Post # 1
im not sure if anyone feels this way but here it goes: so me and my SO are going to wait about a 1 year and a half until we start trying to concieve. and were both young, 22. but i have this really big fear that we wont be able to have children.. i dont know why…. but i do, (o god i hope its not a sign). this would be deverstating if we wouldnt be avle to have children, we wouold be both be heartbroken.. we really dont have health problems, i’ve always had normal predictable periods and my last papsmere (about 2 yrs ago) everything was good. so i nkow its probably more psychological but still it really gets to me sometimes. oh please ease my worries 🙁
Post # 3
This has also always been a worry of mine…I wouldn’t go as far as to say its a fear because there are other options. Fiance wants kids RIGHT away and I’m saying “no not until 5 years” or so. But yeah its sometimes in the back of my head.
Post # 4
OMG, honey I am right there with you! The reason I have these fears? Well, I kind of feel like in the past there may have been some “whoopsie” moments, but nothing ever happened. I’m sure I am just being over reactive, however I too would be sooooooo devestated if I found out i could not have children either.
Post # 5
I have this worry too! No worries and I’m 20! I think it is just a common worry for girls who really want to be moms…but not everyone shares. Know that you are not alone and you’ll most likely be just fine when the time comes.
Post # 6
sometimes I worry too. I was on BC for a couple years and I know BC was just doing what it was supposed to, but sometimes I think “If I didn’t get pregnant then, I dont know if I will when it’s time!” Totally irrational, but sometimes I just feel like that’s my luck (or lack thereof)! I think it’s a pretty common thing to worry about.
Post # 7
im soooo relieved to hear that i’m not alone in feeling this way! i know we all are probably worrying for nothing, but i guess its just something you want so bad thats when your worst fears come out.
Post # 8
I felt that way! I felt like I hadn’t always been great on BC and the fact that it never happened made me wonder….but then you learn that getting pregnant is not as easy as they make it seem when you are 16 🙂 And there is SO much attention on fertility these days it can be hard not to think about. All that said, I am now 15 weeks pregnant – so worried for nothing!
Post # 9
Everyone has this worry, but actually I think only like 10% of people really do have this problem. Read that somewhere…cant remember where.
Also, please understand that miscarriages are common. Ive had one and I have a gorgeous baby girl. Ive probably had more than one, but didn’t know. People that have 1 or 2 miscarriages automatically assume they wont be able to get pregnant, but that’s simply not the case.
The worst thing you can do for your body is worry (well aside from the obvious). So, just relax and know that if you are meant to conceive, you will. If not, there are other options.
Dont sweat it ladies!
Post # 10
Like @dumpling said infertility problems are not that common. Also the important thing to do after a miscarriage is just to wait to let your body “reset” before trying to become preggers again. :o)
But I think a lot of women have this fear, just because it’s a scary thing!
Post # 11
I actually think it is fairly common for women to have a fear or even the slightest fear that you may have toruble getting pregnant. I know I had this fear but there was no evidence to show that it could be a possibility. I think if your Mom had troubles then you could possibly have the same trouble depending on the circumstance. I know my SIL had trouble but they expected it because her Mom and Aunt all had this cyst problem which she ended up having as well.
I wouldn’t worry too much about it. Maybe at your next Gyno appt, you can have your doctor let you know whether you are healthy to have children. It may ease your mind a bit,
Post # 12
I feel the same way. When I stop and think how long I have been on BC (I’m almost 28… started 15 to regulate my period… that’s 13 years!), that I’m not regular without it and overweight so I worry that I will have issues. At my last OB appointment, I asked about what steps I should take to prepare and she said walk and take folic acid. Since I avoid citrus fruit because of my heart burn issues, she thought it would be good to start getting extra. So that’s my plan for after the wedding… take folic acid!
Post # 13
I think this is a common worry, as others have said. I know I sometimes think about it…my grandmother had a really hard time conceiving, and was lucky to have my mother after years of trying. My mother had four children though with no problems, so I’m hoping that I’ll be fine too. We’re going to start trying in about 5 months so I’m keeping my fingers crossed.
Post # 14
@ChampagneWishes – I had that exact same fear since i was on the pill for 10 years. Within the month of stopping the pill (after the wedding) I became pregnant. I at least thought it would have slowed down the process a few months. Nope 🙂
Post # 15
I worry, too, however I have endometriosis (which is currently dormant) and it could come back. I’ve had follicle counts done via vaginal ultrasound and I am definitely on the low side of what most women have. It helps to know that if i DO have a problem, I know what we’re facing and what can be done to help me have a baby.
And keep in mind–just b/c you have trouble getting pregnant doesn’t mean there aren’t ways to help facilitate that. There is mini-IVF, IVF, and a bunch of other advacned reproductive techniques. From what my doctor said, very few women nowadays are completely 100% barren and can’t have children even with a doctor’s help. Don’t get me wrong, it’ll cost about 10K plus, but by the time most people go towards these routes, they’re in their late 20’s or early 30’s and have been saving since they started trying. They have payment plans and everything, too.
I’ve come to the realization that if i can’t get preggo by the time i’m 30 (i think we’ll start trying when i’m 26), then ART’s are the way to go.
Post # 16
I had the exact same fear and ended up getting pregnant the first time that we really didn’t use any protection.
I think we spend so many years worrying and trying not to get pregnant that its very hard to believe that it will happen that easily.
The worse thing that you can do is worry about as we all know stress will only make it harder. I would just give yourself a time period where you are going to not use protection and have fun with it. Once you get into that cycle of taking a pregnancy test every week you will start stressing yourself out about it and worrying more.