Post # 1
Hey guys! FI’s brother has said he won’t stand in our wedding unless he can wear his uniform after FI explained to him that it’s important to us for him to wear a tux since FI and all the other groomsmen will be in tuxes.
I’ve tried googling it, but I can’t find pics of one or two groomsmen in uniforms with the groom in a tux? I’m just worried about FI not standing out in pics and I’d like to see what it looks like. I would really appreciate it!
Post # 3
Honestly, I haven’t seen it and I see where you are coming from. If FI’s brother gave you an untimatum I think he has this whole wedding thing backward. It is your guys’ wedding. Not his. He doesn’t get to dictate what he wears. If you guys don’t want it and he wont stand without it, I would just say that he made his choice and isn’t going to be in the WP. A wedding isn’t about the military so it isn’t necessary that he wear it. And yes, it would make him stand out more than the other guys! So, like I said, his brother has a choice. Wear the tux or be a guest.
Post # 4
I found these 2.. one on the knot and another from another bee post
Post # 5
I have not ever seen that at a wedding. After seeing the pics amnystik just posted my eye goes straight to the men in uniforms (not even to the bride). I can understand he is proud and he should be but he will really overshadow your FI. That is just my opinion though.
Post # 6
My brother in law made my SO (his brother) not wear his uniform. He was pissed for a little while but he got over it and wore a tux. And they looked great. If he wants to match, tell him to tell his brother to get a tux or step down. As a guest there would be no problem with him wearing his dress uniform.
Post # 7
@amnystik Thanks for finding those pictures!
Guys…I can’t even described how pissed I am. I really wanted a uniform (no pun intended) look. I really appreciate everyone’s responses.
Post # 8
Did you talk to him about getting a tux or stepping down? Please let us know what happens.
Sending good thoughts your way–I hope he takes it well.
Post # 9
Could there be a compromise? Could he wear his uniform for part of the day and a tux for another part? I really think there is a compromise that can be reached here, but you will both just have to move your ground a little.
What branch of service is he in? The photo below is Marine, and it goes well with the tuxes. White for the Navy sticks out a bit more.