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One of my bridesmaids is getting married in May 2011, while I will be getting married in January 2011... I picked my date before she did, and I am also a bridesmaid in her wedding. It's been a lot of fun so far, picking out wedding stuff together, and having someone else with you going through the same that you can talk to.
I got married on 8/21..got back from my honeymoon yesterday...going to Vegas in 10 days for my MOH's wedding...def alot, but her wedding isn't traditional so there was none of the normal bridesmaidy type stuff..
Mine aren't as close as 2 months. I'm the MOH in a wedding this month, then my wedding in April 2011 and then a BM in a wedding most likely October 2011. I've had a blast since they are as excited to talk about details as I am.
One of my bridesmaids is getting married September 17th and our date is November 21st this year. My date was sent 11 months before hand, she had 30 days to plan her wedding. (they are actually have a sacramental marriage) (2 years ago was married by JOP and now having a church wedding) But all the same planning her is just condensed.
I wouldn't be too worried, but it would depend on their personality.
I was the BM in my close friend's wedding - hers was a month ago and mine is in 3 weeks. 2 of her BMs are also BMs in my wedding (including her). I asked everyone to be in my wedding before she was even engaged so they all knew what they were getting themselves into! However the 2 BMs are now complaining (to me) about how they are broke and blah blah blah......
One of my bridesmaids got married on July 31st. I will be my MOH's MOH at her wedding in March.
I am getting married April 30th and one of my BMs just got engaged and will be married just a month and a half later...on June 18th and i will be a BM in her wedding. We have both been waiting for over 6 years so there are only happy feelings for each other! We have had fun sharing ideas and shopping together!
I am a MOH in a wedding about two months before my own and I wish that I weren't in the situation. Not only am I not close to the person I am being MOH for but I feel like her wedding problems (awful future in-laws) are really sucking the fun out of my process. Most days I feel pretty selfish for feeling this way but there are a number of issues that are compounding my stress. Unfortunately I made her my MOH in response to her "generosity" and now I am really regreting the decision. All of this because our weddings are just a few months apart.
In all honesty it is a very stressful way to plan a wedding and I would seriously consider all the issues around your situation. Consider how much time and effort you are putting into the wedding, travel distance, employment, education (kids or fiance in school?), and her current situation. I have found issues with all of these are making me really hate the situation.
**Note to readers: I was originally going to be unable to attend her wedding due to my location and about two months ago she told me I was going to be her MOH no exceptions. Her fiance is making the situation miserable on everyone and I feel her making me MOH was a last ditch effort to "force" her fiance into being more "cooperative" Travel expenses, employment, my fiance's schedule, and my own wedding planning are making this even more of a nightmare. Moral to the story: make sure you feel comfortable with making the commmittment (or if they "insist" back out promptly). I have a feeling this is going to end up being very hard on our friendship.
I think if you at least give her the option, she can make that decision. Don't be offended if she says no or does say yes, but then gets a little stressed. Try to keep in mind she will be getting married before you. As soon as she does she will be able to relax and then enjoy yours!
My MOH is getting married in May 2011 (about 2.5 mo after me). She set her date after I asked her to be MOH so I guess she didn't think it was too much :) Even if she'd already set the date though I'd have still asked her and given her the option.
One of my bridesmaids is getting married a month after me. I'm also one of her bridesmaids.
I have a bridesmaid getting married 2 weeks before I am and haven't had any issues about it. I'm not asking them to do too much though, so it's not a big deal to me. She picked her date after I had already asked her to be a part of our wedding. It's been fun to have someone to chat with about the planning
My MOH got married one week after my wedding. I'm not gonna lie, it was pretty stressful at times (we had to rearrange our honeymoon so I could be her MOH), but looking back I think it's neat that we got married one week apart, in the same church.
Yup one of my MOH's is getting married a month after and then her reception is three weeks after that and i'm one of her bm's, another bm is getting married june 2011 i'm a bm in hers, and another is getting married july 2011 and i'm bm in hers as well!
One of my BMs is getting married the month after me! we aren't going on our Honeymoon till the following spring so no need to rearrange anything. We have been helping each other out with a lot of our projects I actually like having someone to talk wedding to who actually cares and understands.
One of my BM's is getting married 3 weeks to the day after me. So far it has been fun swapping emails about ideas, sales, and stress! The only thing that has been a little stressful is dealing with colors - she is doing purple and I am doing purplish pink. She selected her colors before me, but my wedding is before hers so I am trying to be careful and not upset her by being too similar.
My best friend and MOH got married in two weeks ago and I am getting married in two months. I was in her wedding as well. No problems/issues for us but you both have to be understanding the of time commitment to your own wedding versus their wedding.
One of my BMs is getting married about a month and a half before me and I am also one of her BMs. Her wedding is also in another city about a 12 hour drive or an hour and a half flight away too, but our FI's are best friends so we wouldn't miss it for the world, even though it's cutting close to our date which we had planned first ;)
My MOH was just proposed to last Monday! Her FI told me that he bought the ring about a month before my FI proposed, and he finally got around to giving it to her :)! She'll be getting married about a month after me. I am SO excited to plan things with her. We're going to go dress shopping for her Thursday and we're working on some DIY signs for me Tuesday. I can't wait! 
