Anyone have a "Walk Timeline" ?

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@Liss13:  January of 2015, although it’s not a solid walk. It’s more of a sit down and go..Dude WTF? He would have had the ring for almost 2 years at that point, so yeah, there’s a serious issue. Will I walk? Eventually, it’s highly likely, but I don’t know when I would give up and actually do so. It’s hard to say what will or won’t happen in the future, but if we still aren’t living together and no progress has been made in our relationship by Jan 2015, then yeah, I will be deciding at that point.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

I don’t have a walk date now, I hope I never do… :/ what I have decided is that if he has done nothing by the day of our 4th anniversary then I will work something out myself (probably for around our 4 and a half years). I figured I’ll let him know on our 2 and a half years so it’ll kind of be a deadline (I’ll be really sad if I end up proposing) but I think 2 and a half years without any pressure to decide to marry me and then one and a half years to figure something out is fair enough.

It’s still all a fair way off, maybe something will come up and I reasonably have to give him more time or maybe I just won’t want to propose after 4 years and end up walking at 5 or more… Who knows! XD

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I never would have walked. My SO has always shown he was committed. Even though marriage is important to me, I chose 3 years ago to stay indefinitely because I would rather be with him without marriage than married to someone else. He said he wasn’t ready due to money, and we had been together for 4 years at that point.

And now I know he is proposing to me sometime soon, so it all worked out! The extra bonus is that I know it’s what he wants because I haven’t pressured him since I made that choice to stay.

If I hadn’t been certain of his love at that time, then it might have been different.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Nope. He’s more gung ho about getting married than I am anyway. I’d be fine if we never got married but it’s going to be necessary when we move overseas.

ETA: I would propose to him if I felt the time was right. But we have a few years yet before either of us will be ready.

 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Yes and no. There is no specific date in my mind, but marriage and family have always been a priority for me. If there’s a time when I seriously question him sharing in that dream with me, it will be the hardest thing I’ve done, but I will walk.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Before my SO and I started dating, we were friends.  His sister really, REALLY wanted marriage and kids and her (now husband) made her wait 8 years for an engagement.  We were talking about it, and I opined loudly that I would NEVER give a guy more than 5 years.  Unless you are really young, I figure you ought to know within 5 years.  He actaully agreed with me at the time and thought his sister’s boyfriend was a shmuck.  We started dating several monhts later.  Haha, so he knew my timeline before we ever got together.  🙂  

But yes, I think I would be irked if we got to year 4 and he hasn’t proposed, since we both agreed you should know within 5 years.  (We’ve been togher 2.5 years, and the status quo is fine for now.)

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I don’t have a walk date but honestly, I think that’s because I don’t plan on ever having children. If I was running on a biological clock, there would definitely be a point where I’d have to say “enough is enough”.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

No walk timeline for me. For us, we are certain that we will get married at some point, and it all comes down to finances (neither of us wants to go into debt for the ring or the wedding). I guess I have a “get married at City Hall” timeline. I’m not going to put my life on hold forever for money, so we’ll just elope if we can’t make the big white wedding happen by 2015.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@Liss13:  I don’t have a walk date, but if he hasn’t proposed by our 5th anniversary I would sit down and seriously ask him what he wants out of our future. I know that SO wants to get married badly though, he actually wanted to get married this year after I graduate from university but with no savings that just isn’t possible 😛

Post # 12
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Busy bee

No, because we are so compatible and we see ourselves being together forever.  We are currently an item (more committed than dating) for 14months; I rather hope he’ll start to think about proposing 18mths-24months. I will get antsy around the 2.5 year mark but I now have a sort-of timeline of “ring-before-move-in”.

 

I don’t want to propose to him as I asked him out in the first place and do not want to take away the proposal from him (he’s quite traditional).

 

After 3 years I might have to ask what’s the hold up!

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

After 3 years of being strung around by an ex I gave my current fiance about a 3 year ‘deadline’ and was proposed to by 2 years 4 months. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Before SO was ready, we had several discussions where I told him I wanted to be with him, so I would wait, but didn’t want to wait forever. But I really don’t think I would have walked. Part of me knew he wanted to be with me and he just hadn’t hit that realization yet. If “forever” ever happened, I would be stuck in a rock and a hard place….wouldn’t want to leave, wouldn’t want to wait…

Fortunately, he’s ready now!

Post # 16
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Helper bee

My walk timeline is by the end of this year. So on January 1, 2014, if we are still not engaged, then I want to move on. By that time, we will have been dating 6.5 years. He just graduated law school and starts a job in August back in our home town in Lafayette (We currently live in New Orleans, which is 2 hours away). He asked me to try and find a teaching job there and move back so we could be together. I told him I would on the condition that we will get engaged soon and get married, because I will be leaving a city I love and a job I love as well. He agreed, so I found a job. We will both be moving back in August. If he doesn’t propose by the end of the year, I will move back to New Orleans!

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