(Closed) Anyone have guests at their wedding that didnt give a gift?

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

There’s no polite way to say “Hey! Where’s my gift?”  You just have to let it go.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Just let it go. In your thank you note just say thanks for being a part of your special day, it meant so much that they could be with you, yadda yadda yadda, it’s all good.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Yep! 2 sets of my Mom’s friends did that. So rude! However, I thanked them for their attendance and moved on.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@sharttle: Hmm, if that’s the case, I wonder if you could reference the card itself rather than the contents of a gift inside? Still sticky to ask but if you’re really worried it got lost that might be the best thing to address.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

They might ask you if your thank you card doesn’t mention a gift and they actually did get you one..

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

At my friend’s wedding last fall, her husband’s cousins’ family came  – the parents, all nine kids and SO’s for the older kids. No card, no gift for a group of 14.

 I’m not sure you can do anything? If they didn’t give a card and you ask, they will (hopefully) feel embarrassed. Maybe ask someone close to them – a mutual friend or family member and just express your concern that it got lost rather than directly ask the person.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t think it’s necessarily rude for people to not give a gift.   It’s about people celebrating your special day with you – not receiving presents.   I’m not expecting all of our guests to give us a gift.  Most of them have to travel a fair bit to get to our wedding and just the fact that they put so much effort into being there for us is more than enough of a gift for us.  

If you’re concerned the card/gift may have been lost of misplaced, I would specifically thank them for their presence in your thank you card (i.e.  Thank you so much for spending our special day with us.  We were so happy you made the effort to attend our wedding and loved knowing you were present when we made our vows to each other.  etc….)   If they gave a present, they will probably ask you whether or not you received it as the card clearly does not mention it. 

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

We had a few wedding guests who did not give a gift. One was my uncle and his partner who I am somewhat close to and have a good amount of money. We think they may have just forgotten but of course we never said anything to them – way too rude!! Also, it isnt that big of a deal. At first you think it is and then you realize it just doesnt matter that much.

Actually our other guests, our flower girl’s parents, didnt get us anything but I dont think we ever noticed. Two days ago we received a Crate and Barrel package from them with some of our registry silverware and they said in the card that they totally forgot but wasn’t it fun to get a surprise gift? And yes, it was!

Post # 12
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Helper bee

I don’t think it’s rude not to give a gift if you can’t afford it but I do think it’s rude not to give a card.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Weddings, and all their associated celebrations, are not gimmes for gifts. Technically, gifts are not expected, and it would be rude to think otherwise.

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