(Closed) Anyone have a wedding that was slightly disastrous?

posted 8 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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1514 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We had several things not go just right, but in the end we had fun and enjoyed ourselves, so they really don’t matter.  I’d hate to dwell on the bad stuff. 

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper

I’m curious what all went wrong at the reception and if there were things you think you could have done to prevent it (or if it was unpreventable – like you pink eye).  I’m sorry to hear things did not go as you planned.

I’m still in the planning stages and am trying to do my best to think through potential disasters, but it’s so hard.

My best friend, two days before the wedding, was doing laundry at the laundry mat.  She had her feet up on one of those baskets with wheels & a large metal bar on top.  Her feet accidentally kicked it out from under her and the bar landed squarely on her face by her eye.  Yep, black eye for her wedding. 

Post # 6
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6010 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Ahhhh, hcritton, I’m sorry you had so many bad things happen on your wedding day.  It really sounds like those mistakes weren’t really preventable; it sounds like you couldn’t have planned any better to avoid them from happening, poor girl.  🙁

I, too, suffered from wedding regret and disappointment.  Honestly, time will help.  The further out from the wedding I get, the less Iimportant the negatives of the day become.  It looks like you just got married two weeks ago (and had the reception last weekend), so just know that more distance you get between you and the wedding, the easier it will be to gloss over the disappointments of the day. 

Also, and I don’t know if this will help you, at some point I had to make a conscious effort to just stop concentrating on my disappointments.  When I start to feel bad about something, I just try to switch my concentration to something positive about the wedding instead.  It’s like a conscious effort to recognize that I’m going somewhere negative and change my thoughts.  I don’t want to remember my wedding day as a disaster, so I am openly admitting to myself that I’m going to ignore the bad things that happened.  I guess I just realized that I am the only one with the power to change how I feel about my wedding.  I can’t change the past, so I have to make a concerted effort to change how I feel about the past. 

Don’t worry, hcritton, it’ll get better.  I don’t know if we’ll ever be able to look back on our weddings with 100% satisfaction, but I do believe the hurt and disappointment lessens with time.  🙂  Hugs!

Post # 8
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6010 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Lol, I can’t wait to see the picture! 

Post # 10
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1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’m so sorry to hear about the family members that couldn’t make it. I too am struggling with accepting that certain people will NOT be at my wedding instead of focusing on who will be there like I should. I definitely hear where you are coming from.

As for the Arm band, yes, it’s noticeable, is it the end of the world? Absolutely NOT! I have some great photographer friends… I’ve seen them photoshop caution tape off a boat, sunspots of my FI’s hand, all sorts of things. With my personal knowledge of photoshop, that arm band is a really easy fix. If it was something on your face I’d say you were in trouble, but if you find anyone with medium to high photoshop knowledge, I’m sure they would do a fantastic job on your favorite photos. I wouldn’t worry about doing all of them, or try doing it yourself. You will only get frustrated and more upset! Find a friend! There are actually lots of great bees I know on here who might be happy to do a few free of charge.

Best of luck -ETP!

Post # 12
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383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I am sorry to hear that you are having some regret, but I am thinking maybe it is natural. Our wedding was 8/22 and I have a lot of small regrets, too. Some of them were things I could control, while others were not. At the end of the day, nothing disastrous happened- and whether you think it or not, nothing disastrous happened at yours either. The armband is noticeable but it is nothing Photoshop can’t fix. While your sister may have been late, she made it.

All of our bouquets were totally wrong and not what I had asked for and I cried when I saw them- while everyone told me to blow it off, and as I kept getting ready I finally did… but I look back at the few sneak peek pictures we have and the wrong bouquet is in every picture. I am always going to look at it and cringe.

It happens to us all… there are things I didn’t get to that meant a lot, and things I let go of the day before that I had time for but didn’t want to come off as a Bridezilla to those that helped… or didn’t want to be a “burden,” I regret all those things, too.

Post # 13
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3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

lol wow “we almost match”.  Thank God you were cool & just grabbed a drink (and didn’t spill it on her!)

I’m sorry not everything went as swimmingly as you’d hoped.

Post # 14
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

hcritton…. with tongue in cheek and humor in place and sending hugs…. your guests suck!  all the no shows and one wears a white dress to match you!!!  seriously, you should outsource for better family!

 

Post # 15
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396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m sorry your wedding seems like it was “slightly disastrous”! 

With regards to fixing your pictures in GIMP, it is totally doable! All you have to do is clone – copy an area of your arm that is the correct color, and copy it over the part that is reflective. Here’s a tutorial that seems to do a pretty good job – there are a bunch of different links when you type in “clone gimp” so I’m sure you can find something!

http://www.novell.com/coolsolutions/feature/15037.html

I hope that helps fix at least that part of the problem! (who wears a white strappy dress to a wedding and is surprised when they “match” the bride? some people Wink)

Post # 16
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289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I don’t want to say that our wedding was disastrous…everything turned out great!! However, there were some major bumps in the road. For starters, the stylist that I had hired to come to the house for hair and make up sent me a text-message 30 minutes before she was scheduled to arrive to say she wasn’t going to make it…fortunately, the spa/salon that we had gone to the day before to get manis/pedis was able to fit all five of us in and they did a perfect job!!  It was a little overwhelming though, to say the least. The weather also failed to cooperate. It was the gloomiest day (even though the weather channel said partly sunny and no rain)… the rain at least held off–that is until the music started for the bridal party to walk down the aisle for the outdoor ceremony!! Fortunately, it was not a downpour, just a steady mist. Thats good luck right? At the end of it all, I feel like everything worked out perfectly. Our guests had an awesome time and so did we.  I am so relieved that it is all over!!

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