Post # 1
Has anyone had a wedding party but not designated roles as Maid of Honor or Best Man? How did it work out?
I’ve been a wedding coordinator for years and in all the weddings I’ve done I’ve not encountered this.
FI has 3 equally close cousins/friends and doesnt want to choose. At this point I will likely only have 2 girls on my side unless I ask his sister as well, and neither of my two friends are closer to me. They are also both across the country so I am not expecting any bridal showers or parties.
I’d really like to include my friends as bridesmaids, one was in my last wedding years ago and the other has been a good friend for just as long and is hoping to be a bridesmaid as she’s never been in a wedding party.
I’m fairly certain in Vermont you don’t need witness signatures on your license so there’s no need to distinguish people for that role.
Post # 4
i am not having a bridal party at all. we are just having a table with our close friends at the reception
Post # 5
My FI is having a Best Man because it’s his brother; however, I am not designating a MOH. Similarly, I doubt I’ll have a shower, and my bachelorette is going to be dinner and maybe massages. Low key, no one person needing to plan too much. My FSIL, who is 17, has asked if she can be my official train froofer, so she’ll stand closest to me. But otherwise, no titles.
Post # 6
We don’t really have a MOH or BM designated. My FI has two groomsmen, but says that he is the best man, because he is the one getting married! He is so cute. He will obviously have to choose one of them to witness, and give a speech though. I have three bridesmaids and I will have my sister, who lives out of town, sign the papers and be my general assistant for the day, so in some sense she is my maid of honour but I haven’t really brought up the title since my other two bridesmaids live in the same city as me, so they have been more involved with dress shopping, throwing the shower, etc.
Post # 7
We didn’t do a formal wedding party at all. We asked our closest friends to process before us (much like a wedding party) but they didn’t have matching outfits or stand with us.
There was no formal designation of MOH or Best Man or anything like that… it worked out absolutely fine.
re: parties that the wedding party usually puts together: My friends got together and threw me a shower. DH’s friend’s did not throw him a bachelor party but a few of my married guy friends stepped up for him.
(And our witnesses on our license were our mom’s – I’m pretty sure you can have anyone present act as witness on the license).
Post # 8
I think it’s fine, but make sure everyone is in communication with everyone else, and can handle splitting up duties. I know you said no parties, but they might decide to throw some anyway, in which case they can split up the roles. It seems fine in theory, as long as everyone’s mature enough to handle figuring things out on their own.
Post # 9
While I think the guys will have similar outfits – suits and we may buy them ties or maybe shirts as well, I’m letting my ladies wear whatever dress they have and love.
Since his groomsmen are all close friends and cousins themselves, I’m hoping they work out a bachelor outing for him and I don’t know yet if anyone will be doing toasts but we’ll figure it out.
I just wanted to make sure I wasn’t completly nuts attempting it – I always tell the brides I work with that there is no wrong answer, and to do whatever works for you…. turns out when it’s YOU that’s the bride it’s a little harder to believe
Post # 10
we’re not having a bridal party. We didn’t with our first wedding 15 years ago either. Just not something I cared about.
Post # 11
We had three bridesmaids and 3 groomsmen and basically considered them all MOH and BM. We didn’t designate specific titles at all. We did however each pick a person to give the toast, but you could have everyone just say a few words if you wanted to.
Post # 12
We’re not really. We decided to have our brothers sign our marriage licence. Otherwise I have a friend who is just more available than another (ie she doesn’t have 1 year old twins) so she’s helping out more. Technically I’ve dubbed her “head attendant” because I know I’ll rely on her more than everyone else.
Otherwise everyone is just equally as awesome as the other