Post # 1
Every day that goes by since our wedding, I just can’t stop thinking about all the things that went wrong. Don’t get me wrong, I loved getting married and there are some really great memories from it, but it’s like for the last week I’m trying to un-do some of the damage done from it.
My wedding was on the 6th and my reception was on the 12th. The wedding itself was great! My only complaint is that when we came back home, I got pinkeye on the 11th and spent half the day at the doctors office.
But the reception… good grief. No doubt about it, it was fun. But man so many things went wrong. I don’t want to seem ungrateful or anything but does anyone else feel like a little too much went wrong, like more than just the average thing or two??
Post # 3
We had several things not go just right, but in the end we had fun and enjoyed ourselves, so they really don’t matter. I’d hate to dwell on the bad stuff.
Post # 4
I’m curious what all went wrong at the reception and if there were things you think you could have done to prevent it (or if it was unpreventable – like you pink eye). I’m sorry to hear things did not go as you planned.
I’m still in the planning stages and am trying to do my best to think through potential disasters, but it’s so hard.
My best friend, two days before the wedding, was doing laundry at the laundry mat. She had her feet up on one of those baskets with wheels & a large metal bar on top. Her feet accidentally kicked it out from under her and the bar landed squarely on her face by her eye. Yep, black eye for her wedding.
Post # 5
I know I shouldn’t dwell–it just brings me down. I guess the 3 things that bother me most are…
1) Of my whole 5 family members (I have a teeny little family), two of them got ill from eating at McDonalds and my sister was way late (like usual) and missed the whole first half the reception so I only had 2 family members there. It just would have meant a lot to me to have what few family members I have be there.
2) I haven’t done an official count but of the 109 RSVP’d guests, only about 60 or so showed up.
3) I had used this tattoo covering makeup on my arm tattoos at my outdoor ceremony that took place on the 6th. It turned out great in our pictures, you couldn’t even tell I had tattoos. So I used it again for my reception on the 12th. When I got all the pictures back I was shocked. For some reason (maybe because it was indoors this time and the lighting is different???) the spots where the makeup was all turned out like… practically REFLECTIVE in every single picture. I look really nice and tan in all our photos and then I have these huge glaring bright white arm bands going on where the makeup is. We didn’t hire a professional photographer so it’s heartbreaking to know that I’m going to half to photoshop every single picture.
There’s other things too like having pinkeye and my eye was still all red, no one made a toast so all the champagne we bought wasn’t even touched, and the fact that no one bothered to take home our favor bags but the top 3 I can’t seem to just forget about. I guess I’m just dwelling though. I can’t change it and I don’t want to take away from the good memories.
Post # 6
Ahhhh, hcritton, I’m sorry you had so many bad things happen on your wedding day. It really sounds like those mistakes weren’t really preventable; it sounds like you couldn’t have planned any better to avoid them from happening, poor girl. 🙁
I, too, suffered from wedding regret and disappointment. Honestly, time will help. The further out from the wedding I get, the less Iimportant the negatives of the day become. It looks like you just got married two weeks ago (and had the reception last weekend), so just know that more distance you get between you and the wedding, the easier it will be to gloss over the disappointments of the day.
Also, and I don’t know if this will help you, at some point I had to make a conscious effort to just stop concentrating on my disappointments. When I start to feel bad about something, I just try to switch my concentration to something positive about the wedding instead. It’s like a conscious effort to recognize that I’m going somewhere negative and change my thoughts. I don’t want to remember my wedding day as a disaster, so I am openly admitting to myself that I’m going to ignore the bad things that happened. I guess I just realized that I am the only one with the power to change how I feel about my wedding. I can’t change the past, so I have to make a concerted effort to change how I feel about the past.
Don’t worry, hcritton, it’ll get better. I don’t know if we’ll ever be able to look back on our weddings with 100% satisfaction, but I do believe the hurt and disappointment lessens with time. 🙂 Hugs!
Post # 7
You’re right Mrs. Spring. There were a lot of good things about my reception day and I know I’m eventually going to find the whole arm discoloring thing funny soon. I guess I’m just embarrassed now because I know that all our guests are getting back their pictures and wondering what the heck is up with my arms. I’ll post a picture later on tonight–it’s so bad it’s almost funny. I’m thinking it must have been the flash from the cameras that caught the makeup weird since it didn’t do it in the outdoor pictures. It looks so horrible but I’m going to try and have a sense of humor about it. Maybe it could be like my reverse farmer’s tan or something?
On the flip side, the cake cutting was hilarious and I got frosting up my nose and my hubby got frosting in his ear. The DJ was great. And the food was AWESOME.
I’m just in a funk today for some reason (I’ve been thinking a lot about my career path) so I think I’m just kind of extra down about some things.
