at him while talking most of the time
Post # 9
As an audiologist, seeing this topic brought together my two loves (WB and hearing) and I geeked out a little!
Here’s a website with some good recommendations for optimal communication with people who are hearing-impaired. Good luck!
Post # 10
FI is hard of hearing in his left ear as a result of being in combat (Iraq). I keep telling him to turn in his veterans benefits and get a hearing aid, but he hasn’t yet. He turns his head to the left if I am talking to him on the left so he can hear me with his right ear when I repeat. The problems arise when we are in a very loud place, like a bar with music or a live band. He can’t hear conversations at the table and he feels left out. It’s hard to ask a group of 4 or 5 people, “wait did you say?” every few minutes.
We avoid really loud places. Never really liked them anyway. 🙂
Post # 11
This is so interesting! My mom thinks I’m deaf but really I just am not a good listener 🙂 (not made to make fun of anyone, I know I have pretty to very good hearing and was just kind of good at ignoring my mom)
I belive Miss Doxie has said her FI is hearing impaired.
Post # 12
Not officially, but he has hearing loss in one ear due to a fire cracker exploding [in his hand] next to his ear.
I repeat myself once or twice, then I give up rather frustrate myself & him [by proxy].
Post # 13
oh that’s so interesting! So just curious if you might know if there are any health insurance plans that offer financial assistance for hearing aids? My fiance has never been able to find them, and just coughing up $5,000 when he needs new ones is less than ideal. He’ll be needing more in another year or so and we definitely can’t afford them!
Post # 14
@miss-spunkin- it varies by plan and state, obviously, but here in PA, the best coverage we see is only about $1500 every 3 years. There are no plans that cover them completely (except for medicaid for the kiddos) and most plans provide little to no coverage. (it’s cause Medicare doesn’t think hearing aids are ‘medically necessary’ ). If your FI is working, he should look in to his local Office of Vocational Rehab. They provide support to people who are employed or need to be employed, regardless of disability and will cover hearing aids. It’s a bit more work than just walking into an office, but it’s worth it! Good luck!
Post # 15
My FI is hard of hearing on the right side; a result of being in the army. He has a lot of trouble hearing when there is a lot of ambient noise, and he speaks really loudly, partly because he can’t probably gauge how loud he is. We’re constantly working on his “indoor voice”.
Post # 16
I’m the one with the hearing problems, I’ve been diagnosed with Menieres disease and everytime i get a really bad “episode” i lose hearing it seems to be in my right ear and i’ve been told i will eventually need a hearing aid. I’ve warned him that I can’t hear him if he’s not near me if he insists on talking to me when he knows I’m out of hearing range i just figure he just wants to hear himself talk, I no longer ask what? huh? i can’t hear you.