I'm a bridesmaid in a wedding 3 weeks after my own. It doesn't bother me right now. I asked her to be in my wedding, too, but because my wedding is a destination wedding while hers is in our local area, I totally understood why she declined to be my bridesmaid.
One of my BMs is getting married Oct 23rd and I'm her MOH (I'm getting married Nov 20th). She asked me hypothetically speaking if being a MOH in her wedding would be too stressful for me :-)
I've got ya all beat! haha In my case my best friend had gotten engaged back in Feb. and then spent several months trying to find a venue in Portland but couldn't find anything. Well then I got engaged in July and have known since I was little that I want to get married on my parents farm by the river but I told the BF that she could pick her date first since she had been engaged longer. She ended up decided that the farm would be a special place for her too since she practically grew up there too and asked if she could get married there too, I said sure but I want to be the first one married there....long story short since we both have half of the same bridal party who also are out of state we decided that she would get married the week after! She's (one of) my maids of honor and I am (one of) hers! So far it has been fun bouncing ideas off each other and doing research! And our weddings are turning out completely different in every way, from colors to food so that makes it more interesting. To top it all off another one of my bridesmaids is getting married a month later and I am in her wedding too. Needless to say I think I have permenant wedding brain going on!
My good friend and BM is getting married three weeks before me, and I am also a BM in her wedding.
She was engaged before me and had her wedding date set for a while before I did; once I got engaged, I actually sat down and talked with her about what would be doable so we could both be in each others weddings. We have always had the running joke that we're twins/soul sisters/what have you.. we both knew we wanted spring/summer weddings, both are self-funding our own weddings (hence the 2012 date), we even coincidentally have incredibly similar e-rings that we both picked out for ourselves, separetly. That being said, while I'm sure it will be stressful when the time comes, we are both really happy for each other. My FH and I even ended up pushing our planned date back a week (was hoping for 6/09/12.. love my multiples of 3!) so that she would be back from her honeymoon and able to help me out the week leading up to my wedding.
My MOH got married a month before me and it was fabulous!
Ya it was a lot but getting to share the wedding planning experience was amazing!!!! And because we have the same friends we had a dual bachelorette party in NYC!
I would ask her and let her decide whether or not she would like to be involved in your wedding letting her know that you understand if she says no due to her wedding. I would be upset if a good friend didn't ask me due to an assumption I wouldn't want too. My good friend's weddings are important to me no matter what else I have going on in my life at the time!
Good Luck!
One of my BMs is getting married the month before me. I don't foresee this being an issue at all. Originally, she was considering getting married the week before me and even then I don't think it would have been a big deal. She got engaged ~2 months after I did and is lurking on these boards somewhere ;).
I'm a BM in her wedding as well and I don't foresee it causing any problems. We have 2 overlapping BMs, but I wasn't going to give them "tasks" or whatever so it shouldn't be an issue.
I got engaged in April, and since then 5 other people in my 50 person class have gotten engaged and are all getting married next summer! Crazy huh?
One of my MOH is getting married October 2011 and I am getting married April 2011. No issues here. We both are completely different personalities- my colors being Turquoise and Lime Green- hers being Camo.. so we are just having fun planning. I have been helping her and she has been helping me.
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I am the MoH in hers too.. only I won't be a maid!
I was supposed to be a BM in wedding 3 weeks after mine, and she was BM in mine.. but I honestly couldnt spare the time or money to deal with another big wedding so close to mine, and there was drama and disagreements. So I stepped down from hers and suggested she do the same
My MOH is getting married 3 weeks before me. It'll be a busy month but I'm sure everything will turn out great!
Hi,
I just found out my bridemaid is engaged and wants to get married two months before my wedding. My FI and I were recently complaining about financial issues about the wedding. She asked for me to be her bridesmaid. I am super happy for her, however I'm worried this will cause a further strain with our financial issues.
@shutterpeak2122: Is it possible to tell her that you are excited and very happy to her but are worried about the financial aspect of being her bridesmaid? Maybe you two can work things out by her choosing less expensive bridesmaid dresses and having a low-key bachelorette party? Or maybe she would even be willing to pay for the dress?
I'm sorry that you are going through this. :( Weddings can be expensive and it's hard when you are in one and having one all in the same year. I have a BM whose wedding was in Sept. and mine is in Jan. We are being bridesmaids in each other's weddings and I, too, was worried about the finances.
i was engagedd a few months before my brother and close friend but now i have my brothers wedding in may then my close friend in june and then mine finally in september. i couldnt care less because all of our weddings are different and we can talk about the details all we want. finances are taken into account but for friends and family money isnt an issue to me.
I have a bm that is getting married about a month and a half after our wedding and I am also a bm in her wedding
I have two friends (that are also friends) getting married about a month apart from each other. One of them doesn't seem to have a problem with it, and the other one thinks it is absurd and kicked the other girl out of her wedding for upstaging her! So I've seen this (and fortunately stayed out of the drama). When you ask someone, you can say, I know it is clsoe to your wedding, so if you don't want to, I understand!
I will have two ladies in my wedding getting married. My maid of honor and my best friend is getting married a month before me!
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I was just wondering if anyone has BMs getting married within a couple months of your own wedding. I have been wanting to ask one of my close friends to be a BM but she is getting married 2 months before me. Do you think it would be too much going on in a short amount of time? Have any of you gone through this either as a bride or a BM?