Thanks for the good advice!
Post # 8
Lol, I can’t wait to see the picture!
Post # 9
So the first picture is us in Vegas getting married. And the other 2 are us at our reception with my reflective arm bands. Literally every picture of me looks like this. Maybe my arm tattoo makeup was haunted by ghosts? I’m not sure. Our reception day was 90 degrees and our hall didn’t have any AC so if my "wedding glow" is a bit excessive, just ignore that part
I was thinking about this today though and except for the indoor/outdoor lighting I *did* do something different on the ceremony day–in addition to my normal tattoo cover makeup (forget what it’s called but it comes in a tin box and they sell it at David’s Bridal and theknot.com) I also added Cover FX makeup over it. I wonder if this helped at all because I didn’t add the Cover FX makeup over the other makeup at the reception.
Huh. Well too late now! Any tips on how to fix this in pictures? I don’t have photoshop, just Gimp and the old trusty paint program.
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Post # 10
I’m so sorry to hear about the family members that couldn’t make it. I too am struggling with accepting that certain people will NOT be at my wedding instead of focusing on who will be there like I should. I definitely hear where you are coming from.
As for the Arm band, yes, it’s noticeable, is it the end of the world? Absolutely NOT! I have some great photographer friends… I’ve seen them photoshop caution tape off a boat, sunspots of my FI’s hand, all sorts of things. With my personal knowledge of photoshop, that arm band is a really easy fix. If it was something on your face I’d say you were in trouble, but if you find anyone with medium to high photoshop knowledge, I’m sure they would do a fantastic job on your favorite photos. I wouldn’t worry about doing all of them, or try doing it yourself. You will only get frustrated and more upset! Find a friend! There are actually lots of great bees I know on here who might be happy to do a few free of charge.
Best of luck -ETP!
Post # 11
Ok one more photo, kind of unrelated…
Anyone else notice the girl I’m standing next to in this picture wearing the white strappy dress with rhinestones on it (wow just like mine) next to me? I’m trying to find a better picture of her. She walked in and (no joke) literally says to me "Oh my god we almost match!". I just laughed and went to get myself a drink! I had to share this photo with someone.
Post # 12
I am sorry to hear that you are having some regret, but I am thinking maybe it is natural. Our wedding was 8/22 and I have a lot of small regrets, too. Some of them were things I could control, while others were not. At the end of the day, nothing disastrous happened- and whether you think it or not, nothing disastrous happened at yours either. The armband is noticeable but it is nothing Photoshop can’t fix. While your sister may have been late, she made it.
All of our bouquets were totally wrong and not what I had asked for and I cried when I saw them- while everyone told me to blow it off, and as I kept getting ready I finally did… but I look back at the few sneak peek pictures we have and the wrong bouquet is in every picture. I am always going to look at it and cringe.
It happens to us all… there are things I didn’t get to that meant a lot, and things I let go of the day before that I had time for but didn’t want to come off as a Bridezilla to those that helped… or didn’t want to be a “burden,” I regret all those things, too.
Post # 13
lol wow “we almost match”. Thank God you were cool & just grabbed a drink (and didn’t spill it on her!)
I’m sorry not everything went as swimmingly as you’d hoped.
Post # 14
hcritton…. with tongue in cheek and humor in place and sending hugs…. your guests suck! all the no shows and one wears a white dress to match you!!! seriously, you should outsource for better family!
Post # 15
I’m sorry your wedding seems like it was “slightly disastrous”!
With regards to fixing your pictures in GIMP, it is totally doable! All you have to do is clone – copy an area of your arm that is the correct color, and copy it over the part that is reflective. Here’s a tutorial that seems to do a pretty good job – there are a bunch of different links when you type in “clone gimp” so I’m sure you can find something!
I hope that helps fix at least that part of the problem! (who wears a white strappy dress to a wedding and is surprised when they “match” the bride? some people )
Post # 16
I don’t want to say that our wedding was disastrous…everything turned out great!! However, there were some major bumps in the road. For starters, the stylist that I had hired to come to the house for hair and make up sent me a text-message 30 minutes before she was scheduled to arrive to say she wasn’t going to make it…fortunately, the spa/salon that we had gone to the day before to get manis/pedis was able to fit all five of us in and they did a perfect job!! It was a little overwhelming though, to say the least. The weather also failed to cooperate. It was the gloomiest day (even though the weather channel said partly sunny and no rain)… the rain at least held off–that is until the music started for the bridal party to walk down the aisle for the outdoor ceremony!! Fortunately, it was not a downpour, just a steady mist. Thats good luck right? At the end of it all, I feel like everything worked out perfectly. Our guests had an awesome time and so did we. I am so relieved that it is all over!!