Post # 1
I’m getting married in a church. Traditionally when you see church weddings the bride and groom face the minister during the ceremony. I don’t want everyone to stare at my back!! Has anyone turned things around? Had the minister on a lower level and have his back to all the guests? Has anyone faced the guests? I would love to see photos!
Post # 3
I think I’d be distracted if I could see everyone, hehe.
Post # 4
A friend of mine did that a few years ago. It was great. It would also be better for photos of your ceremony. I may think about this and see if my FI and ministers will do this.
Post # 6
I have been to one wedding where this was done and I loved it! It makes so much more sense to let MOST of the people see you take your vows, instead of just the pastor, imo.
Post # 7
I’ve been to a wedding where the minister stood off to the side. That was nice…
Post # 8
This is what FFIL often does when he officiates. That way everyone can see your faces. Also, I’ve seen where you have guests sit on the opposite side from normal as in Jewish weddings so that you can see the person’s face (like if you’re the bride’s friend/family, you can see her face instead).
Post # 9
We’re facing each other, with our officiant in the middle, facing the guests. That way no body sees anybody’s back (and we get to look at each other the whole time). Win-win.
Post # 10
We’re doing the same thing as frugal faye. I want to be looking at my love the entire time!
Post # 11
We plan on doing that during our outdoor ceremony. Our reverend will have his back to the audience (unless he is addressing the guests) and he will be down a step from us.
Post # 12
I’ve seen it done and loved it.
Even if the minister doesn’t move, you can still turn toward each other and kind of face out. Like stage blocking, you can face each other and the congregation at the same time. Kind of 3/4 turn.
If the minister faces you from close to the congragation instead of the altar, there is a chance he could block some guests from seeing one or the other of you. He might have to go pretty far down the aisle to avoid that, and then he has to yell at you to tell you what to say.
To avoid that, you can memorize your vows, and just have the minister prompt you if you forget. I’ve only seen that in weddings with traditional vows, though.
Post # 13
I like it better because most of the time you only see the basically back of one persons head and 1/2 of the other persons face. I’m much rather see the bride and groom than the minister.
Post # 14
I don’t have photos, but I attended a wedding last summer that was set up like this, and I thought it was great. Even FI remarked how cool he thought that was.