Post # 1
i feel like I’m the only one who struggles with this because everyone else seems so excited and happy to move out of their parents house. I mean, I am excited to move onto this new phase, I’ll be 28 by the time I get married – so it’s really about time – but part of me is really sad.
I didn’t even go away for college – so the longest that I’ve been away from home is a 10-day vacation and my brother was with me there. He’s never gone away to college either so it’s like we’ve all been around each other for all these years and it’s bittersweet to leave.
I just feel like an odd one out that I’m feeling mixed emotions about this. please tell me I’m not the only one.
Oh and where I live it’s pretty much the norm to live with your parents into adulthood bc of the cost of housing.
Post # 3
@FoxyBride14: I had such a terrible time leaving home. I moved 20 minutes away from my parents home to a condo in the city several years ago, and I went home every weekend for the first few months to sleep in “my own bed.”
I lived in the condo for three years, but was ready to move back to my old neighbourhood. I now live in the same neighbourhood as my parents, sister and two aunts. All within walking distance (as you can probably tell, we’re an exceptionally close family).
I did enjoy my time out on my own, but it was a huge adjustment. Not only leaving my tight knit family, but establishing myself as an individual. It will be hard at first, but just remember – you can always go home! Also, there is absolutely nothing wrong with living with your parents into adulthood, as long as you’re not a mooch. 🙂
Post # 4
@FoxyBride14: I left home at 18 but I lived at home off and on (dorms and such) until I was 20. It was definitely hard, but I’m so glad I did it because I love living with my SO! Its normal to miss your family, will you be moving far from them? If not you can visit often! 🙂
Post # 5
@prettyinpink11: no, probably not at all. We are looking to buy a house in the same town probably about an 8 minute car ride.
@mgol25: not a mooch at all. Although my mom probably does more than she needs to for us. Glad that I’m not the only one who had/is having a hard time.
Post # 6
I moved out for the very first time when I was 26.
I was DEFINITELY ready to move away from my parents. I’d had enough of the curfews (yes, at age 26), rules, and yelling matches.
However, I was devastated about not living with my sister anymore. She’s my best friend in the whole world and sometimes I still feel really bummed that I can’t just run up to her room and tell her things. It was definitely an adjustment but there were so many great things that came with finally being independent and away from my family on a day to day basis.
Post # 7
I moved out when I was 18, but it was hard. It’s an adjustment but once you adjust it’s normal and you visit your family like you used to your boyfriend or friends. I still stay the night on occasions for sleepover with my mom and sister 🙂
Post # 8
I have a lot of friends that had a super hard time leaving home!
Post # 9
I don’t have personal experience with this but my Fiance and I moved from Indiana where our immediate families are and relocated to California. It’s been really, really difficult particularly on me. It’s so culturally different here in California even though I’m very left leaning on most things. Give yourself time to acclimate and eventually things will fall into place where what you view “home” is where you’re actually living.
Post # 10
When I left home I was excited, nervous and sad. I think its totally normal. I had a great life at home, my parents were always there, I was never lonely, I had plenty of disposable income to do whatever I wanted with. The day I moved out my mom and I stood in the front entrance of their house and bawled our eyes out. I’ve been living on my own for over a year now and sometimes I still miss living with my parents. I still call their house my home (I call mine my home too, I have 2 homes as far as I’m concerned) and when my fiance is working nights or away with his son there’s a huge part of me that wishes I could just go stay at their place for a few days so I’m not loney.
Moving out is part of growing up and its scary, but I can honestly say now that I don’t live there my mom and I get along better and our relationship has definately come along way, we’re so much closer now and I wouldn’t trade that for the world. My suggestion is to make it appoint to have family dinner once a week. Every Sunday (that I don’t work, a different day if I do) I go to my parents and we all sit down and have a nice dinner.
Post # 11
@TKG83: thanks for the suggestion! I’ll do that for sure.
Post # 12
I did at first, but I lived in a tiny house with five people (Myself, two brothers & my parents). We had one bathroom. It was awful.
I realized I’d have my own bathroom and if I felt like walking around naked, I totally could. I would have my own space, I could decorate the house however I wanted, and that the house would be mine.
I still miss home from time to time, considering I moved 1,200 miles into an entirely different state than where I was born and raised, but I really enjoy having a home of my own.
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
@FoxyBride14: I left home when I was 18 to move to college. I was so upset by it that I developed anxiety and it hasn’t really ever gone away. :/
Post # 14
I lived at home until I was 20, and the only reason I stayed that long is because I was afraid to pay my own bills. I was kind of bummed about leaving the weeks leading up to it, but it was a wrap after I moved. When I feel like I’m homesick, I just go home and visit. Then the homesickness is cured!
Post # 15
I had a hard time moving my stuff out of my parent’s house. I lived on my own when I was started university, but I went home often. When my FH and I moved in together, I still had things in my parents’ home for a year or so. It took at least two years of living with FH until I started to think of our condo as my home. I still sometimes think about how great it would be to live with my family again 🙂
I live downtown and my family home is uptown. I see my family once a week, and would love to move into the same neighbourhood as them. Housing in our city is very expensive as well, so I don’t anticipate being able to afford living near my parents for at least another decade. Makes me so sad!
Post # 16
My BFF was my roommate our freshman year in college, and she cried every night for the first few weeks! It’s definitely not abnormal, and I’m sure it’s even harder when you’re older having even more years of family time!
But it will definitely get easier. BFF moved back home for a year after college and determined that she definitely preferred having her own place, haha.